[CHANDLERS WISH]

up-late.

With all due respect, you mentioned prostitution a few times and your thoughts on the said matter.

Stillness replied that he thought that wouldn't be a good idea that was his opinion and he's entitled to it. I saw no rudeness in his reply what so ever.

I did however see rudeness in your reply to him. Especially suggesting that he and other men on this Forum are here for ulterior motives. Without men on this Forum, we wouldn't have their perspective, thoughts and ideas after all mainly it's men that we are talking about when we discuss matters in the sex section of this Forum.

This Forum is here to provide opinions to the said question. If an OP or any other person goes off topic due to a statement made, that's the norm on any Forum.

Given that it was your suggestion of prostitution that changed the topic at hand I can't see why you are upset at all, with the replies .

We wish you well. Not all dating sites are the same, not all men are the same. Our members have pointed that out to you. I'm older than you and I have an awesome fiancé, found him when I was 44 and my libido was at his highest. You need to weed out the sharks from the dolphins .

[Stillness]

Since up-late won’t be coming back, I thought a couple of threads I alluded to might be an interesting read for some of the members who’ve come around during the last year, but missed some of this stuff. Up-late seems like she might be a cool lady in a frustrating situation. These are so much more extreme, but the similarities are interesting.

Here’s one from a user named fallprince:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/relationships/60561-i-cannot-understand-how-terrible.html

He’s angry because women have treated him badly. He wonders if it’s just women in his country. When people try to genuinely reach out and make suggestions including well-meaning constructive criticism, he’s highly offended and becomes irate. Our motives are questioned. Any defense of women is seen as a personal attack on him. He gives examples of how horribly women behave in internet dating, but is completely out of touch with how his own behaviors may be making matters worse.

The really interesting thing is that somehow the logic reaches him that others are able to find good women. But then he turns it on its head and starts to say that, not just women, but people in general, are bad. It’s impossible that it’s him, so all of the men that are able to succeed with women must be bad too.

This is actually one of my favorite threads on the boards. I know that might seem negative. But I like it because it demonstrates that some people just will not be helped and that you waste your time trying. I also like it because it shows the quality and tolerance of the members here. The thread does get locked, but even though he is extremely antagonistic and say things like rape and abuse of women should be legal and would benefit society and that women with wealthy husbands are prostitutes, the members are cool. No one, including him, is banned.

Here’s another one from a user “Male.”

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/16756-confused-male-person.html

We suspected it might be the same guy as fallprince, but he wouldn’t confirm it. He’s much more self-depracting. But eventually all women are bad. Even God himself is plotting against him. These threads aren’t extremely long by WH standards – 4 or 5 pages. It’s interesting stuff. At least to me it is.