[miffed23]

We are all posting at the same time

CW - he has told me often, that he is unhappy and has even said that he will leave her...obviously i dont believe this (the leaving her part). His wife is apparently very difficult - such as stopping him doing things- going to the gym for example. He has said that she has hit him on numerous occassions and that he finds it difficult to leave her due to this.

The thing is, i dont want him to leave her particularly. If he does, i dont want to be the reason why he does. As awful as it sounds, i just want the 'lust factor', i dont want him to become emotionally involved.

If things continue, i know he will become too emotionally involved and i can not handle that.

Thank you all for your advice.

[C]

Little, C , CW we posted at the same time.

C are you saying that it is okay for miffed23 to sleep with your husband? "He is not any guy".....

He has been lurking around for 7 months building her desire terribly, his wife is a "*****" according to him, not easy to leave, and he is un-happy but agrees with one night no problem, having massaged her whole body the last time i replied to a thread of hers and they couldn't get a hotel room, because of the wife:- "OOOPPPPS" bad suggestion of mine on that thread miffed23, obviously you mentioned that and he found a way, now how is that?

CW

No, I am saying that I understand her inner feelings as a woman and just the thought of going out on the night with a gorgeous man does nothing for her....It is what has brought her alive that she wants...I am telling her to stay away or she will fall into the peril of many women and could ruin a marriage...I am telling her to fill her own needs and masturbate and go to another place in her mind and look around...This affair between them has been going on to awaken this women to her soul...She is a lot of sexual woman and cannot deny this but help herself and do not be putty in her hands....

Long ago I was in this position as I started to awaken as a woman...It is a terrible problem to have your sexual parts so alive and need filling...She has been awaken like so many women are....She is not wrong for being a woman, he is wrong for not staying within his marriage vows...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Miffed23 Ive a feeling if things keep continuing as they are (hes booking a night away next week) then i am going to fall for him and things will become very difficult. Hun, look at that above line you wrote initially........ Because all the passion, lust, desire, hunger is going to lead you to fall in love with him, forget about if you think he'll fall for you. You are in total lust, passion now.... And i know all about it, and hey, i may walk out of three days and do what Richard has said, " the emotions of two hearts that have understanding " and what a special moment in my heart that will leave me for ever. So, you are not wanting one night, and as C speaks you can feel all those passionate moments building up, the desire, so that's where you are at,and that's where you will be at as you continue to lust after him day after day until this meet... And, then lust even more as your bodies become one that night, over and over again.... There is no one night, that's all, because 7 months together well you already have emotions, this will just cement it for you. What happens from there who knows. Your mind is on the passion, sex, lust and not the wife, him falling for you, one night..... I'll read your thread in 3 months time, "help i'm the mistress" and i've fallen badly in love and i'm hurting so bad and......... But that's okay, i'll talk again to you then...... We always hate the advice we know that we don't want I'm not offended. Can't teach someone what they already know, nor change someone's mind when they've already made it. You appreciate i can't say , have fun Although i want to.... CW

[miffed23]

Miffed23 Hun, look at that above line you wrote initially........ Because all the passion, lust, desire, hunger is going to lead you to fall in love with him, forget about if you think he'll fall for you. You are in total lust, passion now.... And i know all about it, and hey, i may walk out of three days and do what Richard has said, " the emotions of two hearts that have understanding " and what a special moment in my heart that will leave me for ever. So, you are not wanting one night, and as C speaks you can feel all those passionate moments building up, the desire, so that's where you are at,and that's where you will be at as you continue to lust after him day after day until this meet... And, then lust even more as your bodies become one that night, over and over again.... There is no one night, that's all, because 7 months together well you already have emotions, this will just cement it for you. What happens from there who knows. Your mind is on the passion, sex, lust and not the wife, him falling for you, one night..... I'll read your thread in 3 months time, "help i'm the mistress" and i've fallen badly in love and i'm hurting so bad and......... But that's okay, i'll talk again to you then...... We always hate the advice we know that we don't want I'm not offended. Can't teach someone what they already know, nor change someone's mind when they've already made it. You appreciate i can't say , have fun Although i want to.... CW

Hon, thank you. It is the kick in the butt i need. Youre absolutely right, that i wont be one night...i didnt look at it this way.

Im going to end things tomorrow and keep you updated, along with the news on my new, super sexy man that im on the hunt for tomorrow onwards

[CHANDLERS WISH]

First things first:

Caroline:

Because we women are the most lust filled creatures alive...He is looking for a fix....You are looking for filling and being awaken...Your body is hungry sexually...More hungry than you know....You could be putty in his hands and get hurt and hurt him and his family....You have to be strong...Honey, I know the height of passion but find someone else to give it to...It is so hard for you because I know where you are....My best advice to you is to masturbate...Give it to yourself....Do it as often as you need it....Relieve that hunger that you feel inside and try and find another lover....One that is free....You are just all wonderful woman with much to give to the right man....But don't get hurt nor hurt another innocent woman along the line.....Much Love, Caroline

Caroline we all posted at the same time, so i didn't read the above only your reply to mine so i apologise there, it happens.

Miffed23
Hon, thank you. It is the kick in the butt i need. Youre absolutely right, that i wont be one night...i didnt look at it this way.

Im going to end things tomorrow and keep you updated, along with the news on my new, super sexy man that im on the hunt for tomorrow onwards

MIffed23, you know we all posted at the same time, we are all different ages, all with knowledge of what you spoke and all trying to say the same thing in different contents.

The main thing is i look forward to reading about the sexy super new man that you will right about with all of that passion you have... Rather than the other one.....

CW

[Little]

Miffed23, the bottom line is that women who have relations with other womens' men have low self esteem. I know because I've been there and because I've been on this board for more than a year reading about other women who are the mistress and just don't have the strength to tear away from that other woman's man.
Because they think, "I'm prettier than ______. I wonder if I can get her man to have sex with me? Kiss me? Chase me around for a month?"
It's going to take more than a rash stated decision in a thread to end this. If he's as insisting as you have made out, it's going to be a long process and your self esteem bracket is going to keep ringing like a carnival strength test. Don't let that trick you.
The fact that you want to walk away now means you're strong; don't lose that. Jump on that wagon of strength and ride away.
If he completely lets you go immediately, though, that can really hurt ... don't let it make you crawl back to him a desperate woman.
Go out there and live your life for you ... I guarantee, it's the ONLY way.

[Hystorm]

Miff....Your Freeking Crazy!!!

Don't you know a man will say ANYTHING to get into a womans pants!
I mean anything! I'll be willing to bet his wife is actually a total sweet heart and hes the ****! Once he has conqured you, he will be onto someone else!

If you absolutly, must sleep with him then do this...Get a small video camera, like a FLIP VIDEO cam, they run about $120. Hide it in the room, like when he goes into the bathroom or something, and film the whole thing! Not for kicks, but to have as leverage in case he indeed turns out to be a dirt bag. That way you can hold it over him to make him go away or whatever. In these kind of situations, never give him the power over you.

This is coming from a guy! I have never nor will I ever cheat on my wife but I know plenty of guys that do and they are all freeking ****s!

Course, thats just my 2 cents!

[miffed23]

Miffed23, the bottom line is that women who have relations with other womens' men have low self esteem. I know because I've been there and because I've been on this board for more than a year reading about other women who are the mistress and just don't have the strength to tear away from that other woman's man.
Because they think, "I'm prettier than ______. I wonder if I can get her man to have sex with me? Kiss me? Chase me around for a month?"
It's going to take more than a rash stated decision in a thread to end this. If he's as insisting as you have made out, it's going to be a long process and your self esteem bracket is going to keep ringing like a carnival strength test. Don't let that trick you.
The fact that you want to walk away now means you're strong; don't lose that. Jump on that wagon of strength and ride away.
If he completely lets you go immediately, though, that can really hurt ... don't let it make you crawl back to him a desperate woman.
Go out there and live your life for you ... I guarantee, it's the ONLY way.

Sorry but i do not entirely agree. I really dont have low self-esteem. At all. I liked him before i knew he was married and as soon as i did find this out, i backed off entirely and was more than willing to let things stop and wouldnt have felt upset or hurt at all.

If he keeps insisting then he will have to show me the divorce papers before i speak to him again

I still feel incredibly strong about ending it all, after a good nights sleep i totally understand that its the best thing to do...i'll have to keep you posted!

[miffed23]

Miff....Your Freeking Crazy!!!

Don't you know a man will say ANYTHING to get into a womans pants!
I mean anything! I'll be willing to bet his wife is actually a total sweet heart and hes the ****! Once he has conqured you, he will be onto someone else!

If you absolutly, must sleep with him then do this...Get a small video camera, like a FLIP VIDEO cam, they run about $120. Hide it in the room, like when he goes into the bathroom or something, and film the whole thing! Not for kicks, but to have as leverage in case he indeed turns out to be a dirt bag. That way you can hold it over him to make him go away or whatever. In these kind of situations, never give him the power over you.

This is coming from a guy! I have never nor will I ever cheat on my wife but I know plenty of guys that do and they are all freeking ****s!

Course, thats just my 2 cents!

Thank you for your advice, it made me chuckle! Yup,i know he will say anything - ive even told him that. Reading back through the thread it does sound like i am totally naive but all the advice that everyone has posted has opened my eyes and kicked me up the butt!

I dont believe he has any power over me, if anything its the other way round, i could clikc my fingers and he'd come running...which obviously shows how much of an *** he is.

Its nice to know there are faithful men around Hystorm.

[macybelle]

I don't want to be ugly about this but......I think you are fooling yourself if you think he's serious about you. Sure, he may come running when you snap your fingers but for how long? Only until he sleeps with you. He's probably attentive and sweet. Why? Because he's trying to sleep with you. Someday you will be the wife and you will worry about your husband and what he's doing when he's away from you. He'll be telling some other woman what a horrible wife you are and how unhappy he is and when he comes home to you he's all lovey dovey and can't get enough of you. Snap out if it and realize he's never going to leave his wife for you and if he does you deserve him!! Sorry but I think it's disgusting to sleep with a married man. I am really not trying to be mean but I just think it's so wrong because more than likely he's got children and I can tell you from experience (thanks to my dad's mistress) that the children suffer more that you will ever know. But if you don't care that he has a wife then you probably don't care that it could hurt his kids.