[Magnetism]

I consider myself to be a very sexual woman, but there are things that can turn my drive off:

1) Begging, forcing or pushing for sex. The act of pressure and nagging is a huge turn off. It's like that annoying salesman that makes you want to walk out of your favorite store. When one begs, it appears as if they can't get it from anyone else.

2) Poor hygiene.

3) Toxic behaviors, such as being controlling, yelling, or being undermining. It's very difficult for me to feel sexually attracted to someone that does this. I need my space and my own sense of autonomy. My love language is being complimented and affirmed (the five love languages).

Ironically, the people I've been the most attracted to are the ones that have never once begged, pushed or tried to negotiate sex with me. They just let me come to them and voila. I personally like the elusive and cool persona. I feel very safe around that.

[PDX_Underhill]

Hi Magnetism,

From what I've read of your post, you and my girlfriend are very very similar. She has had some very spicy experiences with other people, but knowledge of that has never ever bothered me. If anything, I relish that I'm with someone who is able to be that open and honest about who they are and what they enjoy. Our mutual acceptance of each other and our mutually more liberal sexual philosophy is the cornerstone of our relationship.

Hell, hearing some of her stories turn me on something fierce. And the fact that we both oggle women together has been a special, special dynamic for me. We both have a saying... "using it doesn't break it." lol. Meaning that it's not the act of sex itself that matters, but the connection that we both care about. Sex that a partner has had in the past shouldn't have any relevance whatsoever to the sex you're having now.

There are certainly men out there who will leap at a chance to be close to you. A woman like yourself is very, very precious and hard to come by.

Best of luck... :-)

[lavi]

Magnetism,
I am an indian girl who lives in india.sex in our society is taboo.if someone especially a girl talks abt sex or being sexual she is really bad.There ia concept of arrange marriage in same caste. A person going for lovemarriage is looked upon as very sexual. Pre marital sex is taboo &not allowed. We r conditioned thinking that sex is bad & to be done only after marriage.also not to mention society's double standards for men &women.

Bt now its changing. I was a rebellious kind.i had a bf with whom I broke up bcoz he was tottally doublr standard.typical indian men.sex was a duty with him.i never enjoyed it.i wad virgin wen I met him.

After that I met this another guy.i told him everything abt my past,he was a virgin &didmt had any prblm with that. We had sex after 3mnths we met.he nevrr forced me. he gave me orgasms which I nevrr experienced before.
I nevet used to initiate & I dont know why. He asked me to do so bcoz he felt that everytime he is the one who wants sex & he is forcing that on me.

He taught me sex.we married 5yrs ago.it was inter religion lovemarriage.
We r so madly in love & very happy.

I just want to tell you that all Indian men are not bad. You dont have to find one.the One for you will come your way.
According to me being in love is more imp than sex. Good sex just follows.

My hubby loves me being sexual my trying new things in bedroom. I lve giving BJ & he loves it too.

I was alsi abused as a child. Bt now I have forgotten all abt it. I am so happy in present.

[anamikagupta]

Ultimately, its looks like selfish thought. Hope u don`t mind but i think love is tends to dedication not for selfish demand.