[Stillness]

I wonder how the ladies, especially the ones that have faked or currently do, would feel about a man faking with them.

[Guest]

I'd rather for her to be honest but if she at least cums then im happy with that. I'M CURIOUS TO KNOW WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR EACH OF YOU FEMALES ON HERE TO ORGASM AND i AGREE WITH STILLNESS

[ItsASecret]

I'M CURIOUS TO KNOW WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR EACH OF YOU FEMALES ON HERE TO ORGASM

If I am aroused enough it takes a lot, a lot, of firm pressure in a circular motion on my clitoris while I slowly grind him while being on top. Light pressure such as oral does not do it for me, any sucking motion does not even come close to the amount of pressure that the fingers give. So for me that is the way I orgasm with him, or with a vibrator but I use that maybe twice a year lol.

[BabyGirl]

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I'M CURIOUS TO KNOW WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR EACH OF YOU FEMALES ON HERE TO ORGASM

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[Little]

Stillness - If the faking was done in the same situation where I would (and have) fake(d), hopefully I would be none the wiser, but in the event he was honest, I'd be miffed at the least and require an explanation. But if my husband did it, there would be excrement stuck in the fan blades for weeks Because I'd need to know what happened to our trust, allowance for honesty, and frank communication! (PS, if my husband simply couldn't get to orgasm during a session, it wouldn't hurt me at all, in stark comparison with the lie.) It's not very fair of me to "put too much of a premium on" the male orgasm when I don't want the same insistence put on the female one for myself, but they're different dogs in the same fight.
With strangers (or people who, compared to a lifelong partner, have the value of strangers,) I think there is a kindness in some dishonesty. If a faked orgasm is what it takes to make a sexual encounter good for both members, avoid hurt feelings, and maybe pave the way for a future encounter where everybody can be honestly satisfied for real.

[Ashlee T.]

I'd say it's a safe bet that MOST people, whether male or female would prefer their partner not "fake it". I'd say that in either case, knowing so, would be hurtful even though the exact opposite was probably intended by the faking to begin with.

I have, however, heard more than one guy say that he'd rather a girl (especially if it's just a sexual/dating relationship) fake it than act like she's not enjoying it etc because then that would ruin it for him.

[ItsASecret]

I have, however, heard more than one guy say that he'd rather a girl (especially if it's just a sexual/dating relationship) fake it than act like she's not enjoying it etc because then that would ruin it for him.

I have heard this too. But faking it means you are not actually experiencing what you are acting like you are experiencing, so there is the lie or act involved in pretending that you are enjoying it to the point of orgasm. So he is enjoying the act or performance, not the real sensation that she is experiencing.

[fenseter]

I'd never considered men faking up until that point. But, yes, a man in tune with his woman can definitely tell if he's observant. I guess that if she's a really good actor she could fool him, though.
It's right.

[Ashlee T.]

So he is enjoying the act or performance, not the real sensation that she is experiencing.

Yes. Exactly. And for selfish lovers, that's plenty enough. Some men are just SO out of tune with the woman they are sleeping with (and vice versa too I'm sure, I just can't speak on that with experience..haha) truly as long as they walk away from it having "released" their load, and get even a sigh from her, they're good.

There were times in my life, earlier on that I faked it. And I did it out of what felt like intense pressure. There were just times that my body didn't really WANT to have sex, but I wanted to please him...so I did it, and it wouldn't have mattered WHAT he did I wouldn't have had an orgasm. BUT, he wouldn't have been happy and satisfied with himself if I didn't have one. And, I wanted him happy. I didn't want him to feel like a failure. But I also didn't want to reject him for sex (which at the time I thought was a big no no). Now...I am wiser and more mature. I don't fake orgasms just to please someone else. But I also don't have obligatory sex either.

[a_dub]

Yes. Exactly. And for selfish lovers, that's plenty enough. Some men are just SO out of tune with the woman they are sleeping with (and vice versa too I'm sure, I just can't speak on that with experience..haha) truly as long as they walk away from it having "released" their load, and get even a sigh from her, they're good.

There were times in my life, earlier on that I faked it. And I did it out of what felt like intense pressure. There were just times that my body didn't really WANT to have sex, but I wanted to please him...so I did it, and it wouldn't have mattered WHAT he did I wouldn't have had an orgasm. BUT, he wouldn't have been happy and satisfied with himself if I didn't have one. And, I wanted him happy. I didn't want him to feel like a failure. But I also didn't want to reject him for sex (which at the time I thought was a big no no). Now...I am wiser and more mature. I don't fake orgasms just to please someone else. But I also don't have obligatory sex either.

How does a woman fake an orgasm? Isn't it a spontaneous, autonomic kind of thing? Do they just moan and say "I'm coming" like they do in porn? Do you try and mimic the vaginal spasm thats supposed to accompany an orgasm?

It seems that men with any sort of experience should be able to spot a fake orgasm from a mile away. Or are women that good at faking it? I think it would be really hard for me to fake an orgasm, even accounting for the whole ejaculation bit.