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No, I mean it. You put up with a lot from him. The "WOW" was not showing emotion when having your sexual desires satisfied. I am rather expressive during and appreciative later. My SO has never had to ask that particular question . . . ."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"Comment
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I often feel the need to ask after whatever it was, if it was OK...
"what do you think" or "uhuh" are not sufficient answers to this type of question. What do you think is his problem?“...choose to believe in your own myth
your own glamour
your own spell
a young woman who does this
(even if she is just pretending)
has everything....”
― Francesca Lia Block, How to (Un)cage a GirlComment
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Though I can't take Jen's place, I have two theories, neither of which may be accurate. First, he may be lost within himself. What you are doing may take his mind somewhere that he is concentrating on that rather than being expressive.
Second, he may just be too embarrassed to show pleasure from it. You described the fetish as being a bit "out there" -- he may need you to do it but there may also be shame that he needs it."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"Comment
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He does come across a bit like a petulant child. Relationships are about compromise and respecting the other person's feelings. Of course we only get one side of the story here but it sounds like he's had more than his fair share of sexual pleasures with you - I just hope it's been returned. I hope he comes to understand how good he's got it.Comment
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I agree with this statement LilahX, relationships suppose to be respectful for both not one sided. If I even attempted to do what i read here to my wife. I am pretty sure my voice would be in a very higher tone this would not feel good for my self.He does come across a bit like a petulant child. Relationships are about compromise and respecting the other person's feelings. Of course we only get one side of the story here but it sounds like he's had more than his fair share of sexual pleasures with you - I just hope it's been returned. I hope he comes to understand how good he's got it.When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.Comment
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I think he's trying to manipulate you.
Do you think the two of you are compatible in bed?
By the time a partner "dares" to ask for something you're not doing, he/she already though of that a lot. If one is always asking for things and the other is always denying, I'd think they're incompatible.
The one denying is getting it his/her way, while the one wishing for something else is frustrated.
Perhaps while you were writing your post, he was writing another one, something like "how do I get my lover to do...?"Comment
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