[jimmykef]

Any woman with a wonderful sex drive is one of the luckiest women in the world. What she has other women look for...I do not believe that Persistant Sexual Arousal exists. This is, in my opinion, is just a term made up for too much sex drive. Bringing your kegal muscles into operation, can work wonders with a woman's vaginal orgasms..But some women find this annoying and so a new phrase is brought up out of the blue...I could masturbate more than I do but I learn to control it....Actually I love the way I feel....

There is nothing wrong with masturbation for a woman. Do it daily if she wants to. Keeps her alive. If more married women would have done this earlier in their marriage to keep them alive they would not be disappearing with so many headaches when their husband's need them....Masturbate as long as it does not interfere with your sex life or if the two of you do it. I have enough sex drive for three people and adore it....Of course this is part of my being the happiest woman in the world...

Now look I'm a 'normal' guy who came across this site looking for advice(?) on how to deal with the fact that my wife of 1 year has recently had inappropriate online chat with an old flame.

I read this post after searching for 'cheating' and HAVE to respond!

I cannot agree more with C's comments! Ladies, those of you with a high sex drive are goddesses! You are indeed a rarity and you should hold your heads high!

Go enjoy your permanent arousal.....

James
;-))

[Olympia]

As you have noticed, you are not alone. My sex drive was always high, however, the last 6 or so years it seems off the charts. Every day, all day. I checked with my doc. and she stated "All is as it should be"...

[Rediscovered]

I am 49 and within the last 6 months my sex drive has gone through the roof! Is there a pattern related to age? Just curious.

AnnaC, I am your same age and am experiencing the same thing. I attribute it to being with the right person at this time in my life.

I asked my gynecologist if there was something I could do to *ensure* I stay this way (like check my testosterone level and do a baseline so I could supplement later if something dropped), but she said if I am this way now (at this age) my levels are fine and I should stay this way.

It's marvelous and I don't ever want to lose it because I feel so alive and beautiful! I am fortunate in that I am with someone who is equally as passionate as I am and it doesn't always have to be sex for us, but lots of kissing, embracing and full body contact (perpetual foreplay, lol).

[WildChild]

LOL I keep saying my primary symptom of menopause is horniness. Too bad it's not appreciated...

[redsonja84]

Yeah well I'm in the same boat (almost) as the OP. As I sit here my BF is in the kitchen cooking thankfully. My sex drive is WAY too high. It's getting to the point that he posed the question "I don't know how you can stay turned on all the time like that." I tried to answer, and he says "I'm serious. I don't know how you do it".


It's getting to the point that I think he is tired of my advances. It seems like the more sex I get the more I want it. He's the type that he might masturbate once a month, IF he is single, and never when he is in a relationship. I care about him a lot, but the last time I had a bf somewhat like this... he dumped me b/c I wanted it too much. I've tried masturbating to relieve the problem, and it doesn't work. I HAVE to lower my drive soon I think, or it will blow up.


I'm worse than a man for hounding someone for sex =/

[plasticfish]

If more married women would have done this earlier in their marriage to keep them alive they would not be disappearing with so many headaches when their husband's need them...

I think it does both sides a disservice to use the same old tired trope that she a sexless prude out of touch with her body and, he's some oversexed monster being turned down all the time. When two people get together there will always be one who wants more than the other and, often times the desire will be out of sync with their partners. I want more, he wants less. I want it from late afternoon till before going to sleep, he likes it in the AM, etc. And, men let anger and resentment in the relationship get in the way of having sex with their partner just as much as women do.

My desire is higher now that its ever been before. Not sure why; lost weight, in my early 40's so might be premenopausal. Discovering that, hey wait a sec when did touching that spot become an wow does that ever feel good erogenous zone? And, yup depending on where I am in my cycle I may or may not be wanting more. So yeah, me too, but I refuse to think of it as a medical condition that needs fixing probably because I don't think there is a "normal" n= value to sexual desire, it ebbs and flows over time for all of us.

[Allie602]

By too high the OP, it seems to imply that their is a problem. I think it's relative to the degree to which the desire for sex interferes with normal activities. If she needs sex every day all day long to be satisfied, there is little time for anything else.

Sometimes women who want more sex than the husband are labeled as having a too high sex drive. If her drive is in the normal range and his abnormally low relative to average, that's sexual incompatibility.

I would think that finding an antidepressant that would decrease desire without doing the same thing to the pleasure and satisfaction may work. That's if it's a problem.

Another thing is that untreated manic depression is associated with increased sex drive in the upswing periods. when the disease is treated effectively the desire decreases.

[WildChild]

The mods have left this thread up but do be aware that the OP put this up in 2008.

[ManINeedACoffee]

Nope, definitely not alone. I get phases like this too, though masturbation at work is not something I'd ever do...I usually just wait until I get home. But it can be extremely hard to focus when I'm feeling like that. Nothing wrong with having a health sexual appetite - I've known women who simply CAN'T get aroused no matter what they do, and it's made their lives miserable and put huge strains on their relationships.

As long as these urges don't interfere with your regular life or make you engage in a lot of risky behavior, I'd say you're fine - and by all means embrace the sensuality within!

For me, I think it's related to hormones bescause it always seems to happen at certain times of the month. Since I'm in a long-distance relationship, I can't always have sex when I really want to (though I get to see my man in a week - YAY!), so I tend to masturbate on a daily basis...usually before bed. Oddly enough, it helps me fall asleep!

[Texinator]

Oddly enough, it helps me fall asleep!

Good for you. With me it has the tendency to keep me 'up' and make me want sloppy seconds.