[jns]

When you move it takes quite a while to find the best way to get things done and to find all of the places to replace your previous ones. Can you do any workday adjustments to lower your commute times?

[amy40]

Anyway, everything is an absolute mess of beauty for me.

great description
sounds like you are taking things in stride

when will they allow you to work some days at home to save on your commute?

btw, cutting coffee back to decaf tea definitely helped

[atskitty2]

I've adjusted my schedule a bit and will continue until I have my schedule organized to suit myself and accomplish everything within a reasonable time. Getting to The gym, finding a suitable restaurant or shopping and then cooking have left me little time to search for more permanent housing. Adding to the stress, albeit good stress, I had family in from overseas with me for 2 weeks. So, it's just been e crazy time. Those days were spent sightseeing more than anything else. The traffic is the biggest hindrance. The lifestyle is so different, I just couldn't have imagined it was so. I knew it was going to be different but not so drastically different.

I could be working from home more now, but I want to build a good foundation with the staff and mgmt, and get to know them better before I start working at home.

[amy40]

I could be working from home more now, but I want to build a good foundation with the staff and mgmt, and get to know them better before I start working at home.

you're a dedicated, hardworking employee and once you have your schedule squared away you may have more time to dedicate to yourself and finding those specialized grocery stores that every big city has but may be hard to locate

we live in a small town/city and there is a specialized food store in next bigger city; it may just take a while to find them where you are

[amy40]

back to my first post
I had husband read it and he didn't even ask what I was referring to
as he was walking away, I said you didn't ask what I was talking about!

no getting him to open up...ha

[amy40]

Well I don't think there's anything wrong with having some private thoughts. It may be healthier for some. What you describe there isn't intimacy for me. I think for something like that, I would want to share it. I'd feel very disconnected if I couldn't share those inner parts of myself with him. That to me is WHO I am.
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kitty, we've been married a long time

not attached at the hip and although it seems we each don't share everything, I think it keeps that air of mystery so we still do want to be around each other, do things together as a family, and hug and kiss when he comes home from work and in the evening

although not as much sex as "I" want

[bcted]

Nothing wrong with keeping some things to yourself, but if he tried it once, you might want to ask if he enjoyed it and wanted to try it again.

[amy40]

you might want to ask if he enjoyed it and wanted to try it again.

it was for me not him

I had him read my post on this thread and he walked away without asking what I was referring to
and like I said am too embarassed to ask again

he is way more serious of a person than me
it's a struggle sometimes for me to be married to such a serious person cause I am so opposite
like when I was whispering stuff in his ear at pumpkin fest, he's like "we're at church"
the festival was outside not in the church and he was afraid someone might hear me
(so he's embarrassed for me to talk about sex)

[amy40]

since we've become parents, he's even more serious as a person
but I am not

think that's partly why he married me as he said "I'd be a lot of fun"
and I want to have fun but he's so serious

[bcted]

Just because it was for you doesn't mean he couldn't have enjoyed it. I know my lovely wife does some things for me because she knows I enjoy them, even though she really doesn't get anything out of them for herself.

That said, your description of how he reacted to reading this thread seems to imply that he has no interest in making you happy. Did he know the thread was about you and him? If so, then you might have a problem. I'm not sure how to help you in that case. You mentioned that you had been married a long time, but it sure sounds like you guys need to work on communicaton.

I am not saying this to imply that I have it all figured out. My wife and I still have to work things out, even after 32 years together.