[C]

I could easily handle that.. and to be quite brutally honest, that is what i want. Im not sure how he's react.

Thus, posing another question; would it be 'okay' (and i use okay in flippant way) if i went ahead and fulfilled that night of passion and then walked away? As he says thats what he wants....should i lay down ground rules before, such as this is going to be it, nothing else.

But how can you do this when you body weeps for more filling...When you lay in bed thinking of how wonderful he felt inside you...When all those touches make you moan...When the sexual part of you that is so awake wants more...How do you make nothing out of something....The hot joining of two people in passion that says just once will never come...You have both been brought alive......

Maybe I am talking about me long ago...A married man that used to wake me up...Stirred me to my very soul...Made me open up to him and show him all that I was as a woman....Made me love all the wonderful feelings that he gave me....How do you say good bye when you body wants that licking again and the sucking of your nipple's.....I can tell you one thing....It haunted me for a long time....But he did teach me a special part of life that I was to learn.....No regrets.....

But thinking now I could and should have been caught....He was another woman's man and it was just the pure sex that I wanted.....Sounds sick but that is the way it was.....And my friend, I was engaged....

But may I add, it just about ruined my marriage.....

[miffed23]

Yes, that is definitely one way of handling it. Guys tend to like it when a woman says, "Yes, but here are the terms." It's the "Yes" that matters.

In general, men cheat for the sense of conquest. One night of sweet conquest can last in a guy's heart for a long time. It may even give him what he needs to go back and patch up his marriage.

Or... it may not work out like that at all and the whole thing will turn into a disaster. There is no way to know what's inside Pandora's Box until you open it.

That is what im worried about...opening Pandoras Box and him continuing to contact me afterwards. If i knew for definite that, that night would be it - then all would be okay. (again flippant use of okay)

Im assuming then, that it is a bad thing if he is opening up to me, sharing life stories with me etc? Oh, and thank god, there aren't any children involved. That would certainly be a no go area for me, hmmm, even though im willing to hurt his wife i really am a bad person.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thank you for your (always) super advice hon. I can truthfully say though that i know what mess ive got myself into and i really really dont think ill feel used. That sounds bad i know, because i am being used to satisify his desires...but at the same time, he is satisfying mine, i am indeed using him.

I need to walk... just need to find an easy way

Yeah well you know i have a "she devil" inside of me..... And, trust me i have had some wicked excitement in my life..

I totally understand the one night thing, "I'm using him as well".... Except as Richard's last lined reply, you don't know what will happen after with "Pandoras Box" what you are opening.

Personally? You'll find a second excuse, this time there is a spa bath and well, she's away, so he can sleep next to you and maybe even a plane ride involved.. Why not? I can do this again and walk.

And you know the rest...........

It's also difficult to think of the "wife" because your too excited about the "event", i know that one trust me, spoke to mine last night, "sort of" and it's all i see in front of me, but there is no wife.....

If she found out and approached you, in tears, devestated, told you they were actually so happy had sex 5 times a week, now look what you've done, you would at that point feel used, because any times we catch someone "lying" to us, it hurts regardless....

I agree with "sharing a moment" but the hunger of a married man not getting it, if that's the case, aint going to stop "getting on your case", the calls, texts will go 10 fold ( 7 months?), be real there ...

Your logic would have worked if you met him, did it, walked and never saw him again, if you really think about it....

HISTORY - does'nt afford you to "use" and walk - you will create history, 3 more months , 3 years, broken heart, yep, you will fall, hook line and sinker....

Alone at night, pining and waiting for him...... Knowing he's with her but he's not sleeping with her right?

Want a reason to walk? 7 months..... can it be done?

Go and pick some gorgeous guy up and have your way for one night, tell him a different name, and have fun, ( protected ) not the same but close.........

CW

[miffed23]

[quote=CarolineWH;35229]But thinking now I could and should have been caught....He was another woman's man and it was just the pure sex that I wanted.....Sounds sick but that is the way it was.....And my friend, I was engaged....quote]

Youve just sumed up my 'exact' feelings and therefore it doesnt sound sick at all hon. It is just the sex im after, he makes me feel wonderful, i 'crave' him, i crave for him to touch me. Im more disappointed that he doesnt just feel this raw passion and lust, he appears to want more.... how does this happen? Why would he not just want the lust factor??

[Little]

You're obviously willing to hurt his wife ... that doesn't make you a bad person, per se, but a person thinking of doing something that could possibly destroy the life of a woman you've never met.
He says he's unhappy in his marriage? What if his wife is one of those crazy women? You may have more on your hands than a horny Mr. Robinson. Could be that Mrs. Robinson is a real cuckoo and will come after you the minute the truth comes out.
Restraining orders can only help you when the police are right there to enforce it.
If you go to bed with this man, or even contact him anymore, you are DELIBERATELY putting the knife in the back of his wife. Maybe she's a sweet lady, maybe she's that *****y woman who's always mean to the waiter at restaurants ... but how does that give you the right to take a sledgehammer to her marriage?
This man is absolutely, positively no good.

[C]

Go and pick some gorgeous guy up and have your way for one night, tell him a different name, and have fun, ( protected ) not the same but close.........

CW

CW: Just any man does not do....When you are in sexual hunger for a person, your body reacts to just a touch or a look...A stranger means nothing to you sexually...He can be a turn off...I could not go to bed with a stranger....He would have to know a special part of me to make love to me....

I believe that this woman is reacting to her sexual needs...The needs that make you bring your legs together with the passion that you feel inside for a person just thinking of him. The hunger of feeling his hands on her....He is just not any man, he is a sexual want....Maybe this is just me with the high passion that I have for life and love but the movements of hunger with wanting someone cannot be fulfilled with just "any guy"....It is a special feeling that is manufactured in your mind and spreads throughout your body and finally settles in that one special place....Your sexual self.....

Just my thoughts...C

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey miffed23,

You never did reply on your other thread, why you think his wife is not nice, and that he is un-happy? And i recall he gave you a lenghty massage, so your body is dying to be touched frankly, i know the lust and crave thing....

What do you mean that he doesn't fee the "raw passion and lust" and wants more?

I mean you are telling him you just want to "use" him for one night and he's agreeing with the one night bit, but then you want him to have passion and lust after you? Then that means one night in Paris that turns to several at Hilton!!!!

Lusting after someone is constantly thinking of them, desiring them, wanting them which is not one night...

You know i'm confused now...

haha.

CW

[C]

[quote=miffed23;35232]

But thinking now I could and should have been caught....He was another woman's man and it was just the pure sex that I wanted.....Sounds sick but that is the way it was.....And my friend, I was engaged....quote]

Youve just sumed up my 'exact' feelings and therefore it doesnt sound sick at all hon. It is just the sex im after, he makes me feel wonderful, i 'crave' him, i crave for him to touch me. Im more disappointed that he doesnt just feel this raw passion and lust, he appears to want more.... how does this happen? Why would he not just want the lust factor??

Because we women are the most lust filled creatures alive...He is looking for a fix....You are looking for filling and being awaken...Your body is hungry sexually...More hungry than you know....You could be putty in his hands and get hurt and hurt him and his family....You have to be strong...Honey, I know the height of passion but find someone else to give it to...It is so hard for you because I know where you are....My best advice to you is to masturbate...Give it to yourself....Do it as often as you need it....Relieve that hunger that you feel inside and try and find another lover....One that is free....You are just all wonderful woman with much to give to the right man....But don't get hurt nor hurt another innocent woman along the line.....Much Love, Caroline

[CHANDLERS WISH]

CW: Just any man does not do....When you are in sexual hunger for a person, your body reacts to just a touch or a look...A stranger means nothing to you sexually...He can be a turn off...I could not go to bed with a stranger....He would have to know a special part of me to make love to me....

I believe that this woman is reacting to her sexual needs...The needs that make you bring your legs together with the passion that you feel inside for a person just thinking of him. The hunger of feeling his hands on her....He is just not any man, he is a sexual want....Maybe this is just me with the high passion that I have for life and love but the movements of hunger with wanting someone cannot be fulfilled with just "any guy"....It is a special feeling that is manufactured in your mind and spreads throughout your body and finally settles in that one special place....Your sexual self.....

Just my thoughts...C

Little, C , CW we posted at the same time.

C are you saying that it is okay for miffed23 to sleep with your husband? "He is not any guy".....

He has been lurking around for 7 months building her desire terribly, his wife is a "*****" according to him, not easy to leave, and he is un-happy but agrees with one night no problem, having massaged her whole body the last time i replied to a thread of hers and they couldn't get a hotel room, because of the wife:- "OOOPPPPS" bad suggestion of mine on that thread miffed23, obviously you mentioned that and he found a way, now how is that?

CW

[miffed23]

CW: Just any man does not do....When you are in sexual hunger for a person, your body reacts to just a touch or a look...A stranger means nothing to you sexually...He can be a turn off...I could not go to bed with a stranger....He would have to know a special part of me to make love to me....

I believe that this woman is reacting to her sexual needs...The needs that make you bring your legs together with the passion that you feel inside for a person just thinking of him. The hunger of feeling his hands on her....He is just not any man, he is a sexual want....Maybe this is just me with the high passion that I have for life and love but the movements of hunger with wanting someone cannot be fulfilled with just "any guy"....It is a special feeling that is manufactured in your mind and spreads throughout your body and finally settles in that one special place....Your sexual self.....

Just my thoughts...C

Again, spot on. I appreciate CW's advice (greatly)...but im relating more to Caroline. Im guessing thats just down to the person i am.

Little - i know he is absolutely no good, but i just need to get it out of my system, so to speak. Im just as bad as him, minus the marriage.

So, question now being....i go ahead, have this passion and quite honestly walk away...he continues to want more....what next??