[GlitterAndStuds]

All of the stuff directed at me is moot now anyway. I finally reached my breaking point on it. And now I'm alone. And I hurt so bad. But that will fade. And I won't keep getting my heart broken on a weekly basis. I guess thats the silver lining. Right now. ONly clouds.

Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear that. You know we're all here if you need to talk more or anything. You're really strong for making that decision and standing your ground on the issue, but I'm still sorry it had to come to that.

I hope you stay well... ((((((HUGS))))))

[Guest]

All of the stuff directed at me is moot now anyway. I finally reached my breaking point on it. And now I'm alone. And I hurt so bad. But that will fade. And I won't keep getting my heart broken on a weekly basis. I guess thats the silver lining. Right now. ONly clouds.

We've all been there...you're not alone.

Taking a stand and sticking with it is tough.

But in some cases is necessary. I'm truly surprised that one would choose cheap porn over an intelligent, attractive and loyal woman like yourself.

Best to you and good luck. You know everyone is here to chat.

[Texinator]

You gotta do what you gotta do to be happy. Keep your chin up.

[Miya]

All of the stuff directed at me is moot now anyway. I finally reached my breaking point on it. And now I'm alone. And I hurt so bad. But that will fade. And I won't keep getting my heart broken on a weekly basis. I guess thats the silver lining. Right now. ONly clouds.

I'm very sorry you've had to deal with this pain dear. I can't say much aside from letting you know I (and all of us) care and something else better is on the horizon, though clouds may block it now.

((((((HUGS)))))

[CHANDLERS WISH]

OTYA - I purely asked you a question ... If I edit something, it's because I feel it may be a harmful comment to the other person... I don't believe it is harmful to ask you a question of your "choice", now preference and your answer to it was in-sightful and it was debating - leaving the word "choice" which has appeared a few times since by others, you chose to stop and that's to be commendable.

HD.. I hope this thread didn't make you "act" on something that you weren't ready to act on.

If however, it's what you want then more power to you for doing it.

Be around people at this time okay.. You need them and us and we are here, you know that.

CW

[Hopeless Dork]

When I was at the end of my rope and asked him if I was sure I was what he wanted... he said he didn't know. He thinks he loves me, but love might not be what he wants. I am crushed beyond the words I can use to describe it.

This thread, my period, but more than anything it was his behavior and the vibe that I've gotten from him from time to time that lead me to snap.. Only this time he didn't bother lying to me to make me feel better. He told me what I feared all along... that he just doesn't know If I do it for him. He's not sure.

If you can't figure out whether or not you are into someone, you're not. As blinded by love as I have been and am now -- even I can see that. Thank you all for your words of comfort.

My life as I write this is in shambles in a bigger picture than just my relationship, it going down the toilet right now too is just , its just too mcuh. I'm going to cry my heart out like I've been doing all day. I'm gonna go to bed and wake up and cry my heart out some more and i'm sure this will go on until one day it doesn't anymore. I am going to be okay.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You are going to be okay... Don't cry sweet...

I'm sorry that this thread created a "reaction"... As you know, this Forum generally is based on "problems" and too often we read something and then look into our own personal life and relate the same. Not the case, we are all different people. There is no right or wrong in it's totality, rather "individual situations"...

You were very strong to try to adapt HD... But go back before this man and you will see all the things you learnt about yourself along the way, including what you will and won't accept for yourself in this life...

This is a time where you need support... I'm sorry that there are other things happening outside of just the relationship, it's all jumbled into one now.. But, somehow that's usually how it works, all at once, so you can grieve and work it all out instead of one thing at a time, which takes longer and is harder.

It's evident he loved you.. But, he has ways that aren't your ways.. Be strong sweet, and know that we are here to support you through everything..

With much love.

[Texinator]

When I was at the end of my rope and asked him if I was sure I was what he wanted... he said he didn't know. He thinks he loves me, but love might not be what he wants. I am crushed beyond the words I can use to describe it.

I am going to be okay.

Really sorry to hear about the breakup. The porn aside, the way you were talking about him before made it sounds like everything was going great. At least on the bright side you can now be free of those doubts and worries and can look to find someone who will love you back as much as you love them.

I like that last sentence by the way.

[Miya]

Though sometimes a good long cry really helps..a cathartic release...as good if not better than talking. As you said dear, you WILL be ok. We all love you.

[Guest]

I'm sorry that this thread created a "reaction"...

If it did- I for one am not.

Better a few months of pain, and a renewed sense of knowing that you can and will move on rather than a long and repeated cycle of pain and hurt that could potentially eat up the best years of your life.

This is how progress is made. You want guys to quit watching porn, you have to show that you won't stand for it.

Fuggin good for you.

If you aren't the one for him, good for him for saying so, and even better that you moved on instead of being his fair weather girl.

Not many are as strong. You should feel proud. There are a billion other guys in the world who will treat you just as well and even better.

The fun part is fending off a thousand to find one.

Good luck.