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Many people do some type of anal and many straight guys have anal toys. Fisting is a little extreme for most but it's far from the kinkiest thing out there. Your friends and family don't need to know your entire sex life. If you need someone to talk to your husband is the best person or you can always get advice online but it's going to involve opinions from every angle including those with a stricter view of sexual activities. It's really your opinion and your husband's opinion that count.

Kira, when you are saying "many people" do you mean that you read about it somewhere, or you know somebody who do it or you are actually involved in different anal fetishes yourself ?

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Claret, thank you for your comment.

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well, as you speculated, i too think he has been practicing. it doesn't necassarily mean he has been having sex with men or that he is bisexual. maybe he is afraid to reveal this side of himself to you. alcohol tends to remove inhibitions. he obviously enjoyed it and so did you based on your desire to do it again.

you can either let this experience bring you together or let it push you apart. i have a feeling, if you have an open, honest talk about what happened it will bring you closer. you will discover things about each other and revealing those things may be a relief to either/both spouses. or you can pretend it never happened and let the awkward thoughts push you apart.

in the end, what happens between you and your hubby is no one else's business (except the anonymous, non judging people you share with here). no need to feel embarrassed about what you two do together behind closed doors. to each their own.

bubba29, thank you for your advice, but we do not discuss sex with my second half.

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It's amazing how the butt/gay association persists for men ....women have buttholes just like men, is it 'gay' for women to have anal sex? If it's all just down to switching the penetrative roles, people need to just get over it already. Fact - a man and a woman doing sex stuff together is not gay.

I'm puzzled too by how you seem so offended by fisting and yet you may want to do it again? I understand we don't always pick our appetites, but if you feel like a fan to some extent, it really is incumbent upon you to be less judgmental about it in others.

Lastly I agree that he's no newbie to fisting, whatever implications that might have. Bums are pretty elastic but you don't just wake up one day and back a semi in there. It's very very likely he has lots of experience with it, but again it doesn't mean he's automatically doing it with gay men. Could be he's got a woman doing that to him or he's doing it himself.

jen1447, thank you for your opinion, you are absolutely right asking about how come I feel so ashamed about me fisting, but I want to do it again. This is one of my problems, I strongly believe that sexual action we have performed is perversion and it is against our cultural, religious values, but I think I might feel that I liked it, which from one hand makes me feel more ashamed and guilty

[jennypenny]

Well your husband probably been enjoying many years inserting items in his anus probably. This for sure something he probably been hiding from you. But does not prove he is gay by eating his own sperm or taking your whole hand. You finally found his big kink in life sexually. It sounds like you very disturb by all of this.I can only say have a chat with husband and point blank ask him is he gay what the worse can it be he is or not. Do you love him if so then what is the problem it's something you can add to your sexually pleasure behind closed doors good luck.

Motorguy , thanks, but we do not discuss our sexual life.

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rcoreyus, thank you for you comment, it is sounds like you have a lot of experience especially in fisting subject, I understood it from your comment "lso, women's hands are a lot smaller than men's, so it isn't such a stretch " do you do it yourself ? Are you gay?

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I am 55, divorced, but have been happily with my girlfriend for the past 5 years. We are comfortable sexually experimenting with what makes both of us feel good.

Never be afraid of your feelings. So what if you likes something a bit kinky? You are married and you and your husband can do anything you want sexually. Use the urge to talk to communicate with your husband and enjoy your sexuality.

and moral
Thank you for your opinion, you are saying "you and your husband can do anything you want sexually", bu what about religious and moral rules?

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A guy may pull out of his girl and get her to continue by giving him a bj: does that make her a lesbian because she was tasting her own juices? No way. Your husband not being afraid of his own juices does not make him gay. Your fisting him probably created a prostrate massage which is the reason he unloaded. Also, had you orgasmed? Was he eating you out just for his own semen or was he possibly trying to get you off?

I am not sure I have mixed feeling about our accident and probably faulty memory affected by emotions.

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effy2014, thank you for your advice, I have checked pegging activities here on forum and on Google, first I could understand what it is, but now I do not understand why women do it, so women insert plastic objects attached to their bodies into their man's bodies. But what the point ? I do not get it, women encouraging her man to engage in gay activities.

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Putting your arm into someone's anus is a lot more intimate than having a discussion with them. How would anybody here be able to tell you about your man? There's only one person who can tell you what his sexual orientation is - him.

What makes a person a homosexual in my culture is homosexual behavior. A husband and wife being intimate is not gay.