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  • WildChild
    Banned
    • Sep 2008
    • 14142

    Originally posted by sungoddesschelsy
    To be technical I was molested from the time I was 9 to 13, So truthfully that would have been my virginity gone but I don't think of it like that... I'd say my first time was when I was 19 with my current boyfriend. He didn't know it, and was surprised when he saw my look of discomfort. He then asked me and I avoided the question long enough for him to finish, he then held me close to him and let me cry in his shoulder. I told him about my childhood a few hours later and he said he was sorry he didn't learn all of that before we had had sex... The technical first time I do not remember, (as I have blocked alot out and it comes back randomly) but the second time was not extremely enjoyable either. If I could do it all over I probably wouldn't have lost it at all yet and I'm 23
    Oh darling! I'm so sorry you went through that. Have you come to enjoy sex at all? You can't let your molester take that away from you.

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    • DevilishDemento
      Junior Member
      • Aug 2010
      • 3

      My first time was when I was 13, almost 14. I felt a little pressured into it, but funnily enough I still don't regret it. There was nothing wrong with doing it at that age because I was always using protection and I'm still with that guy now, four years later! So perhaps because of the sex I found my soul mate. I think it's only a problem having sex at a young age if you don't use protection, which unfortunately so many don't. But don't feel left out, it's fine to lose your virginity at any age, and I'm sure that you will!

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      • teenie
        Member
        • Sep 2010
        • 63

        I'm also 22 and a virgin (23 in a few months!), i've had many offers and turned them down because i was waiting for marriage. Since i recently (3 years ago) no longer believe in my religion anymore I'm taking steps to stop feeling guilty about my sexuality and when all the planets are aligned (lol) i will loose it to my bf who i dearly love.
        I'll let you know how it feels because i always went around researching out of curiosity and i want to help also!
        I will say that i was sexually abused (with his finger) by a "boyfriend" who let's say didn't last long after that. It hurt soooooo bad for days!!! I think this was due to me not wanting it at ALL (dry and tight from not being aroused), and also because he maybe didn't cut his nails short enough and scratched me inside.

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        • Beckers
          Senior Member
          • Jan 2009
          • 132

          Originally posted by teenie
          I'm also 22 and a virgin (23 in a few months!), i've had many offers and turned them down because i was waiting for marriage. Since i recently (3 years ago) no longer believe in my religion anymore I'm taking steps to stop feeling guilty about my sexuality and when all the planets are aligned (lol) i will loose it to my bf who i dearly love.
          I'll let you know how it feels because i always went around researching out of curiosity and i want to help also!
          I will say that i was sexually abused (with his finger) by a "boyfriend" who let's say didn't last long after that. It hurt soooooo bad for days!!! I think this was due to me not wanting it at ALL (dry and tight from not being aroused), and also because he maybe didn't cut his nails short enough and scratched me inside.
          Gahh! That's terrible! That's happened to me before and it hurt a lot too, because I wasn't into it and the guys nails weren't cut. But I had never been fingered before so i wanted to try it, but it was bad just because it was with the wrong person. I hope that doesn't happen to you again.

          So is what your saying that since you no longer believe in religion you aren't waiting for marriage? Do you have a boyfriend currently? Is he the one? Good luck finding him, if you haven't found him yet. =] Keep us posted!

          P.s. nothing is wrong with being a 22(almost 23) year old virgin. Whenever you're mentally ready, is the only right time, doesn't matter how old you are.





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          • summer16
            Member
            • Nov 2009
            • 13

            I was 16 when I lost my virginity to my boyfriend who was 19. We had been dating since I was fourteen and he was seventeen and we had had fooled around probably 4 or 5 months into the relationship all the way up until we had sex so he had me prepared, if that makes since. I was a little tight still because he was bigger than I expected. But with a little lube, we went at it. It didn't hurt me at all and I didn't bleed. It was such a bonding experience for the two of us. We stared each other in the eyes the whole time and told each other we loved one another. We cared about each others feelings and how their body was reacting to everything (he was a virgin before, too). Overall, it was a lovely experience for both of us. It brought us so much closer; to a level that we had never been to before. We're still together to this day. He is my soulmate and the love of my life. I feel extremly glad that I shared this experience with someone I loved and trusted with my whole world. I may have been a little young to some people, but when it's right...it's right. You can't deny that.

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            • RN2BinTN
              Junior Member
              • Apr 2010
              • 9

              I was 15 when I started having oral sex. He went down on me first, and I returned the favor manually. After a couple of weeks I gave him a BJ. We continued "oral only" for a while (a couple of months). Shortly after my 16th b-day we had IC for the first time. He was 17 and a virgin also. Usually we had fooled around at his house but first IC was in my bedroom one night when my parents were away. It hurt at first, but I never bled.

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              • Guest

                i was 15, did it with a b/f, yes it hurt, not much blood though..

                Oo and it happened at a party we were at..

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                • Sian
                  Junior Member
                  • Dec 2010
                  • 2

                  I was 14, with my bf, in his room. I'm 15 now and still with him, I don't really regret it but I do think I was too young. I was also suprised at how 'not a big deal' it was afterwards, I didn't bleed but was a bit sore after. We were open with each other and talked about it before

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                  • earlgreymint
                    Member
                    • Dec 2010
                    • 10

                    I was 18 and it was with my first bf. He picked me up from my school for a "weekend sleepover" at his place. He was a gentleman, we had a nice dinner and romantic evening, etc. When we were on his bed, he asked if I was sure about it, and I nodded. He was a bit nervous because it was also his first time. It didn't bleed at all, it also didn't hurt for me. In fact, I didn't feel much of anything since I wasn't aroused at all (and maybe my senses in that area weren't developed back then...). Or maybe he just wasn't good *giggle*.
                    Hello!

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                    • sonia73
                      Junior Member
                      • Dec 2010
                      • 2

                      i was 23 on my wedding night with my hsb i am afraid of sex n virginity bc never hav bf n never talk with any male it was first time somebody see m naked it was hurting very much we slept naed whole night n tied it but it heart m a lot then we did it second night it heart but not bleed n it also heart some nights

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