[jen1447]

Speaking of which, like you pointed out SumSum, a vibe like the Iris isn't really the best choice for that duty. Dildos generally have more give and are more pliant. SAGF can get a variety of sizes to go with the harness (they all fit), so you can move up in the world slowly or just stop when you find your comfort zone. They even have rather small and thin ones.

[Something_Awesome]

What I am most surprised by though is how getting anal sex just felt like #2. I guess the way it felt makes sense, but I was expecting a different sensation because so many people love it. I remember a girl in high school say she O'd from anal only. It's funny though because I received anal before my GF did lmao.

If someone is in fact feeling something different than I am feeling I would like to know. As for drawing the line... Well, I imagine that I'd need to know that penetration comes after the "preparation phase." I can't just have her get me ready for penetration and not have her do it. I'd imagine that it would not be the same. My mind needs to be convinced. The only reason I would consider the strap on thing is the excitement that I'd get from her thrusting, and maybe seeing it in the mirror. The videos were hot not because of the guy getting penetrated, but seeing the woman thrust. Feeling her body go back and forth would be hot.

I may have mentioned that she has "play humped" me before. We sort of do it for fun, usually with our clothes on, and it gets me a laugh too. But I do find her thrusting... cute? She likes it too. It's one of those things you have to see in order to get it lol.

[jen1447]

Believe me, it'll be more than "cute" (tho I get that) when she does it. It'll drive you crazy. I actually agree about the physical pleasure ....BF says pretty much the same thing, but it's really for me. I get off on doing it, and he gets off on me doing it and on me getting off doing it, and he gets off by being my B. Anyway BF's never mentioned "#2," just "fullness" that he could go either way on. He could live without that sensation, but I don't think he could live without me doing him that way anymore. Doesn't make much sense to an outsider I suppose but I'm sure you get it now.

A lot of men say that anal stimulates their prostate, which is supposed to be pleasurable. BF's never reported that (and I go deep enough to hit it for sure). Women on the other hand - me included - can have explosive orgasms from anal because when done right it can actually stimulate your G-spot. So believe the high school girl, she was right.

It's funny though because I received anal before my GF did lmao.

Isn't it funny lol? But it's only fair - after all she's had to take a lot of penetration from you. Also we always win, so just take it like a man.

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We've been talking today about getting a strap on and she's down for it. She really liked what we did in Vegas. I will say this though... Sometimes I am the dominant one in bed, but lately (for a while actually) it feels like I am not dominant even when I am dominant. It's hard to explain. I can be dominant, and I have been many times before, but when being dominant now I still feel like I am being submissive I don't get it.

I'll try to post our strip club story tonight.

[jen1447]

It's just the natural evolution of your relationship SumSum, no sense fighting it.

Okay strapons - SAGF has to get the Joque harness by SpareParts Hardwear. HAS TO. Let me put it this way - the day after the night I first put mine to (good) use, I bought two more. I was in an irrational panic that something would happen, it would break or they'd go out of business or whatever. (They don't break, they're very durable, and they haven't gone out of business but still ....) Now I'm comfy in the blissful knowledge I'll always be in strapon heaven.

Have her get a size A (she's tiny, right?). Also look up reviews and instructional videos on how to use it - they're universally ecstatic. Lastly, when the time comes, I have some 'special instructions' for SAGF.

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It's just the natural evolution of your relationship SumSum, no sense fighting it.

Yeah but I am being dominant, but don't feel dominant? Like, I feel I am being submissive while being dominant? Does that make sense? I didn't bring this up to her yet.

Okay strapons - SAGF has to get the Joque harness by SpareParts Hardwear. HAS TO. Let me put it this way - the day after the night I first put mine to (good) use, I bought two more. I was in an irrational panic that something would happen, it would break or they'd go out of business or whatever. (They don't break, they're very durable, and they haven't gone out of business but still ....) Now I'm comfy in the blissful knowledge I'll always be in strapon heaven.

Wow. That sounds really out of character. I have only ever been like that with clothes, but that's a far better reason to be like that since clothes can wear out, be perma-stained, or stop being produced even though they may still be relevant style wise. I guess they must be really good then.

Have her get a size A (she's tiny, right?). Also look up reviews and instructional videos on how to use it - they're universally ecstatic. Lastly, when the time comes, I have some 'special instructions' for SAGF.

I looked up the product and saw there were only two sizes, which automatically means that the smallest (A) would be best. I was also thinking about the pink color because it would blend in better with her flesh. And what do you mean special instructions? There's no way you didn't think I'd ask. So I'm asking.

[jen1447]

LOl don't get nervous, it's just women always need a few pointers when first starting out. We'll cross that bridge when you come to it.

Yeah but I am being dominant, but don't feel dominant? Like, I feel I am being submissive while being dominant? Does that make sense? I didn't bring this up to her yet.

The reason you feel that way is because on some level you know she's the dominant one, no matter how you're acting. The roles don't always show outwardly. That's been true from the start whether you realized it or not and whether she let on or not. I know dominant women, and everything you've described about her says she is one. She's slowly been revealing it to you, but even in the beginning when you may have thought you were 'the man,' you really weren't. You just didn't know it yet, and she likely felt no urgent need to clue you in. Now you're catching on, and the reality is maybe still a little perplexing to you. It's okay, just go with it. It'll all be fine.

Oh btw, I didn't actually panic lol - I never panic. But lets just say I was very excited to have more of them so that I'd be prepared for anything. Yes, they're that good.

Tell us the strip club story already!!

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Ok... The strip club. The club featured female strippers downstairs and male strippers upstairs. We spent time on both floors (most of the time on the bottom floor) I was looking forward to the strip club experience for three reasons.

1) It was my GF's first time

2) I wanted to see how she got with male strippers

3) I was curious to see how she would handle any potential lesbian-esque encounter with the female strippers because, well, I do sort of fear my GF ever becoming lesbian-curious and cheating on me with a woman.

Now some of you may recall a panic attack I had after a sexting mishap. For those of you interested, my strip club visit has a similar twist (a twist which I only learned of this morning).

My GF was shy and nervous leading up to our arrival and for a little bit after arrival. I tried to make her feel as comfortable as possible by re-assuring her with physical touch and, of course, alcohol. My GF is a real lightweight when it comes to alcohol. You give her a whiff of vodka and she gets major goosebumps... like EVERYWHERE. She has low tolerance (she's pretty petite afterall). By the end of the night (almost 4.5 hours) she totaled I think six vodka-cranberries.

We started with the women downstairs. As my GF started loosening up (thanks to the alcohol) we started taking a more active role with the strippers. She followed my lead with the tipping etc. Whenever my GF would try to gesture for the female dancers to come to her, she would look my way for approval as to whether she was gesturing correctly LMAO. It actually was totally cute. She looked very out-of-place gesturing strippers to come to her but it was really cute.

Eventually this one bombshell walked on stage, we thought she looked Brazilian. She actually was a mix of Asian, black, white, and Cherokee (so, basically Brazilian lmao). The GF and I both thought she was scorchin' ( great face and body, though smaller in the chest area) and she had amazing moves. GF really enjoyed watching her (as did I) and I am glad she was comfortable enough to not feel jealous or anything like that. Now even though we sat at a corner of the stage that did not have a pole, the bombshell spent a lot of time with us. She unzipped my GF's top, stuck her face in my GF's chest, nibbled on my GF's lips, and it was at this point my GF started slapping and grabbing strippers' butts. She broke free from her shackles. My GF was having a good time and so was I. The bombshell then went up to me and said "I like your hair" and then put her hand behind my head, pushed my head down and rubbed the top of my head against her chest to mess up my hair (I thought she was going to put my face in her chest of course). I thought that was awesome and playful.

All the strippers began really engaging my GF. They all began sticking their faces in her chest, having her stick her face in their chests, having her feed tips to them mouth to mouth, make her stand up so they can grab and smack her butt, the whole nine. Other guys even came up to me to high five me (hey, this is my first time going to a strip club with an SO, and I'm not a strip club veteran by any means). My GF was having fun because I think the strippers were making her feel extremely sexy, and this may have been what the cause of her shyness (which was maybe apprehensiveness or self consciousness) was. She had not seen real live strippers before, and maybe she thought that I'd find the strippers sexier than her. There was probably no way I could convince her that I found her sexier. Luckily, the strippers did that for me. Though in all seriousness, my GF was extra sexy to me that night.

There was this one stripper who actually did not look cute at all. Actually, she probably had no business stripping . My GF and I talked about her as she was getting ready on stage and we both mentioned how we thought she wasn't going to get tips so we took initiative and made sure to be real generous to her with tips (we didn't want her to feel or look bad by not getting any tips). Well... Lucky for us this girl made up for what she lacked in looks with character. She had real attitude. She came up to my GF and said something like "so, we have another lesbian here." I said, "uh, wtf are you talking about?" Then she said "do you not see how she is F'ing me with her eyes!?" I admired her spunk. She then asked my GF if she ever had cunnilingus. I then said "uh, yeah, I'm right here." The stripper laughed at me like I couldn't possibly know how to give proper cunnilingus. GF also laughed and defended me and said that I'm actually really good . Even though this stripper was trying to mess with me, I admired her attitude and did tip her as intended. She then had my GF stand up so she (the stripper) can grab my GF's butt cheeks with both hands. I asked the stripper "firm, isn't it?" She then smiled. The stripper did mention we were her favorites (yeah I know she may have been pulling our chains), but she did come off as the type that probably hated men (or was a lesbian). I honestly don't blame her if the guys at strip clubs have not been nice to her (they probably weren't) during her stripping career.

Sooo, we finally decided to check the male-stripper section. I actually was extremely nervous. I wasn't nervous until we started going up the stairs. I scanned the room and noticed I was the only guy up there (just great). Instead of sitting next to my GF (we sat at the dance floor, not at a table), I decided to sit behind her. I moved my chair behind her and just let her go bonkers while I light caressed her. My GF liked what she was seeing but immediately noticed that the guys were not as good as the women at making a connection with the audience (though they had great moves). Some of the women were head-over-heels for the guys. One of the women was getting a lap dance on a chair on stage and she went hard for the male stripper's privates! We only stayed up there for three guys. The second guy was probably the best at connecting with the audience and, like the females, had my GF stand up then he smacked her butt then squeezed them real hard right in front of me while she did some light touching. I honestly didn't mind and I did not feel threatened. I maybe felt flattered. The male stripper did that to only one other female patron, so maybe it was to only the ones he liked. By the third dancer, the females were really pouring in and I was the only guy still. I felt like I did not belong and my GF was losing interest fast, so we went back down stairs! We probably only spent about 45 minutes with the male strippers.

Important note. While upstairs I observed how many potential bachelorette parties were going on at the same time. I counted three. Each of the three bachelorettes was Asian and the friends that accompanied them were mostly Asian. This is significant for later on...

Once down stairs it was more of the same. GF was having fun and so was I. I felt like it was getting time for us to bail and I asked her if she wanted a lap dance. She noticed a couple girls had gotten lap dances from other female strippers so she said she would only get one if I could find that ethnically-mixed bombshell. The bombshell disappeared for most of the night after her time on stage, but after some lengthy serious scanning of the room I found her. I went up to her and told her that she was my GF's favorite and that this was her first time at a strip club and it would be her first time getting a dance. She loved the idea of giving her a dance and she gave a great dance at that. GF and her talked for a good while before the dance and a good while after. I thought that was cool... But as we were leaving, the unthinkable happened...

My GF started crying her eyes out outside. At first I felt embarrassed because the bouncers and the random guys outside thought I was drooling for the strippers and made my GF feel like crap. Well, my GF has at least a little "girl power" in her and she felt bad that the women felt like they needed to strip to make money. Now, remember, my GF is hammered as heck with alcohol, which does not help. She said she wished she had all the money in the world so that she could give it to the strippers so that they did not have to strip anymore. She cried outside, cried in the cab, cried walking through the hotel, and cried in bed. If not for the vomiting, she would never have stopped crying!
She felt really bad for the strippers (remember, she was raised by a pastor in a very religious family even though she can do some very unreligious things, so she is a bit of an idealist).

Anyway, this post is getting long. I will elaborate on the Asian bachelorettes and my sexting-like twist a little later tonight.

[jns]

Good so far. I'll have to see what part II brings.

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Holy crap that's long. I knew it was going to be long which is why I didn't post about it til tonight, but I never expected it to look like that. I won't blame you guys if you don't read it... But I underlined what you may want to read in case you are only interested in the sexting-esque twist. I still enjoyed expressing myself if none of you read it. I think writing about feelings or thoughts that are a little complex to me helps me understand them better. I will also admit that I began to rush the story a tad toward the end as it was becoming a time sink.