[FLR-Wife]

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DH has been begging me for years to be head of household, take control of everything in our relationship and lock his junk in a chastity cage. I have slowly taken control of most things and I love how DH does all the chores, serves me whenever I ask for food or drink ,cleans, shops, cooks and defers to me in everything. I actually see this as natural. But now he wants me to lock up his ******** b/c he has a masturbation problem. He wants to worship my body, give me tons of oral, etc. The problem is...I'm not really into more oral--I like it once in a while, for 5 minutes, but he wants to "worship" every day and night for long periods of time. My body just cant take that....He bought a cage and presented me with the keys. WWYD?

[atskitty2]

I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with it. If he has a masturbation problem, ok, I can help support and work through it, but locking it up? That's giving you a sort of responsibility for his issue. He needs to manage his behavior, not anyone else. I'd support and help, but that's a bit more than support, I think.

What sort of masturbation problem does he have?

[FLR-Wife]

I guess it's not a huge problem by itself. He masturbates almost every day, which I feels diverts his sexual attention from me. Sometimes I ask him for sex and at 9, 10 pm he sas he's too tired, but I suspect it's b/c he just masturbated....

[Stillness]

Sounds like you're married to a man that's reverted to something between a child and a slave. You can't be a strong, responsible partner and be weak-willed and childish.

[FLR-Wife]

What's the downside of locking him up, having him continue to do all the chores, give me some more focus? What's the worst that could happen? He's already quite obsequious

[amy40]

What's the downside of locking him up, having him continue to do all the chores, give me some more focus? What's the worst that could happen? He's already quite obsequious

it sounds like you already made up your mind

[FLR-Wife]

Just trying to figure out why I shouldn't. Is he a little childish and immature? Sure--most men are but he's made my life immeasurably better already, maybe it can be even more comfortable, fun and exciting. If he's wants to abide by my rules, can you see any downside?

[Stillness]

I don't understand the concept and only see your situation from a few brief comments, but the potential downside is not having a strong partner and all that comes along with it - intellectual stimulation, challenge, growth through sharpening one another, helping to carry and encourage you during rough times, the joy of giving and serving. It sounds like for all the sexual servitude, he's even coming up short there because of the childishness.

[amy40]

DH does all the chores, serves me whenever I ask for food or drink ,cleans, shops, cooks and defers to me in everything. I actually see this as natural.

does he do all that AND work a job? Or is he retired?

[FLR-Wife]

DH works hard but when he's home, he does shopping, cooking, etc. We have a cleaning lady once a week but DH fills in as well. And he still has free time to watch porn and masturbate. I think a cage can channel all that incredible energy to me. He's brilliant, I love his smart wit and he takes care of me in other ways too....we've had very tough times and he's always very supportive. This is his kink and while I hate kink and fetishes, if it makes him EVEN better than he is, Im just curious if anyone can find a reason not to?