[WaveRider]

Waverider, you've mentioned that this relationship is not long term, that you sort of suspect that it may be near the end for you. If a threesome isn't your thing, yet you don't wanna hold her back from realizing the fantasy, why not let her go so she can experience it?

I don't quite understand the dynamic of your relationship and I'm not asking you to explain, but generally, it seems your mind is somewhere else on this matter.

And, If you think she is near the end of her sexual prime, lol, be careful with that. She may have this high drive we'll into her retirement.

The simple answer is vacillation. When I'm hanging with her, I enjoy her company and her considerable sexual skills. When I don't see her for a while, I find myself missing her less & less.

It could be that were we to again become boyfriend & girlfriend, we'd do more activities together besides dinner and sex. That could result in an authentic relationship. But I still wouldn't marry her.

As for her sex drive, I do believe you're right. I believe that she'll crave sex for the rest of her life.

[amy40]

waverider, I couldn't make heads or tales of your answer

but maybe it's once bitten, twice shy............you are both soured on marriage perhaps?

[Ashlee T.]

The short answer for me is, No.

I think there are things we like to think about that we don't necessarily truly want to act on. Some fantasies are good to stay fantasies, as acting them out in real life may have unwanted consequences. I know that I'm far too territorial to be okay with a threesome. I think it's important to know what works for YOU personally. So for me, it's a no.

[muffin70]

Hi muffin70,

I've tried to envision my g/f doing another dude in front of me. I know she wants a threesome with another dude. While I can envision the act, I can't predict how it'd change our relationship. She has told me that she's always loved to be naked with men she's dated. Nudity does not bother me in the least. Her naked in front of another dude or dudes wouldn't affect me. I probably could be good watching another dude banging her rains out. Her giving another dude head might, especially if he were to cum in her mouth. She does love to give head. I would probably be good were a dude to have anal sex with her. According to her, she's an anal sex expert. I've never had anal sex with her. I've taken her at her word.

A substantial concern would be STD's. So it'd have to be a dude whom were certain is STD free. That would eliminate a stranger.

My g/f is extremely sexual. I've always encouraged her to explore the boundaries of her sexuality. I'd hate to deny her an experience she desires. Knowing how horny she is, she'd probably want threesomes regularly. This is not BS: she can have sex for hours.

I've know dudes who have shared their wives or girlfriends. It seems that the experience of threesomes enhances relationships.

Maybe I should be the 'other dude' that your g/f does? LOL!
My wife is rarely in the mood for sex and she always complains that we go to bed to late or she's not in the mood or her joints (knee) is sore...etc...
Yet she was upset on Sunday morning when I relieved myself while she was having a shower - I can't win

My fantasy is just that - a fantasy... there's no way she'd entertain having sex with another man... or woman for that matter

[ClaireKay]

Not something i'd consider, not even if i were single.
I'm so not interested in having sex with women and definitely couldn't have sex with a man i'm not in love with (never had a 1 night stand). Both are turn off's, not on's.
Whilst I understand many have such fantasies, I kinda think they're best left that way but it's a personal decision and should only be considered if it's right for all involved.

although I do enjoy having one night stands on a regular basis I have a lot of respect for people who have never had one.

[WaveRider]

Good Morning, ClairKay,

I done with one-nighters. Check CDC STD stats. It's scary. And I don't like the lying BS that goes along with one-nighters.

I don't judge others for their one-nighters. Younger dudes will talk about one-nighter women in disparaging terms. They ain't yet figured out that they couldn't have one-nighters unless women were willing. It's classic pot calling kettle black.

[Stillness]

pettifoggers

I just learned a new word!

[Texasred]

Threesomes only work if no two of them care about each other. Human nature is such that destructive jealousy will rear its head unless it's a purely NSA thing for all concerned.