[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sorry but i do not entirely agree. I really dont have low self-esteem. At all. I liked him before i knew he was married and as soon as i did find this out, i backed off entirely and was more than willing to let things stop and wouldnt have felt upset or hurt at all.

If he keeps insisting then he will have to show me the divorce papers before i speak to him again

I still feel incredibly strong about ending it all, after a good nights sleep i totally understand that its the best thing to do...i'll have to keep you posted!

Hey Miffed23, i just read your answer here and i must say, i am really proud of you that you feel really strong and woke up "incredibly strong" about ending it (before it begins) and your understanding of it all... that's a tough AND smart woman.....

Definately keep us posted.

It is understandable that when you met him and for quite a while you didn't know that he was married and good for you to work the rest out is all i have to say...

So, don't wake up tomorrow thinking different.... lol...

CW.

[miffed23]

I don't want to be ugly about this but......I think you are fooling yourself if you think he's serious about you. Sure, he may come running when you snap your fingers but for how long? Only until he sleeps with you. He's probably attentive and sweet. Why? Because he's trying to sleep with you. Someday you will be the wife and you will worry about your husband and what he's doing when he's away from you. He'll be telling some other woman what a horrible wife you are and how unhappy he is and when he comes home to you he's all lovey dovey and can't get enough of you. Snap out if it and realize he's never going to leave his wife for you and if he does you deserve him!! Sorry but I think it's disgusting to sleep with a married man. I am really not trying to be mean but I just think it's so wrong because more than likely he's got children and I can tell you from experience (thanks to my dad's mistress) that the children suffer more that you will ever know. But if you don't care that he has a wife then you probably don't care that it could hurt his kids.

Thank you for your input macybelle, i dont think youve read the entire post though or you wouldnt tell me to 'snap out of it and realise hes never going to leave his wife' - i know this, its crystal clear. I also havent slept with him because he is married and i do not intend to in the slightest. He definitely doesnt have children as well.

So, before you jugde me - a person sat in front of a computer that youve never met - please read the whole thread. I dont mean that to sounds nasty, and i really do appreciate your views as its clarified more that to sleep with him would be a terrible mistake.

TC, Miffed.

[macybelle]

That's good to hear.