I think oral sex is an important and healthy part of a sexual relationship. But for me personally, it's a bit more complicated. First, understand that my wife and i have been together nearly 20 years, 18 of which as a married couple. And on average, I'd say we have sex about 2 or 3 times a week. But, as for her giving me BJs, this is far less often. I might get 1 or 2 a month, if I'm lucky, and always only as a precursor to sex. It's never been a "Hey hon, i want to suck your ****" kind of thing.
This is mainly because she was sexually abused and molested as a child by a close family member. So this really gave her some major hang ups with sex, fellatio in particular. So, i rarely press the issue because i know it's not really an enjoyable sex act for her. She does it solely because i enjoy it. But i do wish she'd get to the point where she liked it as much as i do, because trust me, she is quite good at it.
As a matter of fact, she's so good at going down on me, that she's the ONLY woman that I've ever been with to:
1 - Give me involuntary muscle spasms. As she's doing the deed, occasionally my right leg will twitch and shake. This is a part of sucking me off that she does enjoy.
2 - Get me to cum or even remotely close to cumming. Of all the head-givers out there, or at least the ones I've been with prior to my current relationship, none have ever gotten me across the finish line with head alone. That's not all on them however. Even my personal maturation takes me a while. But my wife can get the (blow)job done in about 5 to 7 minutes.
This brings me to what happens when i reach the point of no return. The article mentions, and most people are familiar with, spitting or swallowing. Now, if it were just a blowjob and that's it kind of thing, I'm sure either of these would be a viable option. But for us, nether are really attractive. As mentioned, she only ever gives me head as a precursor to sex. I'm sure while she has me in her mouth, she'll soak up some pre-cum or maybe a little actual cum. But what we both really like to do is what we refer to as the "mad dash". When we realize that i can't hold back any longer, we'll hurry to get into missionary. I might get in a few hard thrusts before fully cumming inside her. Don't worry. I've usually licked and or fingered her to her orgasm before the BJ. So she's already extremely wet which allows me to slide right in.
Following a brief cooldown period, we'll continue with the remainder of our penetrative sexual activities.
This is mainly because she was sexually abused and molested as a child by a close family member. So this really gave her some major hang ups with sex, fellatio in particular. So, i rarely press the issue because i know it's not really an enjoyable sex act for her. She does it solely because i enjoy it. But i do wish she'd get to the point where she liked it as much as i do, because trust me, she is quite good at it.
As a matter of fact, she's so good at going down on me, that she's the ONLY woman that I've ever been with to:
1 - Give me involuntary muscle spasms. As she's doing the deed, occasionally my right leg will twitch and shake. This is a part of sucking me off that she does enjoy.
2 - Get me to cum or even remotely close to cumming. Of all the head-givers out there, or at least the ones I've been with prior to my current relationship, none have ever gotten me across the finish line with head alone. That's not all on them however. Even my personal maturation takes me a while. But my wife can get the (blow)job done in about 5 to 7 minutes.
This brings me to what happens when i reach the point of no return. The article mentions, and most people are familiar with, spitting or swallowing. Now, if it were just a blowjob and that's it kind of thing, I'm sure either of these would be a viable option. But for us, nether are really attractive. As mentioned, she only ever gives me head as a precursor to sex. I'm sure while she has me in her mouth, she'll soak up some pre-cum or maybe a little actual cum. But what we both really like to do is what we refer to as the "mad dash". When we realize that i can't hold back any longer, we'll hurry to get into missionary. I might get in a few hard thrusts before fully cumming inside her. Don't worry. I've usually licked and or fingered her to her orgasm before the BJ. So she's already extremely wet which allows me to slide right in.
Following a brief cooldown period, we'll continue with the remainder of our penetrative sexual activities.
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