[Stillness]

Stillness is a manly name.

[Euphoric]

Stillness,

Not only is your username manly, it suites you well. You're grounded, not easily shaken or quick to form unjustified opinions and your responses are always well thought out with meaningful input. I always enjoy reading your input and looking at the angles you provide from your prospective

Euphoric

[Stillness]

Wow! Coming from you, Euphoric, that means a great deal. I feel the exact same way about you. I meant what I said when sp nominated you. I was a little jealous that she had the idea and I didn't.

I don't feel like I deserve what you say. I've posted things I regret and feel stupid sometimes, but I try. It is nice to know that the less backwards things I write may overshadow the bad. Now I feel like I have a high standard to live up to. Thank you.

[Romy]

Wow! Coming from you, Euphoric, that means a great deal. I feel the exact same way about you. I meant what I said when sp nominated you. I was a little jealous that she had the idea and I didn't.

I don't feel like I deserve what you say. I've posted things I regret and feel stupid sometimes, but I try. It is nice to know that the less backwards things I write may overshadow the bad. Now I feel like I have a high standard to live up to. Thank you.

I think at some point we all feel regret or stupid over something we've said. There's one or two things I wish I could erase.

[Motorguy]

I think at some point we all feel regret or stupid over something we've said. There's one or two things I wish I could erase.

Well that's right Romy,if you live long enough you will for sure say or doing something you will regret for sure. We all are only human stuff happens. It only matters how we handle them when we have to comfort that person we upset with are action of what we said or did that matters in life.

[Echo7]

I must admit, I was surprised when I realized there were male posters here.. Being a women's health forum, I just took for granted everyone was a woman lol!

[Euphoric]

I like having male members who are willing to look at both sides of the equation. Men participating a women's health forum gives them a broader scope as to how women feel and think, and just as importantly, men sharing there view points offer women broader view points. On WHF, we form friendships regardless of anonymity, but posters are willing to call it like they see it because they won't be judged by their daily peers or family. I have received tons of help and support from both male and female posters, and I appreciate EVERYONE'S support. That said, there was a male member who gave me advice that I will never forget because of the impact it had on my decision when the lines were blurred. I think my relationship with my husband is better (most of the time, lol) because I'm slower to react. I try to see his side and line of thinking before jumping to conclusions and making hasting remarks or decisions. Attitudes and moods are contagious, but so is common courtesy, at least for us. He looks before leaping too because we have mutual respect for one another.

Stillness, you deserve what I stated because you "EARNED" my respect. Trying is noble. There are lots of people who take things for granted, make assumptions, and don't try because they feel entitled. Yes, we (all of us) may fall from time to time, but we get up, dust ourselves off and chalk up our mistake as a lesson learned. Epic failures occur when people don't try, don't learn, and continue to do the same thing day in and day out and expect change. So, yes, I highly value and respect you. You always live by high standards.

Romy, you aren't the only one who has put yourself out there and later regretted it. I'm willing to hedge my bet and say that even then, looking back, you learned valuable lessons. I've done the a same as I've explained to you. I went as far as to extend an olive branch believing I could truly make a difference - only to be duped and made to feel like a complete fool. I backed way off, then realized I'd miss out on many great friendships, which in turn empowers the offending party, and I'd still be the one losing because of their actions. I'm cautious, I just try not to put myself in vulnerable positions.

[hot amy]

Perhaps if the first 3 replies came from men How was I to know that when I can only see nick names. They could be of any gender. Perhaps if they used a man’s name I would have known that they were men. At least I gave a man’s name and said that I was male. And in answer to your question why should I threaten my aunt by telly mum. This was not in any violent meaning it was from effy who said I should do that and tell mum, so I was only doing what the very first answer said I should do. If this was an answer from a male replier that I did not know how could I?
I did think that on a women’s forum I would be treated with more compassion and given more help than if I had gone to a men’s forum. I have found many men’s forums on line and had wished not to join then because they were downright filthy. Still again thank you very much and I will say I won’t be coming back here again. Please cross me off the list of members

What you have done Roy is wrong with a family member. I understand tour age and I will make allowances for such. First of all to be caught doing it by your mother aged 13 was kind of embarrassing and your mother did the correct thing to say she was sorry and to leave the room. She was also right to say that all boys did this and there was nothing wrong in it, as I say also. I do not know how her conversation of your deeds came to your aunt, perhaps your mother may have said in passing that ‘Roy is growing up now and has started masturbating’
Whatever the reason I think that you have had good replies from all on this site and I agree with most of them and I am glad that you say you will not do it front of her again. I can understand why you agreed to her request I expect owing to your age you have been used to playing with yourself whist watching porn either on line or lads magazines. I expect you thought all your Christmases had come at once. This is not the way to go. It will be better for all if you and your ant forgot all about the incident and put it all down to experience. What I do not agree with though is CLARET saying it was incest. As I see it, if I am correct, no handling by any partner took place and no penetration took place, it would be hard to prove incest. And RAINDANCER, it cannot be abuse either if the aunt did not touch the guy; He just did it for sexual pleasure playing with himself. Still morally wrong. Also we do not know what part of the world Roy lives .If it is the UK the age of consent is 16 years. This is six of one and a half dozen of the other as we say in the UK. Although saying all this, the situation should not have happened. CHANDERS WISH is RIGHT in everything she says. It is times like this I wish JEN was here, what has happened to her, She always gives good advice and I am sure she would have replied to you Roy. Please do not leave this site you could learn so much from this site as you are a young person growing up, remember all here are your friends, we may have different views from time to time but we are here to help.

[effy2014]

I like having male members who are willing to look at both sides of the equation. Men participating a women's health forum gives them a broader scope as to how women feel and think, and just as importantly, men sharing there view points offer women broader view points. On WHF, we form friendships regardless of anonymity, but posters are willing to call it like they see it because they won't be judged by their daily peers or family. I have received tons of help and support from both male and female posters, and I appreciate EVERYONE'S support. That said, there was a male member who gave me advice that I will never forget because of the impact it had on my decision when the lines were blurred. I think my relationship with my husband is better (most of the time, lol) because I'm slower to react. I try to see his side and line of thinking before jumping to conclusions and making hasting remarks or decisions. Attitudes and moods are contagious, but so is common courtesy, at least for us. He looks before leaping too because we have mutual respect for one another.

Stillness, you deserve what I stated because you "EARNED" my respect. Trying is noble. There are lots of people who take things for granted, make assumptions, and don't try because they feel entitled. Yes, we (all of us) may fall from time to time, but we get up, dust ourselves off and chalk up our mistake as a lesson learned. Epic failures occur when people don't try, don't learn, and continue to do the same thing day in and day out and expect change. So, yes, I highly value and respect you. You always live by high standards.

Romy, you aren't the only one who has put yourself out there and later regretted it. I'm willing to hedge my bet and say that even then, looking back, you learned valuable lessons. I've done the a same as I've explained to you. I went as far as to extend an olive branch believing I could truly make a difference - only to be duped and made to feel like a complete fool. I backed way off, then realized I'd miss out on many great friendships, which in turn empowers the offending party, and I'd still be the one losing because of their actions. I'm cautious, I just try not to put myself in vulnerable positions.

What a great conversation between three "regulars" that I respect a great deal. I am glad that men are welcomed not just to add perspective but to learn as well, as I have from the three of you.

[Stillness]

That said, there was a male member who gave me advice that I will never forget because of the impact it had on my decision when the lines were blurred. I think my relationship with my husband is better (most of the time, lol) because I'm slower to react. I try to see his side and line of thinking before jumping to conclusions and making hasting remarks or decisions. Attitudes and moods are contagious, but so is common courtesy, at least for us. He looks before leaping too because we have mutual respect for one another.

That's powerful. It's cool to come here and chat about sexual positions and fashion. But what hooked me is the difference it made in my life too.

Being a women's health forum, I just took for granted everyone was a woman lol!

Welcome to the internet.