[sourpuss]

True WC. I wish it was easy for everyone.

[sourpuss]

Then in two weeks he'll register here and ask 'My girlfriend doesn't like sex anymore. What's wrong with her?'

We'll see if he even notices.

[WildChild]

Reminds me a section in John Grey's book where he talks about how his wife was really mad at him and quit talking to him. He thought things were nice and quite, until he wanted sex and got shot down. Then he realized that he had been in the dog house for a week without noticing.

[sourpuss]

Haha! Thankfully, things aren't that bad yet.

[Texinator]

if he even notices

Really?

[sourpuss]

Really.
But he did just go and fix my car, so I should be grateful.

[Texinator]

That's nice, but he should also be eager to 'check under the hood' somewhere else.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

For crying out loud! Everybody on the planet needs to grow up! Quit taking themselves so seriously and quit walking in constant fear.

Best statement I've heard in a LONG time!

Well said WC, and there is this Mes:-

another question you need to ask, and you need to ask yourself is:

am i willing to compromise on this, or would it be me just settling?

compromises can usually last pretty well as long as both sides try.

settling almost always leads to resentment eventually.

which is it for you?

I know people are on their best behaviour on the inset and then go back to whom they were after a while, when they feel comfortable.

If only we could all say to our "hearts" wait those few months and then give our heart totally, but we don't... We tend to give it and then try to fix the problem, and settle.

I refuse to do that again, and have refused for some time now, and I will not do and haven't done the "check list" either, rather, make conversation that will give me the answers I am wanting to know without them knowing I'm asking if that makes sense... to try to form an honest opinion and see if there is something ahead or not really at all.... rather, that "chemistry" that attracts us in the first place.

Sourpuss, you shouldn't "have" to not give to see if he will... But, it will show you whether he goes for intimacy or for sex when it happens... I hope it works the way you want it to, I really do.

CW

[sourpuss]

That's nice, but he should also be eager to 'check under the hood' somewhere else.

Erg! He came inside, went in the bedroom and shut the door to watch some boxing videos. So I let him be thinking he was tired and wanted to be left alone...then he came out and got mad that I hadn't said thank you for fixing my car. I can't win!

[LanaBear]

Erg! He came inside, went in the bedroom and shut the door to watch some boxing videos. So I let him be thinking he was tired and wanted to be left alone...then he came out and got mad that I hadn't said thank you for fixing my car. I can't win!

Geez! Really? Bad mood today or his normal self?