[Moni306]

Well on the video and pics I just feel he doesn't really care for them anymore...if I send something I don't even really get anything like sexy or hot out of it...just a ho hum.

He does like sex but he says since he is older it just takes more to get going is all. In all honesty I think the sex for him is a time to be naughty...not to get close to each other. He does hold me all night though and I do love that as in my first relationship I did not get any affection from my ex. For me...sex is a time for us to explore and have fun and pleasure with each other...that is our time...but when we do I try to go as quickly as I can most of the time as I do know it does take time and effort to please me and lately I can have multiple orgasms almost all of the time now! would love to just relax and let myself just lay back and just take our time with each other. For me sex isn't a job or something I have to do..I love to have his touch and kisses...if I didn't need that it would be easy for me just to say okay and use a vib all the time..but I do. I have told him that I need him to touch and kiss me..that is important and sometimes he does make the effort. I don't think he needs it though as much as I...sex isn't an intimate thing for him anymore I think. I admit when I first found out he was looking at porn allot it did kind of crush me...I wanted to be the one he wanted and desired all the time....I know he still looks but believe it is only a few days a week and not daily anymore. I'm not a prude...I've watched them and before I moved here it was a once in a while thing me and the ex ..then when I found out my now husband was watching it allot I started to also to keep up and then found out I didn't really like looking all the time but by then it was a habit...which I am happy to say I have broken..I may watch it once maybe twice a week now but that is if I'm having to use my vib..which I'm trying to lay off of that so I don't get addicted to that either.
My husband is a good man and I love him...but in sex we are differing on what is and is not important...and some things are more important to me than him...he's happy with how our sex life is. We started out strong and good and just know one day we will get back to where we were! Life has all kinds of ups and downs that affect the sex drive...but we have been kind of off for a while...for me but now him I guess.

[Beckers]

Have you ever tried watching porn together? Since you both do it separately, why not involve each other. That way you wouldn't feel like he doesn't desire you, and he will probably get a huge kick that you like it too.

[Moni306]

We acctually used to watch porn together...but it has been a long time ago!! I think I will try it again to get us back in the same room again :0) He did redeem himself this weekend and hope he will continue!! I will keep you posted on how we are doing which I'm hoping we keep in a positive direction :0)

[Guest]

Hi, Having a higher sex drive than your partner is a common problem for men. I love my partner but she doesn't seem to understand that, because I am healthy, I need the release of sex at least twice a week. Because she lives 15 miles away, and we see each other only twice a week, sometimes it's weeks between sex if she's not in the mood. This weekend we had no sex. It's frustrating. She says she doesn't mind me doing d.i.y, but I've always felt it is so much more natural to release with your partner. I think a man should only release his fluid with his partner. I always feel guilty if I can't wait and have to do d.i.y. She will sometimes play with me for an hour or more in front of the tv, but not this weekend and often I have to ask, which is, even with a long term partner, embarrassing.

[AnnaC]

What a relief!

I am so glad to know its not just me! I'm having a very interesting year! I can't get enough, no plans for risky behavior, but it does come on at the strangest times and is more intense than ever before! I just hope it continues!

[leigh chere]

I am 30 years old and I have resently had an extreme change in my sex drive. I normally would embrace this and enjoy it but my husband is 41 and has virtually no desire to have sex with me so my drive feels more like a curse! I seriously want it all the time, almost like a drug or something. I can even have sex, be satisfied and then want it again 2 hrs later. I would never consider altering my genitalia or taking medication to stop it. That's just crazy. Unfortunetly I dislike my strong desire only because my husbands doesn't match mine.

[WildChild]

I am 30 years old and I have resently had an extreme change in my sex drive. I normally would embrace this and enjoy it but my husband is 41 and has virtually no desire to have sex with me so my drive feels more like a curse! I seriously want it all the time, almost like a drug or something. I can even have sex, be satisfied and then want it again 2 hrs later. I would never consider altering my genitalia or taking medication to stop it. That's just crazy. Unfortunetly I dislike my strong desire only because my husbands doesn't match mine.

Unfortunately I have to say welcome to the club.
There are far more men out there with a low sex drive, than anyone will admit. And far more women with a high drive than most realize. Doesn't seem to be much tobe done with it either way.
Sigh

[jns]

lc: give more details, please. How long have you been married? Did you used to have sex a lot? If you did, why did it slow down? Who wanted sex the least?

[AnnaC]

Is there an age pattern?

I am 49 and within the last 6 months my sex drive has gone through the roof! Is there a pattern related to age? Just curious.

[ilovemyjns24]

tips

i have a high sex drive, always have, but my husband is a "spurt" man, one who wants it for a week to a week and a half sometimes straight, then says he wants me but turns me down for up to 4 weeks. i don't understand how to compensate for this dry spell. i mean, i love my husband and wouldn't want to cheat, but sometimes i just can't stand it, and i'm bored with the very limited knowledge i have about female masturbation. when i look online, all i find is ways with these expensive toys of which i can't afford. is there a way to train the body to want less, or make the few sessions of self love more fulfilling? i'm going stir crazy!!