[YNGBLCKMN]

Hello all, I'm new to the board HOWEVER I'm not new to the subject matter at hand. I have ALWAYS been very intrigued about a woman's mindset before, during, & after sex. That makes forums like this very interesting and entertaining. As a younger black man(38), I often read many post asking "Have you ever had sex with a black man" or "would you have sex with a black man". Well, as a black man let me say there was always the curiosity of "being with a white woman". At the early age of 10(I wasn't having sex at that age BUT I was thinking about lots of things), I accidentally walked in on my friends mother(white, brunette, STACKED) who was fresh out of the shower. I can still see those voluptuous breast & rock hard pink nipples today LOL. Growing up in the late 80's/early 90's around my white friend's homes, very often, I saw many attractive soccer moms!! I remember walking into the pool area in the backyard and my best friends mom was tanning on her back, TOPLESS, and when she glanced over at me she simply closed her eyes and turned her face back toward the sky; her body looked AMAZING!! I loved her glowing tanned skin, the smell of her suntan lotion, and the fact that she was free enough she didn't have a care in the world as to seeing me "see her". During that time it wasn't seen as much(interracial dating of any race) so the thrill and excitement of "being with a white girl", back then, was a rush for me. Don't get me wrong I love ALL WOMEN(black, white, thick, skinny, bbw, spanish(WHEW), Asian, etc etc), but during that time it was a turn on to know they were just as interested in me as I was interested in them. The same way women hear and say, "black men have big packages", I would always hear, "white women love performing oral", or "they love anal"; "they aren't as reserved or conservative with their willingness in the bedroom to try new things". That turned me on!! As intriguing as it was to white women to see if sex with a black man was all that, it was just as intriguing to know you had what they wanted(looks or your conversation(game-LOL) to have her slide those thongs off onto the floor and then have her performing like Debi Diamond!! There was pleasure in knowing she had previous partners of other races and knowing I had her mind gone because I performed on another level. And maybe it wasn't always about the size(I'm BIG just not like Shane Diesel or Lex Steele but I have always been complimented on my package). For the most part I think it was the confidence during the performance. The assertive, aggressiveness(not crazy just being dominant), and trying to PLEASURE HER during the experience. The thought of knowing she was confiding in one of her close friends regarding the experience of being with a BBC or how she "felt it" later that night or the next day because of how deep I was. That was as much of a turn on as seeing that tanned body fresh out of the shower. I never got caught up in the "flat (edit) or no rhythm" thing. I wasn't a (edit)man" like I am now and as far as rhythm I knew that the magic stick would make ANY woman move the right way in bed! 

These were a few thoughts and experiences from my youth, so excuse me for sounding like a young punk or male (edit ) lol. I'm a much more mature individual now. As I grew up I began to learn and appreciate those "moms" in a totally different way BUT that's an entire different thread lol.

[catwoman]

I am not trying to sound stereotypical, I promise, but I always wondered why so many black men were with larger sized white women? Not ALL of course, but a lot. Any insights on that?

My cousin in a white girl who had a white husband (biggest redneck around lol) then they got divorced and she slept with a black man. She hasn't been with a white guy since (ha... I guess as they say once you go black... jk). But in her case, she said she prefers black men. I never asked her why, but it's just interesting.

[jen1447]

Some of these acronyms (BBW, BBC) are quite funny/silly.

[YNGBLCKMN]

I'm not with a larger white woman BUT I have found beauty in many shapes, forms, and sizes throughout the years. When I say I'm more of a (edit) man now opposed to my younger years I'm talking Rosa Acosta size(tone, fit). I am first and foremost, after the physical attraction, into a woman's confidence!! You can be the most beautiful woman in the room BUT if you lack confidence that's easily spotted and a MAJOR turnoff. Not rudeness or arrogance but confidence. And I would never exclude a beautiful woman I would have been attracted to back in the day BUT growing up it was a major interest. Catwoman, when you say LARGER WHITE WOMEN, what might your definition of that be? I like large breast and a backside such as Heather Bianchi or the build of Kim K on the large side for me BUT I also like a small compact woman like Natalie Raitano or Lauren London. I APPRECIATE any new size looking woman, especially her confidence and personality, BUT the Heather Bianchis or Kim K's are the limit in size for me lol.

[Stillness]

My guess is that culturally the upper BMI for what's considered beautiful is higher. Notice how he also likes larger butts. It's very hard to get that on a pencil-thin frame, especially from people of indigenous European descent.

YNGBLCKMN, you should note that the profanity filters here are very particular. We can sorta guess at what you're saying, but if you really want to get your point across you'll have to choose your words more carefully. Also, I'm glad you think 38 is young.

[catwoman]

I'm not with a larger white woman BUT I have found beauty in many shapes, forms, and sizes throughout the years. When I say I'm more of a ************** man now opposed to my younger years I'm talking Rosa Acosta size(tone, fit). I am first and foremost, after the physical attraction, into a woman's confidence!! You can be the most beautiful woman in the room BUT if you lack confidence that's easily spotted and a MAJOR turnoff. Not rudeness or arrogance but confidence. And I would never exclude a beautiful woman I would have been attracted to back in the day BUT growing up it was a major interest. Catwoman, when you say LARGER WHITE WOMEN, what might your definition of that be? I like large breast and a backside such as Heather Bianchi or the build of Kim K on the large side for me BUT I also like a small compact woman like Natalie Raitano or Lauren London. I APPRECIATE any new size looking woman, especially her confidence and personality, BUT the Heather Bianchis or Kim K's are the limit in size for me lol.

Larger women I'm meaning "Obese" and I am not saying one bit that bigger women aren't attractive. How you carry yourself makes a huge impact as well. All women are beautiful in one form or another Maybe it's not as common as I think it is, but I guess around here it's hard to find a black man with a thinner woman. Hopefully I am not offending anyone!

[jen1447]

I know what you're saying as far as some general impressions go cat, but fwiw I see quite a few couples (as well as hookups - two people in a bar for example who look like they're destined for the bedroom) who are a usually rather manly and attractive black man and a relatively thin, shapely (and often very attractive) white woman. For whatever reason those two varieties of people do often seem very drawn to each other. (I will point out tho that "white woman" is a very generic term ....it can be many different hair colors, ethnicities, shapes, sizes, etc.) I particularly see quite a lot of blond-haired white women with black men tho.

I wonder if there's not some cultural catching up going on at the heart of some of these relationships, being as that combination was forbidden for so long.

[Stillness]

around here it's hard to find a black man with a thinner woman

Now I'm curious. Where are you from?

It seems like you're in the best position to answer your question since you're from that area AND you have a cousin that has that preference. If your observation is legitimate, maybe it boils down to the woman being treated better or being able to relate more on some level? Maybe you could investigate for WH and get back to us...

[YNGBLCKMN]

After viewing this forum I saw the threads regarding dating or sex with a black man. That is always a subject in the "sex discussion" but being on the other side of the topic I was simply stating what attracted ME personally and what I thought. There are many types of white women, as well as black women, Spanish, so forth and so on. My circle has always and consists of men older than me(5-10 years) so I'm always called the puppy of rhe group. That's the only reason I refer to my age as young. BUT I feel YOUNG, look younger so to me I am lol!! Not trying to get to deep, just commenting on previous experience. Didn't mean to offend anyone.

[catwoman]

I am from WI. I'm not saying every woman is larger that a black man gets involved with, but it's more common around here I guess. lol. I don't know. Jen understands where I am coming from I think. I will say though that mixed racial children are usually the most beautiful.