[jen1447]

To Jen1447 please PM me with any info you can to help me out. If you can point us to a way for her to anal orgasm you will be my sole beneficiary of my pitiful will way down the road.

HH, there's quite a few anal threads on here, just search for them. I've talked about it a bit I think, tho I'm really not an expert. I do enjoy oral/anal tho, but I don't often orgasm from that alone - it's more of a recreational activity or akin to a massage.

Forget the books and videos btw unless you want to become The Love Doctor or something ....just tune into your woman's body language, experiment a lot, and stick with what makes her toes curl. Seriously, people psyche themselves out about sex so much .....it's easy to be a bad lover but it's not actually hard to be a good one, particularly with couples (as opposed to all-or-nothing one night stands and the like) where you have lots of time to work on it and a partner who won't (or shouldn't) judge you if you're not 100%. Just be totally giving and considerate, respect her body, get to know it, and learn what it likes.

[ItsASecret]

What works for you? is it firm hard pressure on the clit, or manual g-spot stimulation, etc.? Also, is your partner good at it?

Very firm direct pressure only on the clit, and only my fingers as he cannot mimic the pressure nor can he go for as long as it has to. I have orgasms one single time with his fingers on my g-spot but we have tried it numerous times later with no luck so maybe it was just a nice one time thing lol.

My partner is more of a sex should be instantly started type guy. He will do foreplay and enjoy it, and I enjoy it too, but you can see he just wants to get going. I try to explain all the time that I am not like a light switch being instantly aroused or wet, but he seems to think if he is instantly ready I should be lol. He also tends to get upset quite often that I am not a girl who responds to oral. He will always say things like "why don't your hips move?" or "why don't you grab my head and move around in bed a lot" or "why don't you talk dirty during?". I simply say well I do not respond to oral that way, it just does not give me those feelings so I do not want to fake the response as though it does work. This is true too, oral just does not do it for me so if I was bucking around during it would be a fake response and I do not believe it is wise to fake anything during sex.

[jen1447]

He will always say things like "why don't your hips move?" or "why don't you grab my head and move around in bed a lot" or "why don't you talk dirty during?"

lol, that's so romantic.

I don't think you're actually looking for advice here but let me just say that if my partner was showing the signs you are, I would fix it by drawing the lead-in waaaaay out. I think you just need more effort and time to get worked up, which in my book is actually a good thing.

[sexy brenda]

I wouldn't think of it as resorting to anything ....masturbation is awesome, especially when you do have partnered sex going on at some times too. I think it's actually pretty common that regular sex is not enough for many women.

I did not mean resorting as to meaning instead of. I agree with you, your last sentence is one that I would agree with.