[Moni306]

Thanks wildchild...that is exactly where I am at with him...VERY defensive about it...some people think it is because he does feel some guilt for what he is doing. I don't know but it is a very big intimacy killer...I hate for it to be that way because I am always ready to play and don't want to loose that but when I look at him sometimes all I can see is him sitting in front of his computer masturbating to porn and it does turn me off! Sometimes we text each other naughty things throughout the day but when the end of the day finally gets here...there is nothing. Sometimes I try but if I know he has masturbated to porn that day I just don't feel like putting out the effort...kinda like feeling like sloppy seconds I suppose.

[Moni306]

Hope everyone had a Happy Valentines Day! Mine went pretty well and he actually made efforts this weekend so feeling pretty good and just hoping the progress will continue :0) We shall keep our fingers crossed!

[Moni306]

Well...that didn't last long! I have been trying to be naughty by sending text messages and even rubbing up on him to get things started...nothing!! But he did give his computer women some loving with his hand...maybe there is no hope...soo frustrated!! Thanks for listening ya'll!

[StillLearnin]

Well...that didn't last long! I have been trying to be naughty by sending text messages and even rubbing up on him to get things started...nothing!! But he did give his computer women some loving with his hand...maybe there is no hope...soo frustrated!! Thanks for listening ya'll!

It's now time to have a heart to heart talk with him and insist on some changes.

[beebee02]

I'm the exact same way... I've wondered if something is wrong with me because my husband makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes. He says that there's no way I can always be ready for sex! truth is... I am

[5thelement]

Merry Meet,
Ok now I Don't feel so bad! We are not alone! I would rather have a high sex drive than a low one! The only problem I have is finding someone to share it with! But thats ok too!

[Moni306]

Well...things seem to be getting better!! Still not having sex as much as I would like but it is on both of us...during the week we are tired and I have not been making any moves. The good thing is I think his porn habit has gone down which does make me feel better! The good thing is I still have the drive but need to put it to good use :0) Hope every one is doing well and enjoying their drive!

PJhavinfunagain...good luck and enjoy that drive! Around the age of 38 is when I really started going crazy and I am going on 41 next month and still just as strong. Having a few toys around is fun especially if husband isn't around! They are fun together too :0) I think my husband knew I had the naughty potential when we got together...ha

[Beckers]

I am like that too! And I agree with previous posts that it's better to have a high sex drive than none at all (now THAT would be terrible ).

As long as it doesn't completely control your life, than I'd say you're fine. There's a certain point where it could be a problem, and considered to be an addiction. That wouldn't be too fun, but don't worry you have plenty of people sharing your "problem" on this forum.

It doesn't seem like a problem to me!

[Moni306]

okay...so I think the old mantra of if you give you will receive might obviously not always work. Tried that this week...Monday at 4:30am I made an effort (which I was told I need to do) and took care of my sexy hubby....so thought I wold wait and see if what goes around comes back around...well...it is Friday...I haven't done anything with myself this week...and guess what...its been 7days and I am going crazy! I told him this morning it's been 7 days and I got "its not my fault"...never said it was but I was testing the theory of if you give then you will receive...doesn't work...ha ha I don't send naughty text messages anymore to get the fire burning as he is so busy now he doesn't have time...don't send naughty videos or photos as I feel he doesn't want to see those either. He tells me all I do is complain about him...I brag when it's good! I'm no different than a man who doesn't get any sex from his woman...most men would grip to his friends...I dont' have any friends here where I live..well no female friends...so I don't have any one here to talk to but here...with people who know what I'm going through. It's hard these days to be a woman with a high sex drive..and want to be noticed by their man...ha ha
At least we have vibs to get us through. I guess I need to get more aggressive otherwise I'm going to end up with just me and my vibe during the week...weekends are usually not a problem but that has gone down to once also..so for me it is once a week lately. Was very hard for me to leave myself alone this week!! Guess when a guy hits a certain age it is easier to yank it to porn ...women take time and effort..ha Anyway...gonna try to go for it this weekend...hope ya'll have a good weekend and if any one has any new stratagies on how to light his fire and get us smokin again...pass em on :0)

[Beckers]

I told him this morning it's been 7 days and I got "its not my fault"...never said it was but I was testing the theory of if you give then you will receive...doesn't work...ha ha I don't send naughty text messages anymore to get the fire burning as he is so busy now he doesn't have time...don't send naughty videos or photos as I feel he doesn't want to see those either. He tells me all I do is complain about him...I brag when it's good!

He says all you do is complain? And he doesn't appreciate any sexy photos or videos your send him? AND he doesn't perform anything for you, when you do something for him?

Does he like sex at all? To me, it seems like he doesn't. Either that, or he doesn't look at it as a special time between the two of you, and only sees it as a time to be naughty.

Moni306: What does sex mean to you? And if it does mean more than just pleasure, have you expressed that to him?