[sallyskellington]

not gonna happen I will not let anyone see or touch me until I'm fixed I'm disgusting

[teenie]

You are not here to decorate anyone's world. Its not what you look like, but what you do with what you got that makes you beautiful. Can you embrace your lover? etc.
P.S. Pin up girls are a pear shape, shapely , smaller boobs. Plus J.Lo has a fat and she has it insured because guys LOVE IT SO MUCH and it's what makes her special.

I do have the same appareance as you, but then i gained weight, so my is BIGGER and so are my boobs. I will say that everything i got i don't find attractive in others and the exact opposite of me is what i find most attractive. I want what i can't have. And guess what? Tall girls with huge boobs and a skinny want a more shapely butt and smaller boobs. Your hubby things you are sexy, believe him!!!!

Trust me, reading your posts is like reading me 4 years ago. I got over it, you will too with time and dedication. HTH! PM me if you can, i'm new, i'm not sure

[ZiiMarieBii]

DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) - Helped me out a lot. The Radical Acceptance is the skill I try to use when I am feeling insecure. I believe that I put myself through distress because I do not accept/like the way I look.

Accepting reality does not mean you have to like the circumstances. Some tools to help you accept reality are breathing, half smile, awareness.
For Example: Radical Acceptance: I have suicidal thoughts all the time but it doesn't mean I like having them or will act on them.



WILLINGNESS
Cultivate a WILLING response to each situation
Willingness is doing just what is needed in each situation, in an unpretentious way. It is focusing on effectiveness.
Willingness is listening very carefully to your WISE MIND, acting from your inner self.
Willingness is becoming aware of your connection to the universe - to the earth, to the floor you are standing on, to the chair you are sitting on, to the person you are talking to.
Ask yourself, in 5 years from now, will the situation that causes the distress matter?



WILLFULNESS
Willfulness is like sitting on your hands when action is needed, refusing to make changes that are needed.
Willfulness causes you to fight any suggestions that will improve the distress and thus make it more tolerable.
Willfulness is giving up.
It is the opposite of doing what works, of being effective. Willfulness is trying to fix every situation or refusing to tolerate the distressful moment.



TURNING THE MIND
Acceptance of reality requires an act of CHOICE. It is like coming to a fork in the road. You have to turn your mind towards the acceptance road and away form the rejecting reality road.
You have to make an inner COMMITMENT to accept. The commitment to accept does not itself equal acceptance. It just turns you toward the path. But it is the first step.
You have to turn your mind and commit to acceptance OVER AND OVER AND OVER again. Sometimes, you have to make the commitment many times in the space of a few minutes.



RADICAL ACCEPTANCE
Freedom from suffering requires ACCEPTANCE FROM DEEP WITHIN.
It is allowing yourself to go completely with whatever the situation is. Let go of fighting reality.
ACCEPTANCE IS THE ONLY WAY OUT OF WHICH MUST NOT BE INTERPRETED AS APPROVAL OF THE DISTRESSFUL SITUATION
Pain creates suffering only when you refuse to ACCEPT the pain.
Deciding to tolerate the moment is ACCEPTANCE.
ACCEPTANCE is acknowledging what is.
To accept something is not the same as judging it to be good.
By stopping your self from fighting, the rage or anger you feel will dissipate as long as you continue to accept your condition or your faulty perceptions to events or interpersonal communications difficulties. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel when you are able to accept.