[cowboychuck]

Ravsoma: Shoot, now I feel crappy. I didn't realize you're that young!
You're still just an innocent kid - and I don't mean that in a bad way. Keep your virginty until the right occasion. That will be when you're with the right person and it just seems the natural thing to do. Don't think you need to have sex because everyone around you say they've done it or you feel you need to keep up. If you do that, it won't be a nice experience and you'll end up regretting it (case in point what you went through before). It should feel like something you want to do with the person you're with. At your age it is also too easy to get drawn in by a guy a bit older who tells you that you have to "if you really love" me after knowing him only a short time. If he really loves you he won't force you into something you're not comfortable with. A lot of the guys I went to school with would take a girl somewhere then tell her she either had to put out or walk home. Afterwards of course they'd move on leaving the girl feeling cheap and dirty. Don't let someone coerce into you it... wait until the decisions is yours. Sorry if this comes across sounding like a parent thing - it's just that I now realize I'm old enough to be your dad and then some.

[tinkerbell930]

one more thing

cowboy-
you asked what a man could do to help her like it more....I read some of the other posts, either a woman likes it or doesn't.
I know you had some suggestions for me....so, with that said....if your wife truly hates oral and doesn't want it, then I would say you have to find another way to please her. IF it is technique (I would ask her), I know I don't like it rough....you might as well rub sandpaper on me....but when and IF my husband does it, I like it when he uses the tip of his tongue and just carresses me with it.....or teases me a little with it....if he starts to use his full on tongue and smashes his face in me, all good feelings go away. He tells me it is because he is so excited (which is great that he is excited, but not so great feeling).....anyway, this is only if it is technique that she doesn't like....slow and steady is usually the best way. If she just doesn't like it at all....I don't think she ever will...no matter what you do. It is all in the mind! Hope that helps a little.
Now if I could get my husband to do this more....and the porn and flipping around aren't going to do it. I just have to buck up and tell him I want it more....it is just one of those awkward conversations....he has no problem telling me he LOVES when I give him oral....and I tell him I love it too....but nothing ever happens. He is all talk about giving it to me, but no action. I have even said that too...in a non-threatening way...still NOTHING! UGH......

[tinkerbell930]

Cowboychuck-
I don't mean to sound b*tchy, but ravsoma is only 16 years old. And ravsoma, you shouldn't be having sex until you are a lot older. I KNOW it happens at a very young age ALL the time...trust me, I was your age over 20 years ago and I thought sex was not what everyone made it out to be. Years later I found out that it really is....with the RIGHT MAN!

Ravsoma now I'm curious: without expecting graphic details, what was (is?) horrible about it? Too rough? Felt gross? Felt demeaning? You said you hd it once; was it a long time ago when you didn't know what to expect? Was your guy just satisfying himself through it? What would you suggest guy could do to improve the experience for his lover?

It felt nasty....-twitches-

I don't reccomend anything... It was gross. >_<

[cowboychuck]

Ravsoma now I'm curious: without expecting graphic details, what was (is?) horrible about it? Too rough? Felt gross? Felt demeaning? You said you hd it once; was it a long time ago when you didn't know what to expect? Was your guy just satisfying himself through it? What would you suggest guy could do to improve the experience for his lover?

I had oral sex once... It was horrible.

Never again.

[miserable mom]

I enjoy it a lot!!! But my ex didn't do a whole lot even tho he said he liked it, I found the only to make him do was if I did him and put myself in the 69 position like cowboychuck suggested. I use to hate the fact that I loved pleasing him and actually took my time on it and he would rarely please me in that way.

[cowboychuck]

Do most women enjoy getting oral sex?

Only other thing I can suggest is that you start doing him in a position wher you can swing around to the classic 69 position then just park yourself on him. If he doesn't get the hint, tell him "my turn".

[tinkerbell930]

I appreciate the advice. I am not interested in the porn thing. We do have wonderful love making...I have dropped plenty of hints that I absolutley love when he does it....he knows I do simply because I have a huge O from it. I also have O's from our love making too. He tells me all the time that my oral that I give him is amazing...(it should I spend tons of time because he will hold back for an hour just to feel it) my jaws kill me by the time I am done. He usually gets this AT least 5 or 6 times a month. Me? 5-6 times in 3 YEARS???? UGH.....
I don't know how else to put it that I want it more. No, it isn't something I demand, but geez, I please him all the time. We make love every night of the week...if I am on my girl thing he is STILL taken care of whether it is oral or hand. Anyway....
I think a big thing for some women not enjoying it...they feel like they might smell or you really don't enjoy it, or are too rough, like one of the posters above said....it CAN hurt if you aren't gentle.

[cowboychuck]

Do most women enjoy getting oral sex?

Thanks all for your input. (no pun intended)
I guess its a very personality-varied issue. In my view, its the ultimate compliment. If I had to choose just one thing I could do, I would be happy to do that and nothing else but I am more interested in her pleasure so I will just have to keep hoping she will decide its ok again.