[madetolove]

Madetolove, yes I will pray that your marriage doesn't go down the drain, of course its more that just sex, I know what hurt my friend the most was he felt/feels her lack of trust and respect for his feelings and him.
My grandma used to have a recipe for a marriage cake she would give to people as a wedding gift here it is.
Equal parts of
Trust,
respect ( that does not mean you have to agree with everything your partner does but respect they have an opinion and right to express it)
Communication both ways in all things,
fun,
all cakes need flavour/spice and that is sex which is the natural bonding of love.
Mix your cake with hard work ( all relationships need work and effort).
The tin/pan you cook your cake in is what keeps your cake together while cooking. without it its just a mess in your oven and your pan is your beliefs, family and friends. These are the thing you turn to in trouble
It takes a long time to cook a cake so put it in a slow oven for a long time, watch it while cooking to make sure its not burning or cooking to slowly.
If one of these things is missing from your cake you wont taste right and you wont want to eat it and may be thrown away.
I think this is so true ,you may not ever get your wife to a councilor but going on your own may help you to cope with your wife and your feelings, at worst you will waste only a bit of time and money. I went to see a councilor about my daughter without her and in 2 visits things were better. After all your are talking here so not much different. Just a thought, If your wife and read the beautiful things you have said about her here she might understand, I would like to think so anyway.

Hello Dear marycate,

Thank you for sharing the above, I deeply appreciate.

Well, I would heed your advice.

Honestly, actually, after having deep thoughts/reflect about the life of the past. I think I am responsible for her being, as I have not been giving her a proper living/wedding/home/honeymoon, and provide for her.

She had been so patient, and supportive of all my business endeavor and I had failed to succeed at the moment in all these years. (Prayerfully this year is a breakthrough year)

I had not been a good husband in providing and taking care of her, plus I had been unfaithful to her in escaping to look at pictures/videos of nude woman thinking that it could satisfy the "desire", but no matter what or how I tried to satisfy, truly it cannot compare to the unity and physical bonding with my wife which I had experienced and which is deep in my memory.

Well... Thank you very much once again marycate for sharing and your help. I deeply appreciate.

Meanwhile, have a nice weekend to you and your family.

[mymirrose]

Madetolove, I agree with marycate, If your wife could only see what you are saying and thinking, it may make a difference. I know it would to me. I also think counceling even for only one of you,is a good idea. It really can help.I will pray for you also. Try to have a good weekend.

[madetolove]

Madetolove, I agree with marycate, If your wife could only see what you are saying and thinking, it may make a difference. I know it would to me. I also think counceling even for only one of you,is a good idea. It really can help.I will pray for you also. Try to have a good weekend.

Hello mymirrose,

Thank you very much for your kind support and help, I deeply appreciate. Thanks for your prayer too.

You take care and have a great blessed weekend too.

[mewhenim]

lol, if you search this topic within this forum it will be clear you are def not alone! I haven't grown to love it like some people in here, but that's 'cause I haven't found a horny enough partner lol

[WildChild]

I agree Mewh. The problem isn't us or our 'high' sex drive. I think we are normal, it everyone else who is out of wack! LOL.

[madetolove]

lol, if you search this topic within this forum it will be clear you are def not alone! I haven't grown to love it like some people in here, but that's 'cause I haven't found a horny enough partner lol

I agree Mewh. The problem isn't us or our 'high' sex drive. I think we are normal, it everyone else who is out of wack! LOL.

Hi there mewhenim and WC, I totally agree that you ladies are normal and Great Blessing to your loved one/partner!

This is truly a wonderful area/adventure to explore and enjoy with loved one/partner. If my wife is like you ladies, I guess weekends might have a lot of fun which adds 'spices' in our life and enhance our marriage and bonding.

Can imagine no more, if not, my hormones are running up to my head again.

I certainly hope my wife would/could get to enjoy much on this area and willing to explore this "adventure" like you wonderful ladies.

Thank you all for sharing.

You wonderful ladies stay safe and have a nice weekend.

[mymirrose]

I hope ya'll had good weekends, mine seemed to be an effort in futility, again. It is funny (well, not really) but anyways, I read in here different ways to "spice things up" or whatever, and nothing is working! What do you do, when you are in a loving, committed relationship and you get told "I don't need sex very often and it isn't your fault"? So I don't ask (another piece of advise) and my SO asks me if I'm getting it somewhere else! I am at a loss here. I feel like I can't win. Sorry, I am frustrated and emotional today and I guess I just needed to vent, so Thank you for letting me.

[mymirrose]

A little more venting: I just asked my SO if I was worth any effort from him at all and his answer is "I said I love you alot and it's not your fault I don't need sex, so give up!" So is that my answer? It's not my fault I am not getting any? And that is suppose to make me feel better? I am very jealous of the women who say their SO take care of them, even if they aren't in the mood.
Ok, I am done for the moment, thanks again!

[Thi YokSuan]

You found plenty of people seeking ideas, advice on increasing sex drive. So, it is normal to have a high sex drive. There is nothing wrong in masturbation,(without self hurt). You are not a nymphomaniac, the world does not know. Are you married? single? age?. We do not know. If married, bring in variety, and prolong each session toreach heights. If single, be careful. Go get yourself and mind involved in volunteer work. Let your contributions of time and effort, be the pleasures arrived. Regards age, fit in accordingly to above.
Do you know "THE MORE YOU DO, THE MORE YOU WANT. Reflect on those 8 words. What is it that you are doing and what is it that you could do, otherwise.

[madetolove]

I hope ya'll had good weekends, mine seemed to be an effort in futility, again. It is funny (well, not really) but anyways, I read in here different ways to "spice things up" or whatever, and nothing is working! What do you do, when you are in a loving, committed relationship and you get told "I don't need sex very often and it isn't your fault"? So I don't ask (another piece of advise) and my SO asks me if I'm getting it somewhere else! I am at a loss here. I feel like I can't win. Sorry, I am frustrated and emotional today and I guess I just needed to vent, so Thank you for letting me.

Hello Dear mymirrose, reading what you had shared above makes me feel like laughing and also at the same time I can relate to the hurt and disappointment you are feeling. *pardon me* Well, Why I felt like laughing is, "why are we getting the same response?!?!"

What your SO told you is exactly the same as what my wife told me! And I am in your shoes of trying different ways to "spice things up".

Well...this weekend my wife was sick and so I did not share much with her, but I can't help going back close to her and smell her, hold her, and kiss her on her beautiful neck when she look at me in the eyes. My....I Love her!

I had tried to share some regarding intimacy and marriage, and eventually she seems positive to it (which I hope will indeed be better), but I would take one step at a time till then, as I wouldn't want to expect too much from her and then felt disappointed or upset again. I told her again that, it is her enjoyment and desire to explore together that is important than to just have sex to please me. And how being open with each other, explore together, enjoy each other, intimacy makes me feel closer and falling deeper in love with her and gives me a stronger sense to take care of her, love her, and be with her. However, she told me if I will love her less if not, I told her it is not that. And again have to explain that, it is just the closeness and personal bonding (which is not just making out with anyone will have). My oh my..I really don't know how to explain that feeling with her.

I think I shall take it easy and right now what I do is I kinda don't "care" so much anymore, and so, I turned to some sexual materials and "take care" of it myself. My ... I seem to be on "cloud nine" and obsessed when I get back to that "release" as I seem to be sexually so high and could "release" several times per day!

But truly, nothing can compares to the true making love time with her (my true love, my precious beloved wife). The hugs with each other nakedly...the hugs after making love...the sweet wet kiss...feeling her getting wet..the closeness...openness...etc. It cannot compares to any sexual activities or "release" to making love with my wife (I still have deep memories with her of the past, although it is years ago).

How I wish my wife will enjoy and have the same high bonding desire like me and where we could have the several times per day together and fulfill and enjoy each other's High Ecstasy Desire while we explore deeper personal depths/adventures together. It will truly and surely makes a lot of difference in life!

Anyway, what I realized is the more I focus on her and keep going back talking to her about intimacy and making love, it seems the worse it gets and I feel worse. So, meanwhile, I've learnt and would "take care" of it myself till the day her high bonding desires come (if not, then I'll live my life like what I'm doing now. At least it makes me feel less worse and not driving me crazy), and whenever she comes to me, I would Never want to resist her. By doing this seems to be able to calm me down some how.

Anyway, wish you (and everyone here) have a great week ahead.