[PeaceAndLove]

Help Me!

Okay, so im 14 and im getting really serious with my boyfriend. &I have butt hair Im so afraid of his reaction if he sees it. and i REALLY want to get rid of it. can you even get waxed at 14?!!?!? it makes me feel better to know others are dealing with this, but still i need to solve this problem! i haven't ever shaved that far, but apparently it does not work i see. and i doubt my mom would ever let me get laser removal. i don't think she even knows i have this issue. i am 50% indian so i am pretty hairy. i HATE IT ! IM SO EMBARRASSED HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I DO!? IT NEEDS TO BE GONE SOOON!

[GlassDaemon]

rosewhite... sounds like peach fuz to me, mines probably darker than yours just cause the body hair I do have is all dark. I have hair on my rear, I notice it... and I don't care. Boyfriend don't care either. It's not like it's coarse and thick, he bites my rear a lot. O.o; so apparently it's no big deal. Just light brown, fine hair (on me anyway)

Really, don't worry about it, it's normal to have body hair.

[rosewhite]

I'm in my mid 20's and have had the same problem for years and thought I was one of FEW that struggled with it. I am so relieved to find this thread....I have no idea if I truly have a problem or not because I have not talked about this with anyone ever (too embarrassed). I have longer than peach fuzz hair on my buttocks that is blonde and lightly dark all over (you can only see it in strong lighting or sun)...but it is all very fine hair. Is that something to be concerned about?? I'm so insecure about it that I'm absolutely terrified for any guy to see or feel it...I was thinking of laser treatment but I don't think my hair is dark enough for it to really work.

[GlassDaemon]

Oh, to the guy I saw post (men are suppose to be hairy) little secret there, but I'm a weird female, I like my men with a bit of chest hair, but I also don't completely shave my hootchie or go awall about shaving everything else. lol I've got some pretty dark arm hair and my bf, when we started dating, asked me if I'd shave it which I quickly told him that was not an option. I'm heavy Italian so I've pretty dark hair across my body, and I'm not shaving all of it, I do the underarms, legs and part of my hootchie cause I love the oral luff and I can't blame him for not wanting to go down to a bush. Not to mention the facial stuff I have to tend to regularly.

Ultimately, body hair is natural, yes it looks nice when it's not there, but there's no reason to get stressed over it.

[GlassDaemon]

I'm trying to figure out if it's actual dark manly hair or if it's just peach fuz... cause I've peach fuzz on my booty too, though I have a bit of a dark spot on my lower back my bf pointed out to me which I smiled and told him "I can't see it so it's not going anywhere," he laughed and said he didn't care anyway. It's not like it's black, coarse hair either, just a slightly darker spot that can be noticed. Which if it's not black coarse stuff... I don't understand why you're trying to get rid of it anyway. XD I mean if it's like your pubic hair I could understand.

[jeanny]

I have a fine layer of hair across my butt as well, and like everyone else, I was (and still sort of am) freaked out about it. I haven't shaved it, simply because its not super hairy and I don't want to have to constantly keep re-shaving it and fear that it will keep coming in thicker and thicker. For those of you who mentioned it, does waxing your butt really hurt?

Me too have it but not that thick. I find it normal and there's nothing to be ashamed of.. But if its too think then thats the time to shave it a little..

[Brosiphina]

Ya, so i'm a dude, an i got hair, and I shaved it once, I was 13, but it got prickly, and it was just a pain sitting in school, so now I'm just letting it grow, hehe, so should I wax it?....

[Francesca_R]

I am 16 and became very aware of how dark my hair was when I was 12, my sister who was 15 at the time pointed it out. I have extremely dark hair on my arms because when I was 10 I was asleep and my sister shaved my arms as a joke, only the hair has grown back longer, darker and thicker. I also have the problem where the hair on my bottom is long, dark, coarse, thick and grows back very quickly leaving ingrown hair, pimples, rashes and soreness. I made the mistake of starting to shave after my doctor told me to when I was 13, and so I now have the problem 10 times worse. Because of this, I have ended up having some very embarrassing conversations with my mum, who of course will not let me have a full body wax. And so I bought and epilator, of which I am trying tonight. I am also going to try and persuade my mum into letting me try Kalo hair Inhibitor.

Many people say this is a problem that doesn't matter, but in the minds of people that have this problem, it does matter, and subconsciously it does matter to everyone, tests have proven it. I personally am very embarrassed to have someone anywhere near my private area, but maybe as I grow up, I may decide that I want it done. My point is, do what you feel comfortable doing, not what other people expect you to do, people will always be prejudice and dislike what is different, it is the way we get through the day, finding faults in ourselves and each other. If it really does bother you, try to pluck up the courage, ask a family member or friend to go with you, and together get waxed or whatever makes you feel comfortable. Don’t let something like this bring you down, my mum has been drumming that into my head for about 3 years now, if that doesn’t work, try being open with a friend you trust, you may find out they have the same problem.

Hope this helps and good luck.

[kaygold]

wow!!

I am SOOO absolutely relieved because i, like everyone else on here, thought i was the only one! im 16 now and like a lot of you i have been shaving my butt for a couple years now because im scared of someone seeing hair or my boyfriend touching my butt and feeling hair! even when i shave theresz still stubble. but im sooo happy that everyone has shared their story's and tips (: here a couple of things that girls SHOULD NOT DO IF THEY NOTICED HAIR

• absolutley DO NOT shave if you haven't yet, no matter how bad it is. it will get worse, try bleach

• if you have shaved and you want to try a hair removal cream, do not do it for at least 2 weeks after shaving because you will chemically burn the tender shaved skin. (been there done that and it was horrible, i got red marks everywhere and had to tell my boyfriend that i tried to spray tan after shaving and that's what happened)

• DO NOT spend a lot of money on laser if you cant do all the recommended treatments. i had to stop two treatments short and omgoshh it was gone for a while but then just started growing back again
  

also id like to say thank you for everyone that has posted, you see i have hair EVERYWHERE because of my very hairy father, my mom was luck and has barley none. im always envious of all my friends who don't have to worry about shaving because that is the method ive been having to do every day, i feel stuck in my own skin and its a horrible feeling. my father has Israeli in him WAY WAY back, but that's about it with the ethnic heritage, and im white so i had no idea other white girls got it too hah. but anyways even when i shave some places are smooth but most of it i can feel stubble. my dad and mom call me obsessed because ill spend about 40 minutes in the shower just trying to get everything, i shave my legs, butt, vagina(sometimes), back, stomach, in between my boobs, armpits, toes hands, and knuckles. and if its not smooth i have to shave again. im soo self conscious about it.

i do bleach and partially tweeze my lip and jaw, bleach my arms because thankgoodness i never shaved them.

I'm, definitely going to consider the kalo hair inhibiting spray after wax's because ive heard great things about it. but thanks everyone this has been an amazing help to mee

[bellaok2010]

what i use is NAIR. best and easier way for me is get a full length mirror. stripdown butt naked sit with ur legs open and use ur fingers. u c exactly what ur doing and make sure ur careful enough not to touch ne thing but the places with hairs!!!! IT WILL BURN! as for ur butt lay propped up legs up and again use ur fingers make sure 2b very careful when goin near the actually hole. IT WILL BURN! i havent shaved in years cuz i always itch afterwards. so NAIRS been my best friend. i even have my bf use it on his privates. I HATE A HAIRY MAN! good luck.

Thanks for your advice! I dislike a hairy man too. I love long hair !
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