[CrazyCreature]

Thanks. I'll have to try that.

[jns]

Part of sex is experimenting and finding out what the other person likes. If it is new, they may not even recognize it as something that turns them on.

[CrazyCreature]

Ok. Another question (if you don't mind) if it doesn't get better what do I do? Is there anything that can help or how would I bring it up with him without hurting his feelings?
It's not bad just not something I enjoyed.

[atskitty2]

I think it will get better for you. And just so you realize that this is a timely process, expect weeks or months for things to really come together and fall into place, with him or anyone. This is a brand new experience for you. It takes time to learn your body, his body and how they work together.
I get the sense that you are placing a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself, and that's not going to help.

You wouldn't expect to be able to say, run a 5k on your first try, right? It takes time and practice. Same thing in concept. None of us were the kind of lovers we are now, at the time we lost our virginity.

Keep us posted. If it doesn't show gradual improvement over the coming weeks we can offer suggestions on how to help.

[CrazyCreature]

Thanks.

You are probably right I'm hard on myself about everything. I honestly have no idea what I'm doing and feel like I should.

[deep-evie]

Thanks.

You are probably right I'm hard on myself about everything. I honestly have no idea what I'm doing and feel like I should.

How big is he? penis wise if you dont mind me asking? Does it feel like he hits the end? and stretches you a bit? You MIGHT be like me hun, im deep and as such prefer a longer penis otherwise i get nothing out of intercourse hardly, the only reason it likely hurt the first time is cause your hymen was likely broken,if you wrap your hand around the penis and only a bit sticks out, it might be a size i personally would prefer not to ride on, if you can get 2 hands on its length, i doubt size is the problem. Its normal by the way to have a preference on size, just as its normal for all sizes to be ok. Depends on the person. If you do find him too small, don't worry your not a bad person, its a preference then again you may find him too big, also just like guys have varying stamina, so do girls, it may be that you need a 30min-40 min pounding to get to orgasm and enjoy it. Everyone different

[CrazyCreature]

I have no idea how big he is. I'm too embarrassed to look. Stupid I know like I said I'm very awkward with this stuff, seriously feel like an idiot. It hurt the second time too just not as much. My Dr suggested a dilator, since I even have a hard time with tampons.
I know I must be tight coz he asked me if I was clamping down with my muscles.

[deep-evie]

I have no idea how big he is. I'm too embarrassed to look. Stupid I know like I said I'm very awkward with this stuff, seriously feel like an idiot. It hurt the second time too just not as much. My Dr suggested a dilator, since I even have a hard time with tampons.
I know I must be tight coz he asked me if I was clamping down with my muscles.

his thickness is definatly not a problem then, and dont worry being tight is a blessing, trust me, does it feel rough like its dragging along inside? if so, you need to use lubricant on his dingdong. might be now why you are still getting pain. ususally tighter girls enjoy sex more, maybe its just about not enough lube to feel it sliding nicely. Try it again, with a bit of lube, this time also grab it to get a measure on its size too . perhaps you should get a Dildo / sex toy to practise with? might also get you more in the mood.

[CrazyCreature]

does it feel rough like its dragging along inside? if so, you need to use lubricant on his dingdong. might be now why you are still getting pain. ususally tighter girls enjoy sex more, maybe its just about not enough lube to feel it sliding nicely.
Try it again, with a bit of lube, this time also grab it to get a measure on its size too
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We did use and yeah it did feel a bit like it dragged a bit but not in a rough way. If that makes sense.
I dont know how to go about grabbing it.
Until recently I considered myself totally asexual, no masterbation, no dating, no interest at all. And as a teen and in my 20s I was the same though I tried dating because it was "the normal thing to do." But I'm not comfortable or even sure how to go about doing anything and generally he initiates anything more intimate then kissing.

You mentioned before being deep, how would you know? I'm guessing a Dr would be able to tell? She did an examination after our first time as I was concerned about the amount of pain and how long it lasted, since it can be a sign of a deformed hymen or Vaginismus.

I'm hoping that with time I'll stop being so awkward if he can put up with me for that long that is.

Thankyou for your information I honestly had no idea that some women were longer internally then others.

[deep-evie]

We did use and yeah it did feel a bit like it dragged a bit but not in a rough way. If that makes sense.
I dont know how to go about grabbing it.
Until recently I considered myself totally asexual, no masterbation, no dating, no interest at all. And as a teen and in my 20s I was the same though I tried dating because it was "the normal thing to do." But I'm not comfortable or even sure how to go about doing anything and generally he initiates anything more intimate then kissing.

You mentioned before being deep, how would you know? I'm guessing a Dr would be able to tell? She did an examination after our first time as I was concerned about the amount of pain and how long it lasted, since it can be a sign of a deformed hymen or Vaginismus.

I'm hoping that with time I'll stop being so awkward if he can put up with me for that long that is.

Thankyou for your information I honestly had no idea that some women were longer internally then others.

Yeah of course, jsut like penis size, vaginal aroused tightness and length varies a lot, and the full stretched amount too. most girls aroused are at 4.5-6" unstretched, stretched 6-7" usually, but some girls like me can bottom out a 7" unstretched and stretch around a 9" one to the base. Not many girls try and find out, but one of the best ways is use a very long toy lightly push it in until there is a tiny bit more resistance, thats your near unstretched length, then push it un until it nearly stops, a tiny bit of force not too much, thats your max length. i did not realise til i was over 23 years, when my BF who has a 8" told me as much as he enjoyed it, taking all of a 8" wasnt normal. If you are like me (probably not but maybe), then his size might be an important factor. how big DOES it look? finger length? small banana , large banana?

So its not a doctor thing, its a self experimenting thing, get a sex toy hun it might fire you up a bit. if he is a nice guy he will put up with you as you word it, at least your giving him your vagina to use. i think your mental outlook towards sex probably is not helping to be honest darling. Next time, use a bit more lube than normal, let it get all slippery inside you might prefer it.