question on masterbation,men please comment also

[laney]

you didnt offend me,id hate for you to not post again on this i thought we were having good conv.just breaking ice.im however confused in the first couple of posts you refer to your spouce as your husband in the last you say youwife which is it??????im not offended.just tell me the truth.hope to hear back from you

[laney]

im hoping you know their is a difference between lady lane and laney.im laneytotally another person im 5'9 135 love to run and do not have big boobs.like the other chic.i like em like that thoughdidnt think i would but i gave some bigger ones a test and did not like it.!!!!!wow that rum was good i better go im gonna get lucky tonight lets hope this lasts.fill you in tomorow.

[inlovagin]

you didnt offend me,id hate for you to not post again on this i thought we were having good conv.just breaking ice.im however confused in the first couple of posts you refer to your spouce as your husband in the last you say youwife which is it??????im not offended.just tell me the truth.hope to hear back from you

I am a man. Those were quotes from what LadyLane wrote. sorry for the confusion.

The only reason I posted that list is because I interpited the word instead = prefer, in the second sentence of you origanl post

"instead of coming to me my husband masterbates sometimes why?"

But as you said later your husband does not prefer masturbation so list does not apply. The english language, you have to love interpitations.

Any way, the first time my wife ever saw me masturbate was about one month ago.

We are kinda having an intercontinental, long distance relationship for an extended time. Work has me in another country. Thank you Yahoo Chat. But I masturbated in front of the cam for her and she really enjoyed it. I personally felt uncomfortable about starting but once I seen how much she enjoyed it, I got over myself. I think I have gotten over the uncomfortable state over the cam. Now when we are together again it will probably feel strange doing it but I have read lots of posts on how women enjoy seeing their husbands do it so that will ease my mind. That is not to say that I would want her to bust in and catch me doing it alone. It is all about getting over the initial shock. I think that if she were to bust in, catch me and it turned her on, leading to a lot more. I would start leaving the door open and hope to get caught. On the other hand if she used the situation to make fun of me, all goes downhill. This is strictly my opinion and every man takes things like that differently. Only a woman can attempt to judge how her SO would react. Recommendation would be to let him know what you as the woman wants and ease his mind by explaining how you would react.

[EmotionsRvalid]

EASY Ladylane, EASY!

The reason I posted the info I did was because I felt like it would be useful to some women I think Inlovagin had the same motive & something useful to say. I DO have some frustrations with the relationship I'm in. You may have sensed that frustration but it wasn't directed toward you or anyone in particular. That's just how I feel. If anyone were exposed to the same nature, nurture, and experiences that I have they'd likely "feel" the same way that I do. Actions in response to that is what I hope I add some character and class to . I hope to be gaining skill and self control in how I deal with these feelings. I think I said things like that to show a bit how a man might feel. I'm sorry if you took it as anything personal or offensive. I'm not here to judge you. I don't have to as you don't directly influence the decisions/consequences I have to make in my life. I don't want to in that I don't think it would benefit either of us. I do get benefit of a good feeling if I can help someone else- even if I don't know them or have chance to get anything in return other than that good feeling.
As a personal policy I try not to "attack" anyone or blame people for much of anything. It really doesn't help anyone to do that. I believe that conflict is OK. Conflict is simply having different needs than someone else. That's normal- we're all different of course our needs will be too. I feel bad when my actions hurt others. Most often if you try to criticize or condemn someone else they will just get offended and any hope of a positive upwardly mobile relationship is compromised. I don't think you can really "win" an argument either. If you make someone else to look wrong you LOSE their good will. If you lose the argument then you still LOSE. That's where I'm coming from. How well I do that may be interpreted one way or the other, but be assured my intentions ARE good.
Remember that there are a lot of people who read the posts and gleen from them what they may. Personal attacks on people that we don't know would probably be a sign of some kind of personal issues or baggage that may possibly be under burden of. When they're ready to let it go I hope the right circumstances come into play so that the beautiful life that would otherwise be can be. Isn't that what everyones looking for in one way or another? The challenge is finding the skills and self control to make it happen. That's my quest.

[laney]

how deep was that you guys.......very attractive.its nice to hear a man can still get that deep.seriousally,to be quite honest i did take offence at first thats a problem of mine im working on.keeping my thoughts to my self when necessary is something im working on also.i do understand that this post helps other people and that the things that are wrote are not allways directed at me.sorry if i came on to strong and took offence.i have more to say but the kids are getting out of hand,plus i told them i would take them to the pumpkin patch and they are having pony rides thei so we will probably do that.yeahhhha will get back to this later.you guys are cool and i enjoy talking with you

[inlovagin]

i would also like to say it sounds like you guys get rejected alot because you went of on a rampage about how we or i turn him down alot.you know what they say about assuming.

By the way I never did comment about this statement.

My experience with rejection came from the second year of marrige. Me and the wife were going through a faze where we did not like each other much. I guess it was part of that saying the first 5 yrs are always the hardest.

The other times where during pregnacy and after birth of the kids. Lots of books and the internet helped me to understand the situations.

[laney]

can you really not like your spouse and then love them again?????just curious i have a lot to learn.

[kermit]

To answer the original question ... married men may masturbate for several reasons, from my standpoint none of which have anything to do with them be gay, disinterested in their wives, cheating, etc.

1) Schedules do not always align. Your husband may simply get sexually excited when you are not around or you are not interested in having sex at the moment. The most common reason for this in my own life with my wife is that men, perhaps moreso than women, seem to get aroused on a spur of a moment and want to release the sexual tension right then. My wife, on the other hand, always wants to plan our sexual events at least four hours in advance. Therefore when I become aroused on my own account she is rarely a participant.

2) It is hard for someone else to give you the same sensation you can give yourself because you can feel exactly how your body is reacting. Not that it is better or worse than being with a women ... just different. And both are pleasurable in their own way. It's not that you are not pleasing him, many men just like to do both.

[hotdogg]

kermit is right!

thats why people like to masterbate, it is not a replacement it is an addition, he was speaking from a mans point of view, but what he said relates to my own experience, i masterbate i enjoy it, but i also have a full sex life that i enjoy too, you can do both.

[inlovagin]

kermit is right!

thats why people like to masterbate, it is not a replacement it is an addition, he was speaking from a mans point of view, but what he said relates to my own experience, i masterbate i enjoy it, but i also have a full sex life that i enjoy too, you can do both.

I believe both you and Kermit may have missed some of the conversation. the Key word to that list was PREFER. If you PREFER masturbation over sex. later we descused that it was not a preferance so the list does not apply.

I can not think of man that would PREFER masterbation over sex unless they fall in some sort of those catagories. Do you know a man that could say they like masterbating MORE than they like sex? If you can then I will admit that I am wrong.

Not trying to offend, but read the first statement in that post and it should become more clear if you key in on the word PREFER (meaning to like more than).