[ItsASecret]

But I watch it due to boredom and curiosity...its the closest I can get to sex right at this moment. But maybe their negative reaction is because women are usually less porn-friendly then men are.

Watching it so much is not a problem until it interferes with your life. Not paying bills because you would rather buy more online time with a webcam chat girl, not showering because you would rather do yourself all day, not go to work because you would rather stay home at do yourself all day, or ignore your girlfriend or wife because the online girls look better and hence you would rather do yourself than do a single thing with her....those things are a problem of reliance, simply doing it because you are single and bored is not so much a problem.

As for women not liking porn that is really a matter of the individual. Some people can tolerate it, some hate it, some love it. And that applies to both men and women. Not everyone loves the view of an actress faking an orgasm. Reasons for not liking porn are all over the place, I personally cannot stand any form. I am not attracted to women so visually I could care less about watching it since the main point of porn is the appearance of the women. So that means nothing to me. In addition I cannot stand blatant overreacting and acting, faking the way through the scene, the same "oh dear I dropped my pen guess you should bang me like crazy with 10 other guys"...not interested. The orgasms are fake, the actresses are just playing through the motions to get paid, the image itself is fake with often photoshop cropping out body parts and inserting ones from other girls (they do this to create that 'perfect' girl), the emotion is not real, all of it is just too over the top. I am not an over the top type of girl, I am very quiet and reserved. Hearing a clearly over exaggerated scream or moan to me is just annoying and all I think is "jeez that sounds like an animal in slaughter". That and the obvious over acting of bouncing around like they are having a seizure, I just do not get it because sex is not like that lol. Sex does not happen like it does on screen, ask any girl, so I just cannot get into it. Then there is 'amateur' stuff with regular people again over acting thinking they are like the professional playboy ones, cannot do it I just cannot get aroused by something that is essentially all acting. Further I have no actual fantasies so I have tried to search different forms but nothing gets me going. I am disturbed by torture/BDSM/control porn, 3somes mean nothing to me, lesbian does nothing (again because I am not attracted to girls in any way), dirty talk does nothing for me so that porn is out, raunchy cover the girl in facials and such does not get me going and so on. I have honestly tried to view stuff to keep an open mind about maybe it would get me going but nothing does, sex itself does, but in visual porn form not a thing does. So those are some examples of why a woman may not like porn the way a guy does. Of course not all women will think the same things, other women may simply love all of that and that is entirely their thing, everyone is different.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I might not be 19, but my relationships with women haven't been very extensive either. My cousin had sex with more girls by 19 than I have fantasized about in my life, lol. He probably doesn't know half that stuff since he hasn't been in too many relationships either.



I have a couple of women friends who have been coaching me to get over my fear of rejection and approach women I do like. And I read this forum quite regularly, does that count?

I understand that, it's very difficult if you haven't been in a serious, on-going relationship for at least 2 years to understand how we tick, what we prefer, what we wear, talk about... You're are in a realtionship of sorts now, with us The more you talk, the more we are "getting you"

So yes, "talking to us" on this Forum and reading other threads definately counts to some form of eductation.

Women don't like porn mainly because of 1) their insecurities especially within a relationship that it seems you prefer watching other naked women, than having sex with them or 2) that you wouild end up doing that, because whilst curiousity killed the cat Like alot of things, it can become an addiction.

[a_dub]

Watching it so much is not a problem until it interferes with your life. Not paying bills because you would rather buy more online time with a webcam chat girl, not showering because you would rather do yourself all day, not go to work because you would rather stay home at do yourself all day, or ignore your girlfriend or wife because the online girls look better and hence you would rather do yourself than do a single thing with her....those things are a problem of reliance, simply doing it because you are single and bored is not so much a problem.

As for women not liking porn that is really a matter of the individual. Some people can tolerate it, some hate it, some love it. And that applies to both men and women. Not everyone loves the view of an actress faking an orgasm. Reasons for not liking porn are all over the place, I personally cannot stand any form. I am not attracted to women so visually I could care less about watching it since the main point of porn is the appearance of the women. So that means nothing to me. In addition I cannot stand blatant overreacting and acting, faking the way through the scene, the same "oh dear I dropped my pen guess you should bang me like crazy with 10 other guys"...not interested. The orgasms are fake, the actresses are just playing through the motions to get paid, the image itself is fake with often photoshop cropping out body parts and inserting ones from other girls (they do this to create that 'perfect' girl), the emotion is not real, all of it is just too over the top. I am not an over the top type of girl, I am very quiet and reserved. Hearing a clearly over exaggerated scream or moan to me is just annoying and all I think is "jeez that sounds like an animal in slaughter". That and the obvious over acting of bouncing around like they are having a seizure, I just do not get it because sex is not like that lol. Sex does not happen like it does on screen, ask any girl, so I just cannot get into it. Then there is 'amateur' stuff with regular people again over acting thinking they are like the professional playboy ones, cannot do it I just cannot get aroused by something that is essentially all acting. Further I have no actual fantasies so I have tried to search different forms but nothing gets me going. I am disturbed by torture/BDSM/control porn, 3somes mean nothing to me, lesbian does nothing (again because I am not attracted to girls in any way), dirty talk does nothing for me so that porn is out, raunchy cover the girl in facials and such does not get me going and so on. I have honestly tried to view stuff to keep an open mind about maybe it would get me going but nothing does, sex itself does, but in visual porn form not a thing does. So those are some examples of why a woman may not like porn the way a guy does. Of course not all women will think the same things, other women may simply love all of that and that is entirely their thing, everyone is different.

Yeah, that BDSM and rough stuff is totally unappealing. The only time I've seen it (as opposed to "watching" which involves willingness and entertainment) was when a buddy of mine showed off his collection to a friend and me. I was actually disgusted because the girl was being slapped (in the face), and actually threw up due to the actor shoving it down her throat. Def not my cup of tea. I will disagree with you on threesomes/DP though...that stuff is pretty good if done without any sadistic elements. Larger gang-bangs, not a fan of those that much.

What little sex I have had, I tried to copy the basic gyst of what I've seen. Obviously not the idiotic lines and over-acting. But I did try to copy the moves and the positions. Since that is all the experience I have, I can't really comment on how real sex is different from what you see on film. I guess the real stuff is more sensual and passionate with a lot more kissing and less grimacing and screaming at the top of your lungs???

[a_dub]

I understand that, it's very difficult if you haven't been in a serious, on-going relationship for at least 2 years to understand how we tick, what we prefer, what we wear, talk about... You're are in a realtionship of sorts now, with us The more you talk, the more we are "getting you"

So yes, "talking to us" on this Forum and reading other threads definately counts to some form of eductation.

Its both an honor and a pleasure to trade posts with you ladies!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

At 32 posts and counting just from late December, I am betting you will become addicted

Passion is a must in a relationship, not just in bed but out.. A person who is passionate about "life" brings that into the bedroom..

Women are emotional creatures.. Simple things like a kiss on the cheek or a stroke on the neck (for no reason) makes a woman feel loved and in that, she gives back 10 fold...

Sex is sex to us, lust... Once you get past the lust, you need passion, unless it's just horny sex, taken just because, there is sensuality involved in kissing and touching which hightens the mood

[a_dub]

At 32 posts and counting just from late December, I am betting you will become addicted

Passion is a must in a relationship, not just in bed but out.. A person who is passionate about "life" brings that into the bedroom..

Women are emotional creatures.. Simple things like a kiss on the cheek or a stroke on the neck (for no reason) makes a woman feel loved and in that, she gives back 10 fold...

Sex is sex to us, lust... Once you get past the lust, you need passion, unless it's just horny sex, taken just because, there is sensuality involved in kissing and touching which hightens the mood

I think about 30 of those posts came in the last 3 days leaving aprox. 2 posts in the first 3 weeks, hah!

But I can only imagine the field day my buddies would have if they find out I visit a "women's health" forum, lol.

[brunettebabe]

my man does not jack off at all. in fact he is kind of weird about his penis. practically the only time he wants to touch it is when he is peeing.

[Guest]

As a young lad I used to feel guilty about doing it myself. It seemed (as though someone had planted the idea in my head) that I was comitting some small crime. I had to do it though otherwise I would have exploded. But I think (my view only) that people should only do it themselves if they are not in a loving relationship. When you love someone then it's far better if/when they play with your penis! Like I said,especially as you ladies have such lovely soft skin. I feel every stroke of my g/f's fingers on my genitals when she is "servicing me".

[Unshaw]

I think that some of you people need to eat a teaspoon of concrete and harden up.

Who cares if a man masturbates, there could be alot of reasons for doing it. The partner could be injured or have an illness. The partner could be with holding sex as a form of blackmail to get something they want or to say they are the dominant gender in the relationship.

They have not had a partner for a long time, because they don't fit the male model from the underwear add. Women think that they are not the only people who have hang ups about their body image. How many men out there spent alot of the time in the gym trying to get the 6 pack that all of the women want, or getting hair removal done from chests and backs.

Everybody has masturbated at one point in their life weather they like to admit it or not, the same goes for porn weather it was in a dream or on a movie or computer screen they still have seen those imagies so don't make out you are all perfect.

[ItsASecret]

I think that some of you people need to eat a teaspoon of concrete and harden up.

Who cares if a man masturbates, there could be alot of reasons for doing it. The partner could be injured or have an illness. The partner could be with holding sex as a form of blackmail to get something they want or to say they are the dominant gender in the relationship.

They have not had a partner for a long time, because they don't fit the male model from the underwear add. Women think that they are not the only people who have hang ups about their body image. How many men out there spent alot of the time in the gym trying to get the 6 pack that all of the women want, or getting hair removal done from chests and backs.

Everybody has masturbated at one point in their life weather they like to admit it or not, the same goes for porn weather it was in a dream or on a movie or computer screen they still have seen those imagies so don't make out you are all perfect.

Yeah, there are situations when people do not care. The problem comes from when a partner chooses the computer screen over their SO, that is the problem.