[CrazyCreature]

It wasn't even about him i posted that I hated people skirting around issues and that if there's an issue you need to come out and say it, which was about a secret santa event I ran and people are being passive aggressive about it.

I'm pretty sure we are over. Coz I cried and got upset the first time we had sex he felt bad and obviously internalised it since that's one of the things he mentioned. He also seems to forget I have no experience so I have no idea what I'm doing and I'm not sure how to initiate things which I pointed out to him since that was one of the things.

seems maybe we aren't compatible.

[atskitty2]

Are you still talking with him at all? I think it's too early to decide that you're incompatible, when there's hardly been an effort made to work through this.
Or are you just done trying?

I do understand where he's coming from about the Facebook post. It is never a good idea to post such accusatory info. You do realise that you're making a post about other's passive aggressiveness IS, in itself, passive aggressive, so it puts you in poor light to many people and opens up the wrong type of discussion. If you want to work things out in a group you're working with, take it straight to them. Making public posts like that creates these messes in life. You likely made yourself look foolish not only to him, but many others. This is for school kids. You're an adult and I'm thinking you know this was inappropriate.

I had a lapse in judgement like this early in my Facebook usage. It was a hard lesson learned. I'm very selective about what goes on fb now and how I use it. I have kept my friends list pretty small and use it very sparingly. Nothing ever controversial, only neutral posts or humor or health related info. It's a good rule of thumb for fb and life in general.

Do you understand why he thinks he was the object of the post? He obviously cared enough that it hurt him, it struck a cord because he was sensitive to what happened. Communication is always the answer to these issues. Direct and honest communication. That is what builds a relationship with trust and lays a foundation for healthy communication and bonding early in the process.

Do you want to try to make it work with him at all? If you do, a detailed explanation of the post and an apology is probably the first step here.

[deep-evie]

I think. As a woman. You are looking too much into the "Compatability" thing. I think personally the best relationships are usually between 2 people that are polar opposites anyway. Hence them being called "other half". Like yin and yang.

but yeah your looking too much for reasons why you are not compatable instead of reason why you are. Most of your problems seem to stem mainly from your mindset in in general.

sexually might be for any reason could be as simple as his size. Maybe it's linked with your uncertainty.

Either way. You sit down and over think I think. Instead of thinking how you mess things up. Think about how to get his as in that bed and let loose on him. Get in that mindset and perhaps a lot of things will fix them self. Also builds confidence.