[Stillness]

Stillness, I have. Good ebook with information similar to the above. PM ME YOUR EMAIL an I'll Send it.
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[Julie:-)]

I had been married for 16 years, and never had a lot of sex before. My husband and I are best friends, have a great family and are very close, but it seems that sexually there had been always something missing. He insisted for me to experiment with somebody else, and I finally accepted. I found that I like sex a lot more than I thought, and this had been a big turn on for my hubby, and now he wants sex every day. The problem is that he changes from lust and passion and wanting to share me, to range and jealously, and wanting me to be just his and follow his orders all the time. I don't know what I will find next day, and it is driving me crazy. Now I know how good sex can be, and I want to continue enjoying it, but I am in an emotional rollercoaster. Sometimes is better not to know what you are missing!

[Lady Syrinx]

Nature has made sexual desire not merely for pleasure seeking. The other purpose of sexual desire is to continue generation i.e. to have kids and bring them up. Confining to sexual pleasure only is like putting all eggs in one basket. Nature has assigned many roles to human beings with an adequate combination of pleasures and pains. When we turn our eyes away from the hardship of parenting and regard only the sexaul pleasure as the sole meaningful satisfier of life, then its like you are picking and choosing from a single package of pain and pleasure. I am a forty years old husband of my 33 years old wife and father of three kids and has the frequency of three times of sexual intercourse per month but my wife never feels sexually frustrated due to the fact that she has her eggs placed in different baskets. When she is in the mood of sex and if am not in such mood, her indulgence with kids increases. I remeber the period when we did not have kids for three years after getting married. My wife only wanted sex , sex, and sex and it became difficult for me to meet her sexaul demand. I suggest you should plan a baby and then every thing will be alright because resorting to Nature brings happiness, peace and satisfaction in the life.

That sounds more of a distraction from the problem than a solution... If a woman wants more sex, what she wants is more sex. The kind of love and affection you give and recieve from a baby fills a need in so many women... but it does not replace the need or desire to have intimacy with the man they are into. Thats like the need for food and water... both fill you, but you need both in different ways. Water will fill you when you are starving, but it doesn't replace the need for food... nor can you sustain yourself on water alone.

The suggestion of having kids to get the little woman to quit being so demanding for sex, is like telling a woman who is complaining about her husbands desire for her 'oh just tell him to get a second job, or a third... he will be too exhausted to pester you'.

If it works that a woman is 'less needy' for affection from her husband because of kids, it could be that she is just tired, it could be that she found something else to replace her need for intimacy... or it could very well be that she's entirely unhappy and puts all her attention on the kids to mask the hurt she feels in her marriage that lacks the type of intimacy or affection she truly wants.

Hopeless Dork,

So true. When I had lost my seex drive due mainly to issues with medication. I tried to bury myself in caring for my daughter, now 5. If anything, it made things worse. Sexual intimacy is just as important to a marriage as anything. In fact, I realized that intimacy and sexual intimacy are linked. If you're not connecting in one area you're most likely not connecting in the other.

[Lady Syrinx]

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So true. When I had lost my seex drive due mainly to issues with medication. I tried to bury myself in caring for my daughter, now 5. If anything, it made things worse. Sexual intimacy is just as important to a marriage as anything. In fact, I realized that intimacy and sexual intimacy are linked. If you're not connecting in one area you're most likely not connecting in the other.[/QUOTE]


An addition to my last post..... Why does a woman need to choose between being a mother to her children and a lover to her husband.? That POV diminishes