[KMonte85]

trying to make a list of women that I think look ok with out big boobs.

Not trying to play therapist here, but I have to ask out of curiousity... who so far is on your list? And what is it about them that you think makes the women look good, even without a heaping bust?

I'm just wondering if some of the things you admire in those women on your list are also characteristics that you have, but just aren't allowing yourself to see...

[ItsASecret]

I have an extremely low self esteem as well, I know what it is like to feel like the ugly duckling, to be laughed at, to be teased, be the butt of all the jokes and I have thought about playing the plastic surgery card (I no longer want to do that) but the only thing that has given me a different perspective was taking pictures of myself but by myself with no one else around me and I refuse to let anyone see them including my boyfriend.

I took pictures of different parts of my body, at angles, with the timer, in different lighting. I experimented with the different photo techniques like black and white, chrome, fading etc just to see if I could be sexy in secret because of my lack of self esteem and body image, just to see if I had the potential to be something that I believed I could not be...and I realized that seeing those pictures of just me, no airbrushing, no vag pictures, no boob shots, just pure femininity pictures that I do have that potential. No it has not made me feel like a bombshell and never will but at least now I can have a quick mental image of one of those pictures to remind me that those pictures look just like others I have seen. It does not take airbrushing and countless hours of editing to be beautiful you just need to recognize that you do have a wicked body. You shouldn't feel like everyday needs to be the next porno photoshoot to be drooled over, just get the confidence in small steps. I am not sure the picture idea would work for you but I felt that because I can relate in some manner that I would bring it up.

[Mes T]

If all you do all day is look at those magazines and watch TV then I'm willing to bet that not much will change until you change THAT. Yes you CAN stop looking at maxium or whatever that one is.

Anyway like I said I have small breasts and I feel VERY feminine, and this thread is starting to bring me down. No one is going to tell me that I'm less womanly than so-and-so because of such-and-such body part, including you. So I think I'm signing off this thread for good.

(It'd do you good to develop the same attitude about things in life that bring you down.)

[Fallen1]

Sally,

Did you even click on the picture I posted earlier in this thread of Holly in her "natural" state?

[rcoreyus]

Let me try another take. The women I know who are in happy long term relationships are not the ones who look like pinups. In fact they don't look like anything in particular. They are the ones who are happy and fun to be around. Its true that some young men only care about apperance and may go for big breasted women because that is what the media has taught them to do (men are insecure too), mature men know that there are much more important things in choosing who to spend time with.

If you want to spend your life with boys, maybe you should get your breasts inflated. If you want to spend you life with a man, work on being a pleasant person to be around.

[sallyskellington]

welp I finally did it. He paced his stuff last night after I freaked out cause he tried to touch my boobs. We were screaming at eachother for five hours I canme out in a tee and jeans and started screaming how come if I'm so feminine that if you took a pick of me in this from just the neck down with no padded bra on that you couldn't tell I'm a chick. And the screaming went on he was hitting me with stuff shoes fist whatever it was my fault though
I kept getting in his face saying come on hit me, hit me again I screamed about when we went to see the watchman how his friends now fiancee made a comment about why would they have that women get naked in the movie her body looks like a boy, I was screaming he was fine with what that fat sow said to me and he should step down from being the best man. He was gonna leave last night but found out it was like 150 or more to get room for night so he slept on the couch. He really is better off without me everyone is I'm crazy and people are all better off I am now not gonna be my friends matrian of honor I'm the on;y flat one in the party I've decided I'm no longer gonna speak to my friends b/c they all have large boobs and it's no good for me to be friends with them I'm just gonna keep to myself and be alone.
Sorry if this made no sense my brain is racing
and Mes T I'm sorry never my intention to upset you or make you feel bad I'm sorry.

[Ashlee T.]

Calm down......in no time you will be seeing a psychiatrist. That's what they make big bucks for..is to help you understand your issues and therefore be able to work through them.

If you're feeling suicidal, you need to seek help sooner. You know that. Smart girl....despite what you say.

"I won't be your friend anymore because you have bigger boobs than me". Really?

or

"I'm not going to be your friend anymore because you have excess fatty deposits in your chest area". Really?

Have you ever considered your friends fiance doesn't see you as a "boy", and that's probably why she didn't hesitate to say that in front you of you about the girl on TV? She was also probably feeling insecure and jealous of the naked woman on TV. PEOPLE DO NOT SEE YOU THE SAME WAY YOU DO. Accept that. You're so worried about how you're perceived, but YOU are the ONLY one perceiving yourself that way.

Get help. You're sabatoging yourself, your life and everything in it. And until you truly want it to change, it won't.

[sallyskellington]

not gonna do anything.

[rcoreyus]

BD is right. You don't have a problem with your appearance. Your friends don't see anything wrong with how you look. Your behavior is likely to drive people away from you. I don't think we know how to help you - speaking with a psychiatrist seems a good idea - there may be a way to get you out of this rut.

[mrwrong]

Sally,
Your situation makes me sad because I think a lot of women have insecurities about boob size and I know one in particular who got implants despite everyone begging her not to and she is *still* always wanting more plastic surgery. I'm male, I've looked at porn (see my first post) purely to get myself aroused since shortly after I hit puberty and since I was married only because my wife is rejecting me. Regretfully I've sampled quite a bit of what is out there and read through many porn forums where men comment on this and that so when it comes to naked women I know what I like and other men like. Also being married and having a daughter this is the same advice I'd give to my loved ones.

1. Most men including myself abhor implants. Especially implants that are bigger than the natural average (which is "small" in hollywood standards). Also, feel is as important as look and implants make you feel hard which is not cool. Scars are also hard to overlook and are just a constant reminder of your insecurities. Ask your man to play with your natural boobs for 5 minutes and I'm sure you'll have his full attention, no stupid implants necessary.
2. Being happy and into sex with your partner will make you so much sexier than any plastic surgery. Likewise being unhappy and ashamed of your body does the opposite. Also hiding your body or withdrawing from touching will make your man feel extremely rejected. If he wants to look at you and feel your body because he is sexually attracted to you and you want to be thought of as attractive, why on earth would you reject him? That'd be like a Presidential candidate telling everyone he hates them...
3. Many men like small breasts. They don't sag, they're perky, they make you look youthful and delicate and innocent. If you don't believe me some of the top porn sites feature women who look just like you, 100% natural, unadulterated and beautiful. In the real world, natural trumps fake any day. Typically you will see big fake boobs in trashy porn and small natural boobs in tasteful porn (no offense intended to those that consider all porn to be equally distasteful).
4. Having big, fake boobs makes you look like a trashy porn star. Since that is essentially what all of these hollywood icons are, that makes sense. Trashy porn stars are not cool. Sure, they get noticed but they also don't get respected. Sure, they're more noticeable, but who are you trying to get noticed by? You've already been noticed by your SO apparently.
5. There is no end to the amount of plastic surgery you can have and if you allow yourself to have any at all you will never be content.
6. If you absolutely must do something, for the love of god, don't go overboard. B cup maximum! Small body with D cup is a sure way to advertise to everyone around you that what is beautiful to you is trashy porn stars.
7. All of the above goes for everything else as well: face, labia, etc..
8. If you want to be sure to not be mistaken for a boy, where fewer/skimpier clothes.