[karenshiver]

My son was married long before I moved to Colorado with Brian... my son has been married for 6 years... I moved to Colorado with Brian 3 years ago. My daughter has been attending college for 10 years... I started dating Brian AFTER my daughter went to college... my husband and I separated 12 years ago... he died almost two years ago... and, he was dating other women when I moved to Colorado with Brian... my late husband got engaged to another woman 4 months after I moved to Colorado with Brian.

[karenshiver]

If you have charges against him, then you have a means of substantuating the abuse. Contact COVA and see what resourses they have to offer. You should be able to get on food stamps through the County. You don't have to take a cab, take a bus. Contact Colorado Works, they can help you with job hunting. An eviction will take at least several weeks once you have missed your rent payment so you have some time but not a lot. Do you have anything you can sell to get some cash? If you are evicted its all going to end up on the curb, you might as well get what you can for it.

It sounds like you left a marriage to be with this man? And left your kids behind?

I just looked up Colorado Works... if I am mistaken, please let me know, but, this is what their website states:

Colorado Works is Colorado's Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) program and provides public assistance to families in need. Colorado Works Program is designed to assist customers in becoming self-sufficient by strengthening the economic and social stability of families.



Under Colorado Works, applicants who are either pregnant or have dependent children, and who meet other eligibility requirements, can receive monthly basic cash assistance (BCA) payments, help with emergency household expenses, and/or services such as counseling and training.

I am not pregnant and I do not have minor children... both of my children are almost 30 years old.

[karenshiver]

Brian was arrested for domestic violence in Nevada and he has not received a conviction yet... his trial date is in February.

[WildChild]

I was just curious what the situation was with your family and children. Much as we hate to ask our kids for help sometimes that is necessary. If they are minors, of course that isn't an option. I'm going to delete or edit you personal info that you posted as that could compromise your identity.

I would talk with Colo Works, even if you do not fit their profile, they should have information as to agencies that can help you. They can refer you to other programs.

[karenshiver]

I was just curious what the situation was with your family and children. Much as we hate to ask our kids for help sometimes that is necessary. If they are minors, of course that isn't an option. I'm going to delete or edit you personal info that you posted as that could compromise your identity.

I would talk with Colo Works, even if you do not fit their profile, they should have information as to agencies that can help you. They can refer you to other programs.

I have two adult children... one is married; one is attending medical school... they will not help me. I have asked, trust me.

[karenshiver]

Brian and I spent Christmas vacation with my father in Utah... we stayed at a casino in Mesquite, Nevada. Brian became violent toward me in the hotel room... the neighboring hotel guests called security... security called the Nevada Police Department, and, they arrested Brian... he spend 12 hours in jail. I begged my father to please let me stay in St. George with him... I told him I did not want to go home with Brian... my father told me to go back to Colorado with Brian.

I love my family, but, they are not very supportive and they will not help me. I told my father I would not spend Christmas vacation with him because I did not want to spend Christmas with Brian... my father still booked a hotel room for both of us and paid for it... then begged me to come to St. George for Christmas... even gave me the whole guilt trip about how old he was and how he may not live another year... I refused... I said, I will come and visit you, but without Brian. My father said, "No. I have to have both of you here." His new wife called and said how upset my father was that I was not coming to St. George for Christmas with Brian and how my father had just wasted $160.00 on the hotel room... I told my father that I could not spend 5 days and nights in a hotel room with Brian... my father said, "Do it for me. And, I got you guys a room with two beds." I know it sounds like I am making all of this up, but, it is the God's honest truth. My father bugged me so much about coming for Christmas that I finally agreed. And, guess what happened? Brian hit me and got sent to jail on a domestic violence charge. And, my father still told me to go back to Colorado with him!!!!! Get help from my family... what a joke!

[karenshiver]

My brother just wrote me a letter (on Facebook) like five minutes ago... he still has not offered his home to me, but, only blamed me for still being with Brian... I am still with Brian because my stupid family will not offer me a way out... I need for one of them to open their home to me and let me come stay with them until I can get my life back on track.

Instead, my brother said, "I am so sorry that you feel that way Karen. I have tried to talk to you and give you advice, but whatever I tell you, you ignore and make your own decisions. I see that once again you are back with Brian, so I make that point. You are my sister yesterday, today and tomorrow. I can't solve your problems any more than you can fix ours, but I can pray that all things workout. We tried to call in the past but normally your phone was not working or you did not answer it. You have to make your own choice if you want to dis-own our family. may God bless, Pete

I called him and begged him for help... whether it was money or a place to stay... he told me to leave Brian, without offering any help (and he is an ex-cop)! Anyone can say, "Leave him," but, I need help leaving him, and my brother only told me to leave him, without offering me any help or assistance, and, then my brother blamed me today for still being with Brian! Also, after my husband died, I called my brother's wife to cry to her, because my children were grieving and so was I... even though my marriage ended, I still loved my husband very much and his death devastated me. She was in the grocery store and told me she was at the check out stand and would call me back in a few minutes... a year and a half later, I am still waiting for her to call me back... and, this is how my brother and his lovely wife have treated me. And, now, they are yelling at me for disowning them?

[karenshiver]

Also, my brother and his stupid wife never sent me a sympathy card after my husband died, and, when I told them I was getting married (10 years ago, when Brian first proposed and I thought he was a nice guy), my brother and his stupid wife said they were too busy to come to my wedding and that it was too far away to travel anyway (it was going to be in California)... yet, a few months later my brother and his stupid wife took a cruise to Europe or something and had to fly to California to catch the cruise boat... so who is disowning who here... it sounds like they stopped loving me a long time ago.

[unsuregirl]

My brother just wrote me a letter (on Facebook) like five minutes ago... he still has not offered his home to me, but, only blamed me for still being with Brian... I am still with Brian because my stupid family will not offer me a way out... I need for one of them to open their home to me and let me come stay with them until I can get my life back on track.

Why did he suddenly write a letter? Did you tell him about the current situation? Did you tell your brother than you are being denied food money and have no means to survive on?

[karenshiver]

I am upset about everything... after my husband died, Brian got deployed (like a month after my husband died) and I had a breakdown... I felt I had lost two men that I loved dearly in one year... my family was not there for me... they did not even want me to come for vacation... they did not call me, they did not send condolence cards, they did not check up on me to make sure I was okay, they did not come to visit me or offer to let me come visit them, they completely ignored me at a time of my life when I needed them most... I spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone that same year too cause no one invited me or offered to buy me a stupid bus ticket or wanted to come see me and no one sent me Christmas cards, not even Brian... I did not get one gift that year even, not even from Brian... everyone left me on my own to suffer my breakdown alone... and, now, when I need them again, they scatter to the four winds and pretend I do not exist. None of them even called me for my birthday or sent birthday cards this year! My father at least gave me birthday money and sent me flowers and money for Christmas... everyone else, including my own children, IGNORED ME! I have been abused all my life... hit, slapped, kicked, spit on, raped, everything under the sun... I just want to hide in my home and hope the world fades away.