[jen1447]

Based on some recent comments from oral sex enthusiasts like SumSum and others, I'm curious to know what share of the oral sex workload people carry in their relationships. For me, when I'm with BF it's roughly 95% receiving and 5% giving, with women more like 60% giving and 40% receiving. What about you? Is it 'fair?' If not, is that lack of fairness okay with you or are you missing out, overworked, etc.? Are you a big fan or is it not an A list sex item? Please share.

I love (LOVE!) receiving (both vaginal and anal, and from both men and women), and I LOVE-LOVE-LOVE! giving to women (both vaginal and anal). Men not so much with penises, but it's okay. Never anal for guys, ever, never ever.

[Patti-here]

We share, it's 50- 50 with us both, 'vaginal and anal' and I did see a question before about kissing after oral anal, of course we do, that was just a silly question

[bubba29]

i am a married man. i luv giving and receiving, including anal. it's about 80/20 me giving. i know it is the best way to get my wife into it when much of the time she could do without sex.

[Elena_EvilEye]

I carry the bulk of the Oral sex workload I give around 80% and I receive around 20% with my hubby. It isn't fair but I'm not too bothered with it, I do prefer him giving me cunnilingus as it's more pleasurable for me and I don't do much work, my hubby has to do the work. My philosophy is in the bedroom the hubby has to do the majority of work when things get physical to pleasure me. Since If I do the cooking and half the housework then it's fair if he does the majority of the work in bedroom while I relax and enjoy

For me sucking his ding-dong can sometimes be enjoyable as it can feel like sucking the sweetest lollipop on earth where as other times it is OK but not that good, my hubby tries to reassure me by saying "Imagine you are enjoying a Big White Sausage" which kind of puts me off.

[kira]

I wasn't a fan of oral because with my past boyfriends I kept getting vaginal infections after it. I'm not sure why. My husband though loves giving oral and it actually turns him on better than anything I could do. After seeing that nothing bad came of it I like it now.

I have major issues with things being clean down there when I give oral. I have a sensitive nose and taste. Just guys going around for the day in clothes creates enough yucky taste... kind of like old sweat even if they haven't been sweating. I would give oral after showers but my husband quit asking for it and I'm not sure how to offer it. We also usually aren't in the mood for sex right after a shower or he showers in the morning before work while I'm still asleep. It's just restricted the time I'm willing to give oral to the point it doesn't happen. It's not like we're having any problems and aren't going to be together for awhile so I figure the time will come that it gets worked back in to our sex routine.

[effy2014]

It's 75% giving for me and 25% receiving. That's just about equal for me since I get as much pleasure from cunilingus and analingus as she does. In her defense, at 55, I'm good for one orgasm in a "session", so she has to choose between intercourse or giving me oral to completion. She does enjoy giving as well.

[Baboy]

Ahhh, a "workload" indeed, Jen. Just one of those chores to which one must attend, however unpleasant it might be. It's usually on my list, along with take out the trash, cut the grass, wash the car, stain the back deck, etc. For some us us guys, a man's work is never done.

Kidding aside, we are in the 95/5 ratio as well. I give to my wife almost always, she only on occasion. But that is by design. My wife loves it, she can orgasm more than once during oral, and orgasm again with intercourse within minutes. For me, to say I "give" my wife oral sex might be a misnomer. I feel like she's the one giving me the joy of getting so close to that precious part of her.

I am the recipient only about 5% of the time. She's happy to give much more and has no hangups about semen, swallowing, etc. She says she likes it and she does so in a convincing way. She backs up those words with a convincing, enthusiastic performance when I agree to it. I like it, but overall I like better coming in her cute little p....y. That's what she likes too. Unlike some here who ask about how to get that stuff out of their vagina as soon as possible, my wife says she tries to hold it in as long as possible as a happy reminder of a good time. How's that for appreciation?

[kira]

My problem with not pushing semen out and wiping it off is that it then leaks down to my butt and dries in to glue. Having my butt glued together is not really comfortable. It gets itchy too. Then there's the growing wet spot on the bed. Although sometimes I roll on to my husband's side of the bed so he can enjoy his efforts.

[effy2014]

I did see a question before about kissing after oral anal, of course we do, that was just a silly question

Funny, I am too self conscious about it. I will clean up before kissing her after analingus.

[Baboy]

kira, I have read that on here and observed other women I have been with, although not offended by semen, simply want it gone for sort of reasons you describe.

I have not questioned my wife closely about why she takes the attitude she does. In fact, I have resisted the temptation to ask just what technique(s) she employs to retain my baby batter. It makes me feel good to hear her say that it makes her feel closer to me to hold it, and I fear I might to something akin to spoiling the moment if I press for details.