[FLR-Wife]

Our marriage had always been traditional. In fact, when we were first married, I think you'd call me super-traditional, perhaps like our grandmothers. But over time, I've taken more and more control and liked it--this seems like just another "vertical" in my business, like Amazon adding new products back in the day....and I'm the ultimate Amazonian. Neither of us are into pain/sadism; we love eachother completely. We both just want to use chastity to subjugate him further, to worship me even more. It's the ultimate romantic gesture, don't you think?

[amy40]

It's the ultimate romantic gesture, don't you think?

don't think it matters what we think, only matters what you and your husband thinks

[Maisie Dayz]

I'd find it all a bit weird tbh.... I wouldn't like being waited on all the time! He clearly likes being ordered about ... each to their own though

[FLR-Wife]

Thanks for your perspectives. I really do appreciate them before embarking on such a big change to our marriage. Why would you not want to be waited on though? I don't understand. Dont you like going to a resort and having waiters, butlers, etc bringing you drinks, food, etc? Why not at home too?

[amy40]

Actually, no!

we rarely eat at restaurants, would rather eat at home

[jns]

Why would you not want to be waited on though? I don't understand. Dont you like going to a resort and having waiters, butlers, etc bringing you drinks, food, etc? Why not at home too?

There are certain things my wife does for me and certain things I do for her. I don't think of it as I waiting on her and I hope she doesn't think of it as her waiting on me. When people wait on me such as waiters, it is a quid pro quo relationship. That is not the same as in our marriage.

[Stillness]

It's the ultimate romantic gesture, don't you think?

Count me in the "no" crowd. Waiters wait on me at their job for money. They don't worship me or allow me to run their lives.

I'm puzzled as to what exactly you're asking though - or really why you're asking. You want to do something that he wants to do too. Why do other people's opinion matter? Do you have some concerns or fears about this?

[Ashlee T.]

I like being waited on. It's a warm and comfortable feeling (I think because as children, our parents often did this for us). But, I also like to nurture as well. I get fulfillment sometimes out of doing things for him, making him something special, carrying him something I know he's probably wanting so he doesn't have to get up, etc. In other words, it's a give/take for me. I DO enjoy being "serviced", but I also enjoy "servicing". I would not feel good about myself or the relationship if it was entirely one-sided. But that is part of my personality style. We all have our own love language.

[FLR-Wife]

Thank you Beautiful Disaster!

[WaveRider]

Hi FLR-Wife,

I'm not sure what to make of your relationship. I've never heard of such an arrangement, although I'm sure it isn't uncommon.

My guess is that there is an underlying issue with your husband. Maybe regression therapy might be insightful. I've never heard of a man who has relinquished control of his genitalia to a woman.

Based upon my experience, women, for the most part, want to be submissive during sex. They want a man to take control. But then again, women will assume role of aggressor, mostly as a change of routine.

The unknown is how long you'll be good with this arrangement. My guess is it'll get old. Then you'll have to figure out a solution.