[Jim60]

I'm not sure, it's just an urge. If cumming externally, it feels much more satisfying and intimate than turning it away. A bit like the difference between using a condom and not, the actual sensation is not that different, but, mentally, without feels much more intimate and satisfying. It's probably primitive - the whole point of sex at root is procreation which needs the exchange of fluids. No matter how modern we are, we still are driven in part by urges from some deep dingy part of our brains we are not even aware of day to day.

[Guest]

It's a show of humiliation for her and a sign of domanation on your part..

[Hopeless Dork]

I think its just intimacy... showing how much you embrace your partner, everything about them. I don't know how women would feel if their guy was going down on them and would stop every few moments to wipe his face on a towel or spit in a cup... that made ick faces the entire time and was like... 'uhhh try to keep that wetness under control okay???'

Giving a man oral is so clean and tidy with an eruption at the end.. a tablespoon of flud that if the guy is following a clean diet, is a fairly netural substance. Giving women oral however... she is wet the ENTIRE time... hes encountering fluids... and guys don't complain about that. I'm sure they get wetness on their faces, etc..

If they ran from the bed after our orgasms straight to the sink spitting and scrubbing their face, we'd be offended.

I think its less about humiliation and more about intimacy and embracing your partners natural sexual fluids. If anything I think it would turn a guy on to feel that acceptance..

Just like for how its more of a turn on for women to have a guy going down on them like he's starving, not meekly and making a face like he's eating expired cabbage.

[Jim60]

Love it!

Instead of telling her how much I love and desire her, I just dump a massive load on her chest. QED!

But it could backfire, what if there were only a couple of weak spurts for whatever reason, she might be like "last week you loved me 5 big squirts, now suddenly it's only two weak ones, whats wrong?" And all the fun would be gone from it!

But she might go for the "I want to show you how much I love you" approach so will try it when the time seems right.

Thanks for your input.

For guys, how far they squirt is related to the passion they feel at the time of climaxing. Not much passion equals a few short squirts and than a bunch of dribbles. A lot of passion equals maybe 3 to 5 big squirts and then smaller ones and dribbles. If it is done inside the SO, there is no demonstration of the passion the guy feels at that time. A lot of guys like to demonstrate that passion to the person who caused it.

[Hopeless Dork]

For guys, how far they squirt is related to the passion they feel at the time of climaxing. Not much passion equals a few short squirts and than a bunch of dribbles. A lot of passion equals maybe 3 to 5 big squirts and then smaller ones and dribbles. If it is done inside the SO, there is no demonstration of the passion the guy feels at that time. A lot of guys like to demonstrate that passion to the person who caused it.

Thats the truth right there. I know when I have worked my guy up something serious and when he's really into it ... because his ejaculation is force to be reckoned with lol... on the odd night where were both kind of tired, and its more... to the point ... its a bit less feirce when he comes. I love his orgasms now matter if they are mild or strong... but I feel so sexy when I can tell , not just by his ejaculation, but by the way he moves, and sounds.. that I just rocked his world lol

[Jim60]

HD - I'm sure your right.

But some people find things yucky that others don't. I am fine with my wifes fluids, all part of the fun- we are both very clean. But there are guys who are really not keen going down.

If you think about it too much, french kissing could seem gross. If your loved one spat in a glass would you drink his/her saliva? Probably not, yet we all french and love it and it's much the same in terms of fluid exchange. It,'s all in the mind, I'm sure my wife not letting me finish in her mouth has nothing to do with the taste.

[WildChild]

I think humilation vs intimacy is in the attitude and circumstances. It can be either.

Men who masterbate frequently are going to have less volume and not as strong an ejaculation. If he already got himself off a couple times that day, there isn't as much edge to his desire or need, its less intense and there is less ejaculate.

[Jim60]

It's a show of humiliation for her and a sign of domanation on your part..

As done in a porno,or in a dysfunctional relationship, or forced - yes. But in a loving relationship where it's consensual, absolutly not. It depends on the feelings behind the act more than the act itself.

You could say the same about many sexual acts after all.

I think humilation vs intimacy is in the attitude and circumstances. It can be either.

Exactly.

But guys, please hold off with all this "4 or 5 big squirts" "already got himself off a couple times that day" stuff I'm 50 and you're starting to make me feel my age LOL.

[Hopeless Dork]

You could say the same about many sexual acts after all.

Absolutely, what one person finds degrading another person finds intimate or flattering and vise versa... its all perception.

[WildChild]

Exactly.

But guys, please hold off with all this "4 or 5 big squirts" "already got himself off a couple times that day" stuff I'm 50 and you're starting to make me feel my age LOL.

lol I'm over 50 myself. Some men at 20 can only handle 1 or 2 times a day, others 6 or 7 (ah, the good old days). The more mature you get, the better you should be a creating a quality experience for your lover and yourself. I was with a man for more than two years, who past the halfway mark of his 40s was getting himself off several times a day, so there may be something to the idea of use it or lose it. BUT serious intimacy issues and using your lover's body as a masterbation tool does not make a good lover. A man who gets himself off with Rosie Palms several times a day does nothing for anyone but himself and the alienation ultimately does him no good either.

Personally I'd love to find a caring man my age who actually wanted to give and recieve. I can handle several times a day but once with love, attentiveness and caring would trump 100 times without.

Unfortunately men seem to have more trouble resolving their emotional pains in a positive manner than women and it seems to often take something that shoves their mortality in their face, like a heart attack or an accident, to jar them into dealing with their cumulative feces. Then they may become much better people but they are requiring a lot more caregiving and an active healthy woman is still getting the short end of the stick. No winning it seems sometimes.