[C]

Caroline, you are killing me. I actually think you are hornier and more hot for your husband than I am mine....and that is really saying something.
Sounds like a great doctor! haha

SorridLives: That is my problem....I am...I am lost somewhere between youth and whatever age that I am now...And to make it worse or better depending how you look at it....He is my twin....This surgery has made us closer than I ever thought possible...

About that doctor....I had said earlier that I never had a sexual attraction for another man, well I have to take that back....I never in my life would have chased on my husband or even entertained the thought.....BUT that hot doctor was in my bed with me plenty of times when I was younger and getting it on with my husband....Hate to admit this but he did me good....

But then another woman showing that she has a sexual attraction to your partner is also one heck of an aphrodisiac in getting the juices working and bedding him down....Makes it real neat to think, "Go on and look at him baby....He is mine"....Then you attack your man and he never knows what hit him....But he loves it..and smiles all day long..And so do you......TC, C

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Just to be clear I'm certainly not claiming that any of the things mentioned here are not all part of sexual attraction. I'm just stating that I don't think it can be narrowed down to any certain thing. I believe there are multiple things, seen and unseen that take a part in it. I have even become to believe that the idea of pheromones taking part of attraction exists.

Yeah, it's a myriad of things. Pheromones too, very important apparently.

In my previous post I mentioned a persons character being the final standard at which we may "size up" a potential mate. Anon's reply was that we were discussing sexual attraction not choosing a life partner. Agreed, but I still think it plays a part .... for me anyway.

Example being many years ago there was this man that I worked with. He was a very fine looking gentleman. All the women would just stop what they were doing and watch him when he entered the room - I admit I did to. One day he sat next to a group of us in the cafeteria and as I sat and listened to his conversation and watched his mannerisms I was totally turned off. From that day forward he never caught my attention again.

Yeah, I think this still falls under finding strong genetic stock to mate with. For example, if I see a really hot girl talk utter rubbish (as I often do), I lose the desire to mate with them, since I don't want my children to be window lickers.


And Caroline/Sorrid, lets try to stay on topic...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well that's the key there Anon, your looking at mating for the purpose of whom you will end up with and raise children with, so they are not window lickers.

Where as Fallen 1 and myself included are looking or did look for mating for other needs and wants, she has children i don't nor want any, a different reason for searching and finding a "mate" and therefore that sexual attraction we find, is different in a different context.

[Guest]

SorridLives: That is my problem....I am...I am lost somewhere between youth and whatever age that I am now...And to make it worse or better depending how you look at it....He is my twin....This surgery has made us closer than I ever thought possible...

About that doctor....I had said earlier that I never had a sexual attraction for another man, well I have to take that back....I never in my life would have chased on my husband or even entertained the thought.....BUT that hot doctor was in my bed with me plenty of times when I was younger and getting it on with my husband....Hate to admit this but he did me good....

But then another woman showing that she has a sexual attraction to your partner is also one heck of an aphrodisiac in getting the juices working and bedding him down....Makes it real neat to think, "Go on and look at him baby....He is mine"....Then you attack your man and he never knows what hit him....But he loves it..and smiles all day long..And so do you......TC, C

Yeah. SWEET.

[C]

Yeah, it's a myriad of things. Pheromones too, very important apparently.



Yeah, I think this still falls under finding strong genetic stock to mate with. For example, if I see a really hot girl talk utter rubbish (as I often do), I lose the desire to mate with them, since I don't want my children to be window lickers.


And Caroline/Sorrid, lets try to stay on topic...

Anon: I don't think you can look at a person and find sexual attraction...You look at a person that you want to know..You find things about them that are appealing...You want to dance with them and get to know them...A woman does not look at just any man and want to bang them...She wants to know if he is nice and the animal part of life does not enter into it...She does not want to go to bed with just anyone nor think of mating...Only if she is in a boring relationship and ultimately thought at the end of it about have to mate with this person and produce children does she dump him like I did the doctor that asked me to marry him....I believe man has this mating thing on his mind when he has not yet met the woman that he really cares for...I doubt that you have yet so this is on your mind...This is not saying anything bad about you but that you maybe have not found the strong bond with a woman that you will find...For some reason mating is secondary.....Being with the person and liking and knowing him is first...They go more like that, at least in my books...The first makes the second good and produces the hot love that follows.......

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Mmmm....

Okay....

Different scenarios.... different sexual attractions..... different people.

The person? Inside?

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Well that's the key there Anon, your looking at mating for the purpose of whom you will end up with and raise children with, so they are not window lickers.

Yes, but intelligence is partly a genetic trait, so if someones not intelligent and boring, you don't want your children to be like that since they'll have a lesser chance to survive.

Where as Fallen 1 and myself included are looking or did look for mating for other needs and wants, she has children i don't nor want any, a different reason for searching and finding a "mate" and therefore that sexual attraction we find, is different in a different context.

Well, the beginning of this discussion was mainly about justifcation that it is not the same to desire a woman in good shape as to require a man to be circumcised. One is inherent to evolution, and the other is mutilation. But anyway, yeah, women have far less breeding potential than men, so they will be extra careful with their resources, and as they have many suitors they can be really fussy. But as I've said, we're also only talking about sexual-attraction, and really that doesn't make up the full picture.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes, but intelligence is partly a genetic trait, so if someones not intelligent and boring, you don't want your children to be like that since they'll have a lesser chance to survive.

I don't dispute this at all. If you are young, you will, without a doubt have certain criterias that you would like to find in a woman, for the purpose of marriage, children, and sexuality...


Well, the beginning of this discussion was mainly about justifcation that it is not the same to desire a woman in good shape as to require a man to be circumcised. One is inherent to evolution, and the other is mutilation. But anyway, yeah, women have far less breeding potential than men, so they will be extra careful with their resources, and as they have many suitors they can be really fussy. But as I've said, we're also only talking about sexual-attraction, and really that doesn't make up the full picture.

Sure, women can have their cake and eat it... There are way more women than there are men, single and we can take our pick, choice so to speak... And yes, i was just making a point of the difference in sexual attraction, for women "older", off course we need that attraction but more than often, it is other attractions that attracts us first, about the man.

[Fallen1]

Yeah, I think this still falls under finding strong genetic stock to mate with. For example, if I see a really hot girl talk utter rubbish (as I often do), I lose the desire to mate with them, since I don't want my children to be window lickers.

Yes that would suck ...... I can see anon having to following all the anonymouswhitetykes around cleaning the windows.

I have to agree with Caroline when she said a woman (at least I don't and never have) does not look at just any man and want to bed down with them.

I don't know if I'm an odd ball or not but I never have been one to see a good looking man and the thought of sleeping with him enter my mind.

[Guest]

He's got to have intellect. And he's got to be sweet. Have an intelligent conversation, be sweet, have a sense of humor. Be a little bit ambitious. Then we'll talk about the baser things. And the baser things are NICE!