[pizza063]

women masturbating

That is so sad. He won't do you, and doesn't want you do yourself.

I think it works both ways ,if a female is comfortable with her body and she is not afraid of shall we say ..masturbating herself in front of her man or she wants her man to help her or vice versa ..well then that's the way it should be one should not be afraid to explore one own's body and be comfortable .I have never met a woman who like to do this in front of me but it would be both a challenge and stimulating provoding both parties agree to it

[Romy]

In a relationship but still masturbate most days....I want to say this though - I think my techniques are decreasing my ability to cum with my partner so I'm weaning myself to see if it makes a difference. Years ago I always orgasmed through sex.....I worry my shower head and electric toothbrush have desensitized my clitoris....hope I'm wrong.

[Josephlin101]

I love to see my wife masturbates, the problem is when I see that I just can't hold myself and will start touching her. That seems to annoy her. Now I don't see that action anymore.
Interestingly, she used to say she wants to see me masturbate, but I feel uncomfortable. In fact, she sometimes asks me whether I just masturbated, even if that was a yes I wouldn't admit it. She knows I masturbate, but never knows exactly when.
I wouldn't mind to buy her a vibrator, I think it's hot, but I know she'll say I'm sick. We almost always have sex in the dark, so I very rarely see her naked. I imagine seeing her orgasms with the vib, it really turns me on. But it can only exist in my fantasy.

[jen1447]

You're wife has masturbated in front of you but she'd think buying a vibrator is sick?

[Josephlin101]

You're wife has masturbated in front of you but she'd think buying a vibrator is sick?

Well, maybe I shouldn't speak for her, it's just my assumption. See, if I mention any topic about sex she doesn't hide her "I'm offended" look. A news report describes the length of sexual activity across all states, I thought that was interesting and shared with her. She gave me this disgust look. As I said, she's quite conservative; our interest on sex is really different.

She masturbated about 3 or 4 times in front of me as I remember, but all in the dark, only like a quickie and never finished (we just went ahead and had sex). As I said while I watched I found it too hot to not do anything, I used my finger to join and stimulate her. Guess she found that annoying. We never do that again.

[jns]

Joseph, do you ever masturbate your wife or go to the next step to give her oral or is all of that off of the table?

[Josephlin101]

Joseph, do you ever masturbate your wife or go to the next step to give her oral or is all of that off of the table?

Oh definitely! When we first married, I mentioned the idea of me giving her oral and she refused upright. But then she got curious and let me tried. My, seeing her reaction... that was the most beautiful scene. But one thing I just can't figure out: she definitely likes that, yet she never, never orgasms from oral sex. She moans, squirms, pants, arches her back... but just no climax. Wait, maybe once. And we've been married for a long time.

I never get oral from her--that's a mutual agreement. For some reason I don't like receiving oral and never try. I know, I'm a weirdo. I think it probably is more like psychological thing.

Our sex life always involves me helping her through fingering. In the beginning she insisted on stimulating only the clitoris and clitoris only. If my finger gets in there a bit she would get mad. But later I got in there and stimulated her g-spot--I'm sure she does have a g-spot, because fingering her clit and g-spot at the same time drives her wild. I remember giving her a couple times of clit and g-spot rides, after the orgasm she moaned "it feels so good..." From then on, we do it every time.

What I love the best is after shower, I give her oral while stimulating her g-spot with my 2 fingers. She'll be wild, though no orgasm... but she'll be wild. Then we have sex missionary style--the only style she can orgasms.

By the way, early in our marriage I mentioned anal once, and she strongly refused. I never bring it up again. Though a bit curious, I think I can live without that.

If I may, may I ask has anyone tried anal? Just out of curiosity.

[rcoreyus]

My wife and I very occasionally do anal. Physically it doesn't feel all that different to me, but the novelty and may be naughtiness make it a lot of fun as a once in a while treat. For her it is strange, she doesn't particularly like it, but it makes her orgasm very quickly. She enjoys other gentler anal play, just finds anal sex uncomfortable. (even after a long time warming up).

My wife also enjoys receiving oral, but doesn't orgasm from it (she needs a vibrator - I think its long term desentization). She really doesn't like doing oral (sadly its my favorite), but will occasionally do it for me.

[jns]

The fact that she can enjoy many different sex acts but only reaches orgasm by a specific one seems to be normal for many women. It sounds like your wife may be conservative on sex but not too much. There is still a lot of variation in what she allows.

Getting oral hasn't ever really done it for me. It's OK, but nothing I've ever climaxed from.

[Josephlin101]

Good to know, I thought my disliking getting oral is weird...

For those who sometimes does anal, wouldn't it smell? How do you handle the possible "accident" problem?