[courtney]

I agree completely with Silvertae, how can you tell from a picture, like a camera phone? I think if you two are open enough to talk about getting tested and open enough to send intimate pictures without being intimate yourselves she is pretty confident that she won't disappoint you with a gift that keeps on giving. As thorough as you are in your post, I can only imagine how you are with this woman, just ask her already! Or get tested, together. She's got kids, she is not stranger to going to a doctor. OR, if it freaks you out, move on. I'm sure there are plenty of women that don't have "lard" on their sex toys.

[WildChild]

This has been an interesting read. As an "older" woman I'd like to make a couple of observations. Just talking about testing is inadequate unless you really know each other well enough to be certain of her truthfulness. Those of us who came of age in the 60s or early 70s can be challenged by this because it wasn't part of our early experience, but it sounds like you are of an age that should have been more a part of your entire life. I wouldn't have oral with anyone I wasn't sure was clean. There are some STDs that men can carry w/o having symptoms but infect or re-infect their partners. Why take a chance? If you can't ask her for you both to get tested without a problem the relationship won't last anyway. If it's really just a sexual thing use protection including a dental dam (saran wrap works nicely - make a game of it).

The other concern I would have is her willingness to send you photos and it sounds like webcam material? This may be a generational thing, but there are a lot of things I would do with a man before I would take the risk of putting something that could come back to bite me like that out in the workd. Anything that goes on the internet never really disappears - not that you can be sure of. A professional woman, a woman with children in her household, would be a fool to do this in a manner that she can be identified. It could be professional suicide and if she has an ex in the background.... If you want her, go for it but be smart about it, it doesn't sound like she is.

[Daffodils&Cream]

From a female perspective:

What Little said is right- as women our homone levels are ever changing- even after you remove the uterus, our the chemicals in our body continue to change and adjust. It is perfectly normal to occasionally have a thicker discharge- diet, hormones, any medications (even simple allergy meds) can cause changes in this. Vigorous stimulation and penetration with a sex toy can make it look odd- maybe a "cheese" like viscosity (sorry if that sounds gross- it really isn't, it doesn't taste or smell much different) Think "shaken, not stirred"

Keep in mind too, that if she had any infection- yeast or otherwise, she most likely wouldn't choose that occasion to have sent you a clip of her pleasuring herself. Especially if you haven't had sex yet. At least I wouldn't. Also, I agree with you, that if you mentioned the whole "testing" thing again- I would take it as an afront and think you might be a little obsessive on the issue.

All-in-all. My impression of the situation is that it was perfectly normal. It has been normal for me to occasionally have that type of discharge during manipulation with out having any infectipon or STD. In the future- all women on may have random yeasty odor & discharge, but if she says she has a yeast infection- you realy shouldn't go down on her. It IS possible to get a yeast infection of the mouth. Rare, but possible. And honestly not comfortable for her either. Hope this helps...