[EricNYU]

The marrying young, having a kid young isn't the best route either. I did that and now, divorced, 33 and raising a kid alone is a much stronger current. You get to a point eventually where staying single and just dating is the best way to go. I know this has nothin to do with the topic. Sorry.

[Obelisk]

The marrying young, having a kid young isn't the best route either. I did that and now, divorced, 33 and raising a kid alone is a much stronger current. You get to a point eventually where staying single and just dating is the best way to go. I know this has nothin to do with the topic. Sorry.

Well I haven't found a woman that agrees with this yet. You may be right, just staying single and dating might be the way to go.

[BabyGirl]

You do have some Options..

1) A Penis Implant to be exactly the size you want to be. The Surgery is getting more Simple. Still Costly Though.

A Penile Transplant from some unfortunate Guy that passed on and had a just above Average Penis, say just the inch to inch and a half,that you would be " Satisfied " with .That his wife will miss him forever as Her Husband ...But was willing to Donate his mid range Penis for someone who needed an inch or two .

2) Therapy, to get to the root of your " Issue " that is not letting you be happy with yourself.
Because you Think that (most ) Women... Judge men by the Size of the Penis,not the Size of their Heart.

One extra inch would definitely help since it would put me in the bracket of desirable sizes.

The " Bracket " you should be in is Being a Decent,Loving, Respectful Man.

A Woman Therapist would be best, so you will hear that Your Penis size is not a Huge ( Pun Intended ) Part of who you are as a Man.
A Man Therapist may Compare his Penis with you ( Verbally of course ) and feel you are Lacking or he may have Penis Envy ..

3)Keeping it in your pants and finding a Woman who is a Virgin or is a Woman that Falls in Love with you and wants to spend her life with you and will not have Penile Sex until Married. She will never know if there is a Bigger or Smaller size and won't care, if you satisfy her with your Whole Being, not just your "Love Muscle ".

4) Keep Worrying, keep feeling Inadequate,let a few years go by and Impotence/ED will set in and then it will not matter the size, it will matter if you can " get it up " at all .

5) Accept that you are a Man,born with a slightly different Genetic (sizing) of an Adult Penis. This came from your Family Genetics..

6) Be Appreciative of what you have....
Arms,Legs,Not in a Wheelchair or Para/ Quadriplegic, Not Burned,Maimed,Grossly Deformed.
That you are Healthy,no Cancers or Traumatic Life threatening Diseases .

7) Body Build all you want, be " Buff " worry about your Physique and just quit trying to find a Woman to Love you for Who you are !!!
Maybe try Finding the Best " Mate " for your size Penis .. Your Hand !

Anyway the truth is I'm not really that obsessed about it. It may seem so here because we've discussed it at length (hah hah). My problem is that, due to my experiences with looks (both good and bad), it's something that I see as being far far more important than people give it credit for.

On this Note :
None of us here on WH ..
Have said your Minus or Plus an Inch or Two are Important to Loving Relationships.
This is with Women and allot of Men .( Thanks Guys )

Far More Important than what people say,is for People to Listen to at least take the slight inferences,that the Advise, Experiences and Opinions.....
Are Taken as Valued on this site..
Your Penis Size does not Matter ,Your Health and Well being Does .. Mentally and Physically and Emotionally ..
We are here for You .
But we are Not Professionals . So I Personally Recommend Option #2. First .

[fit brit]

how shallow...

Apparently every woman on the internet has had at least one

And looks do matter. Nobody falls in love before there is sexual attraction. When I was fat women wouldn't even look at me. As soon as I got buff, I can go to a mall and get checked out regularly by a lot of women. My first gf was fit and extremely attractive. With that came an extremely entitled attitude that "she was hot so she could have whatever she wanted". Second gf is chubby. She is very sweet and nothing like the first girl. I still want her to come to the gym with me partly because she would feel so much better (You think I'm insecure, you'd have yourself a case with this girl) because I know what it feels like to be where she is now. But also I want her to lose 30-40lbs so that she looks hotter to me. Am I wrong for wanting this?

yes you are wrong for wanting this. this is really controlling, shallow and would be horrible if your poor girlfriend saw it!

[Obelisk]

yes you are wrong for wanting this. this is really controlling, shallow and would be horrible if your poor girlfriend saw it!

Ok, she spent like 30 mins one day telling me how she felt fat and ugly, and her life was a mess, etc etc. If she was confident in herself why would she do that? I didn't ask for the information, but she trusted me enough to confide in me her feelings like that, even though we haven't known each other long. So I offered her to help her get fit, but she's being lazy. Now I could live with her looking the way she does, but why when it's so easy to lose it? And I'm sick of hearing shallow. In my experience, the only women (and men) that aren't shallow, are the ones who don't have much to offer in looks (or have gotten beaten down to understand it's not as important). Usually by mid 30's they see it. Some never do.

[fit brit]

size is not at the top of the list

Well I haven't found a woman that agrees with this yet. You may be right, just staying single and dating might be the way to go.

i know several men who are paranoid about the size of their willy. i dont know any men who need to be. women all like different sizes, some women like all different sizes. for me, and my friends as we have talked about sex a lot, size only really comes up if it is really small or freakishly big. other than that, technique, stamina and girth are more important.

having read the whole thread (some of the posts were really bizarre), you should probably work out what you want from a woman, physically and personality related things. although we all know that you want a skinny, fatless blonde with C/D boobs. as for your current girlfriend, if you really dont ever want children and she does, you need to have a proper discussion with her. also, if you need a girlfriend who is not 20lbs overweight, dont start going out with any who are like that. as much as i dont think being fatless is the be all and end all, you shouldnt go out with someone thinking you can change them.

the whole settling thing also got under my skin. going out with someone who has a fat percentage of over 10, is not settling. everyone likes different things in the opposite sex. i dont like the 10% fat man look with all the veins popping out and being able to see every separate piece of muscle. i think it looks awful, as do the bodybuilders you see on tv who have painted themselves in brown paint.

additionally, your posts talking about how you used to be fat and women didnt look at you then, and now they do when you are fatless, they may just be gawping at what an idiot you look now, they might be staring at you because you are obviously arrogant and love yourself, and im sure some are looking at you because they find your physique appealing.

many people say that its what is on the inside that counts, and if you wont believe that, then at least you know that any women who get to the stage of seeing your little man standing to attention, fancy you enough to have gotten to the naked and erect stage. you should think yourself lucky that your insecurity is in such a private place and that someone would normally have had to get to the stage where they really like you before seeing it, unlike other people who have more obvious issues such as bad skin, or facial deformities or small boobs - because like you said who would ever want to go out with a small boobed woman??!! that would just be settling wouldnt it? or would it? at least us small boobed ladies wont need to tuck our sagging boobs into our socks by the time we are 35.

stop worrying about your penis size, and start worrying about how you use it, (edit)

[fit brit]

Ok, she spent like 30 mins one day telling me how she felt fat and ugly, and her life was a mess, etc etc. If she was confident in herself why would she do that? I didn't ask for the information, but she trusted me enough to confide in me her feelings like that, even though we haven't known each other long. So I offered her to help her get fit, but she's being lazy. Now I could live with her looking the way she does, but why when it's so easy to lose it? And I'm sick of hearing shallow. In my experience, the only women (and men) that aren't shallow, are the ones who don't have much to offer in looks (or have gotten beaten down to understand it's not as important). Usually by mid 30's they see it. Some never do.

she spent 30 minutes saying she felt fat. that could be because she was feeling hormonal or had a bad day. it is not always easy to lose weight. i have had struggles with mine and a lot of my friends have too. its far easier for men to lose fat owing to their body composition and natural metabolism. there is a difference between entirely shallow, and finding different things attractive

[Obelisk]

although we all know that you want a skinny, fatless blonde with C/D boobs.

How old are you and how many men have you been with?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

they may just be gawping at what an idiot you look now, they might be staring at you because you are obviously arrogant and love yourself, and im sure some are looking at you because they find your physique appealing.

Fit Brit... So you go to the gym?

I agree with some of your thoughts in your posts, except the above and a couple of other comments.

Nothing is obvious and we don't put members down on this Forum... Or Judge.

[Obelisk]

Fit Brit... So you go to the gym?

I agree with some of your thoughts in your posts, except the above and a couple of other comments.

Nothing is obvious and we don't put members down on this Forum... Or Judge.

I must have struck a nerve with her or something. (Edit )