[mzhk]

I know I put myself in the position yesterday? But I'm still confused on how it all happened so quickly? There is this guy that's been hounding me to " hang out ". We don't know know each other? I thought throw on sweat pants and huge shirt? Act a bit loud and not girly? 20 minutes in? He'd excuse himself and leave? Next thing I knew? I wasnt thinking. I should of grabbed a cab home? Instead, I got in his Lincoln Town car? He drives around in circles for a while? He drives me to the lake? seriously start
to HIT on me. Extremely handys so I tell him " Im not ready for whatever it is that your thinking of "?. He says " sorry, I cant help it ". Then, drives me out of there goes into another part of town ONCE again to another lake ...then throws himself at me once again....kissing me in places? then he sticks his finger inside me...starts kissing me again :S I tell him.." I cant I just c an't".
After this? he whips out his penis and says " look what you did.. you made me so hard ". :S I tell him he did it to himself! then he leans over and kisses me AGAIN! whispers" I want you so bad ". Starts up trying to get back down my pants again! puts his finger in me AGAIN!! ( I donno what was wrong with me...my head was shouting this is wrong...I was repeating GET out of there... but strangely? I was MOANING while telling him GET OUT OF THERE )
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Afterwards, he gets out... but ends up masterbating in front of me. Then says it took so much to have self control? :S He really wanted me right there... how the heck does sweat pants and massive T shirt say WELCOME f** me? After the entire thing? he drives me home.. on the way home he went REALLy quiet. When he drove me home? He ends up saying he's sorry for throwing himself on me? Hopes I don't hate him....

Entire thing was just confusing! First he treats me like a guy friend? Then he bumps it into booty call request mode? Afterwards,?? he texts me from midnight til 5am wanting to know what I am doing? if im ok? ( sorry for the massive long story ) this isn't something you can gossip to friends about... I could use another female opinion

[mzhk]

****it I meant hand'ie as in touchy. instead I write handy.. he wasn't handy!

[effy2014]

Permit me to give you a guy's perspective. It was not a date -- he wanted to "hang out" with you for the purpose of having sex. It had nothing to do with what you were wearing or how you were acting. The man is a preditor and you were his prey. You were fortunate not to have been raped, although putting his finger inside of you and exposing himself to you without your consent were probably crimes.

You always have the right to say no -- at any time for any reason. He forced himself on you and then congratulated himself on his self control. Stay away from this man. If you hang out again, he will assume that you have given consent to whatever he wants to do, no matter what you say at the time.

A real man who wants a real relationship with you will not hurry to have sex. Learning about one another is part of the journey to enjoy.

[Baboy]

What you described is a very serious sexual assault in just about any jurisdiction. Go to the police. As well, it sounds as though Mr. Lincoln Town car might just have assets and not be a man of straw. I would hire an attorney (maybe on a contingency fee basis) and sue for the tort of sexual assault and battery. You are entitled to a significant award of damages. This guy needs to be taught a lesson. If you do not do the things I advise, he won't change and others will be hurt.

Sorry this is not a "female" opinion, but I doubt many females here will simply tell you to get over it. I hope not.

[mzhk]

effy2014 - THANK YOU!!! This has been bothering me. I've been up since 5am confused wth to call yesterday as. Yeah, your totally right he seems like he was looking for a bootycall out of me. I just couldn't do it!! I can't let a guy put his equipment in without me knowing him well enough. I don't even know if he has a middle name... or his relationship history. He kept dusting the past relationship question off too. Basically, sounds like I need to block the dude..

[mzhk]

block him out of my life ** ahh I don't want to become famous in my town because of this. A male prespective is even better. Im not complaining... I just wanted to get a clear answer to what to make of what happened yesterday.

[Claret]

He obviously wasn't looking to get to know you better, all he wanted was to get his rocks off. I think anybody would have done if they were available. (Sorry don't mean to sound like you aren't a wonderful person in your own right) but it is what it was, just a booty call. If he honestly had thoughts about getting to know you, he wouldn't have driven you to a secluded area -- twice.

It sounds as if he knew if he went any further it would be rape and that is probably the only reason why he didn't rape you, he knew he'd be caught.

My advise for what it's worth - stay away from him.

[Baboy]

It's up to you whether you want to become famous. Living in a small town makes matters more difficult than in an anonymous big city. I advised you, as did effy, that you are the victim of criminal behavior. Also what attorneys call tortious behavior.

If you decline to take action, this predator gets away with it, free to strike again. That he will is a near certainty. After all, he got away with it this time. Doing nothing reinforces the notion that his actions come without consequences. Very sad.

[atskitty2]

If you declined his advances and he continued, that was at the least sexual assault, and I agree you should go to the police.
You probably aren't the first, and certainly won't be the last. He said "I can't help it". He can't control himself, and likely he will advance to rape, beyond assault.

I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm sure it was a traumatic experience. Help yourself by getting the authorities involved and seeking some counseling.
Keep us posted dear.

[DreamP346]

This is the definition of rape set by the FBI in the US and punishable as a crime:

"Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim"

What you experienced was rape. This man was not looking for a booty call. He was looking for a victim. Most rapist rape because they enjoy the power, not because they got horny and things got out of control. A booty call would be him trying to seduce you. What he did was forcibly violate you despite your rejection. That is sexual assault. And the fact he put his finger inside of you is rape.

So where do you go from here? First of all, completely block him from your life. Do not make any friendly conversations and definitely do not say "it was OK." I would suggest to confide in a trusted family member or friend. You may even want to speak to a rape counselor.

Second, consider if you want to bring up charges. This is obviously a difficult thing to do. That is why i suggest talking to a rape counselor. They will help you through making the decision and what the consequences of that decision will be.

I am so sorry you had to live through this. Not all men are like this, but a very very small portion of them.