[karenshiver]

brian just dumped me and said i was not getting any more money and that he is having me evicted and not giving me money for food because i will not let him keep maria in his life... i told him to choose and he said he was keeping maria in his life and dumping me... he also said that if i want food i need to call him and apologize to him and tell him he is right and give him permission to keep maria in his life

[rcoreyus]

I really sounds to me like this is NOT the person you want to spend your life with. There are so many nice people out there, no reason for you to put up with this sort of behavior.

[unsuregirl]

Is it not possible to ask your family to support you financially for a while until you find a way to pay for your own food? Maybe they can lend you some money... why is the money factor giving him control over you? Let me know if I do not understand your situation

[karenshiver]

Thanks for posting on my thread (I just think we should keep the threads separate).

[karenshiver]

I have asked EVERYONE for help... and, they all said, "No." My father is aware of the abuse, but, he told me to go back to Brian. I called my father and stepmother last night... my stepmother did not care about me (she was making jokes with her adult daughter while I was crying over the phone about my situation) and my father told me (and this is the God's honest truth) to let Brian date Maria and to have dinner with Brian (anything to get Brian to buy me food). I am financially dependent on Brian (and isolated) with no friends or family... Brian once told me he was all I had in the world (he's right). I made the choice to move to Colorado with Brian (so, it is my fault) and I was a housewife and stay-at-home mother (again, my fault)... Brian has the money, the car... everything... even the lease is in his name. I am a freelance writer (but make very little money) and I do not have money for taxi cabs. And, every time Brian does not get his way (no matter how disrespectful or hurtful "his way" might be to me, he dumps me and takes my food and rent money away. I have asked the domestic violence center and the church for help too... there is no help available for me.

[unsuregirl]

I have asked EVERYONE for help... and, they all said, "No." My father is aware of the abuse, but, he told me to go back to Brian. I called my father and stepmother last night... my stepmother did not care about me (she was making jokes with her adult daughter while I was crying over the phone about my situation) and my father told me (and this is the God's honest truth) to let Brian date Maria and to have dinner with Brian (anything to get Brian to buy me food). I am financially dependent on Brian (and isolated) with no friends or family... Brian once told me he was all I had in the world (he's right). I made the choice to move to Colorado with Brian (so, it is my fault) and I was a housewife and stay-at-home mother (again, my fault)... Brian has the money, the car... everything... even the lease is in his name. I am a freelance writer (but make very little money) and I do not have money for taxi cabs. And, every time Brian does not get his way (no matter how disrespectful or hurtful "his way" might be to me, he dumps me and takes my food and rent money away. I have asked the domestic violence center and the church for help too... there is no help available for me.

This means soon you might not have a roof on your head? Do you atleast have a bank account even if no money in it..

[karenshiver]

I have my own bank account. I really do not care if he dates Maria (I hate him and do not care what he does anymore)... but, to tell me that I have to have dinner with him and remain his girlfriend while he continues to cheat on me is something I cannot do. He cannot have both of us in his life... and, if forced to make a choice, Brian has already informed me that his choice will be Maria (even though Maria does not want him... she is getting married this year and having a baby with another man), but, Brian, I guess is hoping she miscarries and dumps her fiance so he can have her? I think Brian is delusional.

[unsuregirl]

And the things which you mentioned to be your fault, don't seem like your fault to me... but if you still do not do something to get out of this mess, you might be at fault... I am half your age and maybe I do not have half your strength or wisdom but I can tell that you have to just find a way to be happy now and you have to feel free... How long do you think you have before you will have no food at all and the house?? And is there any plan on hand?? A single friend or neighbour that you can stay with?

[unsuregirl]

I have my own bank account. I really do not care if he dates Maria (I hate him and do not care what he does anymore)... but, to tell me that I have to have dinner with him and remain his girlfriend while he continues to cheat on me is something I cannot do. He cannot have both of us in his life... and, if forced to make a choice, Brian has already informed me that his choice will be Maria (even though Maria does not want him... she is getting married this year and having a baby with another man), but, Brian, I guess is hoping she miscarries and dumps her fiance so he can have her? I think Brian is delusional.

Don't you think that even if he chose you over Maria now, you should still be free of him after all this? What is your opinion?

[karenshiver]

I have 3 more days of food left... I am really scared. I may have to have dinner with that jerk just to get food and rent money (until someone hires me)... it is just so demeaning to give in to his demands... I am really afraid of him... I even asked him to move me to Utah and support me until I can find a job... he refused... he said that I either give him his way or I starve to death.