[Claret]

It seems like you're unwilling to admit that any woman could possibly care about dimensions and aesthetics enough to ditch a guy for, because all ive seen is you trying to make out that her anatomical issues with me are somehow lies and it was actually my attitude that was the problem.

Ive told you like eight times; everything was going fine. I communicate with my partners. I try to be as variable in sex as possible. And outside sex, Im a man who is fun and creative and interesting.

I am unwilling to admit that I, as a woman, could possibly care about dimensions. I believe others here on the forum have made the same statement.

to quote you again -- I dont know whether the partners Ive been with have secretly been size queens, or just want to go and experiment with a big one, or what. But you need to accept this before you continue talking to me; they said it was too small and that was an issue for them. It didnt leave them fulfilled. It was 'spikey'. It 'never touched the sides'. It 'left some room to be explored'.
If you don't make an issue out of your size, then in all probability no one else will either.

Don't get mad at us, get mad at the people you feel made an issue out of your penis size. Go talk to them not us. It's over, I'm done.

[Guest]

Oh for goodness sake. I never have made an issue about it with women!! They have!

Nevermind. Forget it then.

[LisaW1991]

I can't make sense of this because its not part of my world or my female friends. Nor have a I met a guy who seemed uncomfortable with his size.

This discussion has been like listening to some guy in another culture. I suppose there are social groups of people who rank each other by penis since and boob size. Honestly it seems like a porn mentality, meaning perceiving life is like porn a movie, where all female porn stars say "It all about the size of his Kock, and if he doesn't have 10 inches and makes me scream for an hour, then he's a looser"

[Guest]

I can't make sense of this because its not part of my world or my female friends. Nor have a I met a guy who seemed uncomfortable with his size.

This discussion has been like listening to some guy in another culture. I suppose there are social groups of people who rank each other by penis since and boob size. Honestly it seems like a porn mentality, meaning perceiving life is like porn a movie, where all female porn stars say "It all about the size of his Kock, and if he doesn't have 10 inches and makes me scream for an hour, then he's a looser"

Well that's exactly how Ive felt!!

One girl had her friends calling me 'spikey', just to give one instance. I know how immature and stupid it seems. I can think of more important things.

I, in myself, am not uncomfortable with it. But people im with are uncomfortable with it. Perhaps it is culture here.

I don't know. It baffles me. You guys are obviously not these women but when you get told something enough it tends to leave an imprint.

[jns]

Medi - Right now I think you are arguing with yourself and I feel that you will continue to do so because in that way you can agree with yourself and get your own validation. You may get other validation from some (notice some) people, you will not get validation from others. You've got your mind made up that you're right. In the long run you'll miss out on some pretty fabulous potential partners along the way.

Exactly. I'm sure the lack of confidence has a detrimental effect. If someone is being mean, why continue even talking with them?

[I'm On My Way]

Medi,

To be honest, girls SUCK at measuring things. My girlfriend still thinks my penis is 18cm (she once said "give me those 18cm of pleasure")

I know it's not that huge of a deal, but sex-wise - IT IS. A small penis is a huge insecurity and to be honest, no matter how your try to hide it, it WILL reflect on you and the girl will eventually know. I don't even know what's worse, the consequences of a small penis or the mentality and insecurity.

OP, what's your penis size?
This graph is about right:

Op has advised size - links are not allowed -