[Magnetism]

Some people project their own preferences unto others. Some people see sex as just ****ing and getting off. I agree that the mind, our senses, sensual tension, eye contact, and everything makes the ultimate experience.

[jen1447]

I suspect your therapist was just concerned that you were being a doormat. It's easy to conclude that someone who never gets is doing all the giving, not to mention that the situation isn't uncommon traditionally with men and women, the men being the getters, which plays to the familiar exploited woman scenario. I doubt she was making a judgment on what type of sexual activities you should enjoy.

[Magnetism]

I don't feel it's being a doormat. I see it as being in control and honoring what turns me on. I feel like giving oral puts the receiver in a very vulnerable position. I stopped seeing her, because she gave some destructive relationship advice, committed fraudulent billing, texted during sessions and revealed her client's identity to me. When I chose not to see her, she suggested doing phone sessions with me to keep me as a client. Phone sessions aren't ethical to my knowledge.

[jen1447]

Sure, if she was deficient, fire her by all means. I don't think you're being a doormat either and I understand where you're coming from perfectly, but I think she may have just thought that being in a giving only relationship meant being a doormat or something like it.

[effy2014]

She was concerned about me GIVING. She also said, "Nothing is being done to you." I said, "My body experiences sensations while giving oral." She said, "I never heard of that" and laughed. I told her that her comments are making anxious, because I felt that she was making me feel abnormal.

Glad you got rid of her. She sounds like an idiot. She should read the threads here about cunilingus and male sexual satisfaction. Why wouldn't it be the same for women?

[Magnetism]

She was good in the sense where she helped me process a friend's death and some job transitions (which is why I saw her). I went off topic and revealed too much. Maybe sex just wasn't her specialty. Oooh..I got to look up threads on cunilingus and male satisfaction.

[Magnetism]

Out of curiosity, who in here considers oral sex "sex" or do you only see vaginal penetration as sex? One deal breaker I would have is being with a man that didn't see oral sex as sex.

[bootsie]

I do,oral sex is sex,because it's consider part of a sex act at least what I have been told.What oral would be sex?

[effy2014]

I'm not sure I understand "deal breaker" issue. From an intimacy standpoint, vaginal penetration is just one of many acts that I would consider "sex". Cunilingus is certainly an intimate sexual act as is fellatio. The same can be said for anal penetration and analingus. But to answer your question, oral sex is indeed sex.

[Romy]

I definitively think oral sex is sex.