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  • Romy
    Veteran Member
    • Jan 2014
    • 339

    SO not looking their best - does it put you off?

    So every now and again even after a year of laser hair removal every month all over my body I'll have a couple of stray hairs come through. I hate it and worry my SO will be repulsed (though he's always assured me he doesn't care if there's pubic hair or not) and says the stray hairs don't bother him but unless my pubic area is completely hair free I'm not happy and worry it will be a turn off. Probably all in my head but I wonder do any of you, maybe in your head, think "yuck" if your partner's grooming isn't perfect or are you just happy to have sex?
  • effy2014
    Veteran Member
    • Apr 2014
    • 1777

    My SO is far more concerned then I am about her grooming down there. She waxes (way better then shaving, in my opinion), but the hair needs to grow back a bit before the next waxing. If she is busy and misses a week or two, the hair is very fine and still very close. I find it attractive but she will always ask if its gross.

    I'm in the "I'm happy every time she lets me go down on her" bucket, so the hair really doesn't matter unless I choke on it. Even then, I can live with it just fine. The nector of the gods.
    "The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"

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    • Stillness
      WH Poster of the Month April 2017
      • Feb 2012
      • 3679

      If this is a general question, yes. Grooming is important.

      If it's about pubic hair, no.
      "Those sowing seed with tears
      Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126

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      • jen1447
        Veteran Member
        • Oct 2013
        • 2380

        A stray hair isn't an issue, but a forest of stray hairs is. Perspective, Ms. Romy!

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        • Baboy
          Veteran Member
          • Aug 2012
          • 774

          Originally posted by Romy
          I wonder do any of you, maybe in your head, think "yuck" if your partner's grooming isn't perfect or are you just happy to have sex?

          As famous philosopher (who I'll not name, at the risk of violating attribution rules) once observed, most guys will take just about any opportunity to "tap some poon", so no need to get one's knickers in a twist about not meeting a standard of perfection.

          But seriously Romy, I think I can fairly say your SO will not be even so slightly put off by any "stray hairs". A former gf used to shave regularly and usually thoroughly. But sometimes not; it would grow out a little or a lot. Made no difference to me however presented. Sometimes her shave job would be more rushed and less meticulous, so there would be some refugee hairs about. Again, not something that put me off in the least. If anything, it just proved that she was a real woman and not something out of a retouched photo.
          I do not grow old; if I stop growing, I am old.

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          • bubba29
            Senior Member
            • Feb 2013
            • 116

            Originally posted by Romy
            So every now and again even after a year of laser hair removal every month all over my body I'll have a couple of stray hairs come through. I hate it and worry my SO will be repulsed (though he's always assured me he doesn't care if there's pubic hair or not) and says the stray hairs don't bother him but unless my pubic area is completely hair free I'm not happy and worry it will be a turn off. Probably all in my head but I wonder do any of you, maybe in your head, think "yuck" if your partner's grooming isn't perfect or are you just happy to have sex?
            please don't worry yourself about some stray hairs. i would be put off by my SO if they stopped trying to look and be sexy for me. that is obviously not you. you are making continued effort to remain or become more attractive for your SO. that is all we could ask for.

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            • a_dub
              Veteran Member
              • Dec 2011
              • 514

              Originally posted by Baboy

              As famous philosopher (who I'll not name, at the risk of violating attribution rules) once observed, most guys will take just about any opportunity to "tap some poon", so no need to get one's knickers in a twist about not meeting a standard of perfection.

              But seriously Romy, I think I can fairly say your SO will not be even so slightly put off by any "stray hairs". A former gf used to shave regularly and usually thoroughly. But sometimes not; it would grow out a little or a lot. Made no difference to me however presented. Sometimes her shave job would be more rushed and less meticulous, so there would be some refugee hairs about. Again, not something that put me off in the least. If anything, it just proved that she was a real woman and not something out of a retouched photo.
              Yeah, I'm certain he's just happy to smack clam and enjoy some quality cooch. Very few guys are that picky. Heck even I'd let a stray hair slide here and there if she was a dime.

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              • Ashlee T.
                Veteran Member
                • Dec 2008
                • 6412

                I've always shaved. But, I have found that most guys enjoy seeing a woman in her natural state at times. I'm not talking to the point of a rainforest (though some do certainly enjoy that too!), but so you didn't shave for a few days and had some visible hair growth? I think most guys are turned on by the idea of spontaneous sex that you haven't planned and prepped for. Some of my hottest moments were when I hadn't even showered that day, was self conscious that I'd be hairy or smell, but he just loved it. No complaints. Don't sweat the small stuff gal.
                "Be what you're looking for."

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                • jen1447
                  Veteran Member
                  • Oct 2013
                  • 2380

                  Beautiful's back!

                  Every time you pop back in I always say "this time it's for good!" and feel glad in my heart, but then you break all our hearts again and run off! Stay, girlfriend!

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                  • Ashlee T.
                    Veteran Member
                    • Dec 2008
                    • 6412

                    I'm back! I FINALLY finished my MBA program and will no longer be a slave to the grind 80 hours a week. Now, I can work a normal 40 and call it a week! I've been looking forward to being back.
                    "Be what you're looking for."

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