[Mr. ED]

Howdy back-atcha:

If you could poke your tongue through the Internet I doubt if you would have to think about it. I like your sense of humor. You would probably put your thumbs in your ears and wiggle your fingers! I know I'm right!

I got curious about Aviators and found one I like. It's not Brad Pitt...but then I've yet to find one of Catherine Zeta-Jones. Nuff said! I like wolves because pound for pound they are the smartest animals on four legs. I know nothing about visitor or private messages nor anything else about this site. So if you have some extra time on your hands maybe you can explain in a visitors message. What is a visitor's message and how do you send/receive one? But from the number of posts you've made in six months, I don't think you have too much extra time.

Which character on 'Friends' was Chandler? They've been off the air here for quite a while and I forgot. I happen to like the name Chandler for a woman. It's different. Now that you've touched on the subject, I won't ask you about your wish(s) unless you run
out of subjects. LOL

My wife said to tell you 'thank you' for the nice intelligent letter you wrote. I showed her because you wanted to know who she is. But your right, she doesn't like to talk about herself. She is a scientist, professor and has a doctorate in Marine Biology. And here she can't find a job because she's overqualified. Don't laugh, I went with her a few times to the University here. But you might have heard, right now it's tough to get a job in almost any field here. You get people from Bosnia looking for work in Australia? We get a mix of everybody but mainly Mexicans from the south and Cubans from the south east. Cuba is only 90 miles from Miami, Florida and now there is a portion of Miami known as 'Little Cuba'. Aka 'the Barrio'!

When you said "HAHA, there are so many men here I have now lost count...." did you mean in Adelaid or on the site? Now I'm getting nosy, already. How long was it before the dreaded NON-COMMUNICATIVE disease set in between you and your partner? Only answer or talk about it if you care to. As for me, I have two grown and gone kids and my late wife died in a single rollover car accident 22 years ago. Why did I wait so long? You want a list??? LOL!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

50 QUESTIONS? haha ,

I posted a vistors message on your page, see if it makes sense, regarding vistors messages.

Chandler is not Ross, nor Joey so that makes him to other one... haha... sense of humor.

Thank your wife back, pitty no one else replied but obviously either because she is on the site, and they felt not to, or what can i say? They feel that you have gotten some thoughts that you can work with....

Well, lol, I would like to "wish" that all those men were reality here, in Adelaide, pining after me, fantasy? Ahh, na, one man girl.. No i was referring to this site. It is nice to get both imput from Men and Women on subjects and we seem to have quite a few men around now... plus off course, i like getting them back when they decide to dis me.... in a "fun" way, don't stress guys....

Non communication....

I think personally it can happen to anyone, at anytime and once it does, it's a hard cycle to break.

We always communicated about anything "he" liked, but was never really able to communicate about anything involving my life... He was always opinionated, right, and that was the hurdle that i could not jump.

Obviously, prior to Marriage it didn't surfice, or I was blind one of the two... Probably a mixture of both.

I think it really started when finances started... Commitment was a difficult thing for him.

It meant loans, therefore debt and that is something he has difficulty living with ie) we re-mortgaged the house and extended, debt. So, it was my fault that his mortgage was now much higher..? Um, think that is called marriage but never mind... But yes, it was My fault.

Or, lol, we purchased a commercial property jointly as the repayments were the same as my lease, for work, at that location, debt.

So, constant put down regarding my business, yet he never set a foot in the door to help, i battled the beginning of a business alone and wore three hats, to do so whilst he did jack shirt..

Sound mad? Na, stup1d for marrying him? Yep... Friend type person? Good one, commitment? No way, which lead to communication problems, anger problems with him and therefore, emotional abuse and actions, never physical but enough to make me walk in the end, as you do.

Now, you don't sound anything like that, just the opposite, compasionate, caring, communcative, always seeking i imagine for ways to improve a situation, so if there is less communcation than you want there to be, then as i said, it's a young marriage, time will help, the issues you raised in your thread, i think, as i said, were based on her feeling guilty for the initial lie and the later, because you destroyed the photos so fear of communicating her thoughts on that particular subject.

Thanks for making me spill.ahhh..

Haha... I have no bones about it, all good, I am in a happy place and nothing really ever gets me down, I know how to handle things and move on, that's called life.

CW

[Mr. ED]

#1...Some women lie and cheat as much as men.
#50..Some women are complete 'Goldiggers'.
For numbers 2 through 49 you have to use a little imagination, or put on a pair of pants!
Notice I said SOME!

I might have mislead some people. My wife is on the WH Forum but not on this particular site. You sound like you could handle yourself pretty good in a one to one debate with a man. There must be someone "pining after you in Adelaide". Whose picture is your Avatar? Was it taken in an airport or similar crowded place?

A portion of your story sounds familiar. I refinanced before my wife came to this country, and now I'm glad I did. After we got married in St. Petersburg, she stayed behind for 6 months to tie up loose ends. She worked at the Hydrometeorological Institute and taught and read lectures at the University there. She still keeps an apartment over there, which makes me wonder sometimes. But then again, I'm all she has in this country. I've heard similar stories of men taking their wives for granted at least that's what it sounds like. It's very easy for a man to slip into that 'mode' and the realization usually comes when it is too late. After "playing the field" for 19 years, I learned my lesson. I did have some 'guests' from time to time.

I also don't like to live in debt. The easy way to do that, I found is DON"T use the credit cards. If your message was a visitors message...what's the difference? I probably got something wrong! I haven't taken the time to explore this site.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What, they like wearing the pants in the house? haha...

I am a boss at work personally, never at home, prefer equality with a tad of you rule...

I do believe as i said, i did not answer for 3 days, simply as you wrote and yes, my wife is on this forum. Pretty sure they were your words, and no i am not going back to the beginning just to be right.

I have many whom may pine, haha, however, this time of my life i want to ensure i don't waste it on a wrong relationship, not adverse to a good relationship that may not eventuate, purely not to "settle", as most women do.

The photo is my I am accross from work at a Hotel with staff and they took the photo, didn't mind it, as i am a thinker and it reflects that .

I do agree, that it can be easy to slip into a scenario but it should be just as easy to get them out of it, however, you are correct, they do indeed realise it just a tad too late, when all feelings have gone and you have given your best... Never mind, he will find someone else and keep seperate bank accounts and the reno's are done so she won't get blammed, lol.

As for the message board, click on your name and look at your profile where i left a message and click on my name there and see if you can send me one, but i truly and no one really knows, if it is the fact that you can't do so until 33 posts, or, if you can but not send private messages until you reach those posts.

Give it a go, who knows? tell me after, it may help people haha be that pigeon? only joking....

Well, now that we know she is not on the Forum other's may have a squis and make their thoughts?

The un-known in life sometimes can be good and sometimes can be bad.

CW

[Mr. ED]

Well, I clicked around a little and found the friends list, but I think your right about the 33 posts to be able to send a visitor message. Thanks for telling me I can split my posts.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

well if i keep replying to you even if no one ever replies to this thread, hahaha, then i can help you get there, I have accepted your request, see if you can send me a message now?

LOL.. CW adds another count for Mr Ed.

Plus you can go to the Lounge and play a few games with others, it will happen then over night, or you can click on my who loves cats and dogs, and help me raise money for sad, poor animals that need us..

Few suggestions as I do.

CW

[Mr. ED]

It shows your mini stats, friends, albums and visitor messages but not how to post one. Now there's a LOUNGE????

[CHANDLERS WISH]

lol...

Let's just get you to 33 posts and you can work it from there.

Right up the top- Girl Talk - click on that and it says Lounge, click on that and you can see a variety of fun little ryhme games, etc have a brouse.

CW

[lostinlife]

i dont know a realationship thats completely honest from the start ever hear of the saying if you want to know me come live with me. yes she had pictures of a man an ex who doesnt just because you get married doesnt mean your life before stops she moved over packed all her stuff i dont think she said right better go through everything in case it upsets you she was exicted and moved found the pits and then you saw them and freaked out and she only e mailed him she has moved from a different country nows noone bar you why did you get so distant and why did you come on the same site as she is on to say all this. Your the one who has trust issues she married you not him she is still with you not him. I think you would have got a better response if you hadnt said she was on this site did the person you spoke to tell you to do this have a wager.
Its obvious she knows how you feel why not talk to her now and maybe a bit more understanding to her .

[Mr. ED]

lostinlife:
If you read thread #14 of this post you will see the sequence of how things happened. My wife is in the WH forum but not in this section: "Fiance/Husband". She knew I was posting the story which is all true as Chandlers Wish stated it except my wife won't be eligible for citizenship in the U.S. until this December. Thanks for the reply.