[atskitty2]

Sp, I thought of that too, but I really think he'd have shared that important info, seems to me she would have told us too...
I could be wrong but on the rare occasion a (known) married man has offered himself up, he's volunteered their open status to help me feel at ease that I wasn't contributing to his cheating.

[Claret]

For each and every barrier that we've pointed out to you, you have come back with justifications and reasons why you should continue having an affair with this married man. I need to ask what was your purpose of posting this for then? If you're happy with the way things are, carry on - we don't need to hear the details. If you were honestly asking for our advise (which we all have provided) as a tool to figure out what to do, then don't discount everything that is being said.
I think Jen is right on the mark with her remarks. FWIW Jen they didn't come across as snarky at all.
Millner, I just urge you to consider this guys wife and children. No matter how good or how bad their marriage may be you have no right to make it worse. There are kids here at the bottom of it for both you and him. Give them the consideration that they deserve.
There are plenty of single men that would love to be in a relationship with you. Why select the married one?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Let's try it this way then

not sure but I think I will get bored and leave because things aren't changing

So you are using him then. Yet, there is a wife at home.

I would prefer he didn't however, he is married after all and I have no say in that.... :/

If he is already sleeping with his wife, and he's sleeping with you, he's slept with others or if not, he certainly will. If he means nothing to you, why would you prefer that he didn't sleep with someone else at the same time as you? He already is. His wife.

possibly because right now I don't have feelings for him (though he keeps telling me they are bound to happen. I just keep reminding myself that it's lust. He knows and has told you, not because he is a man but because he's done this before. Lust turns into a form of love, you know that, every relationship turns out from lust to emotions.

30min later he posts a pic of him and his wife after they arrived at the location.

1) He's reminding you he is married, 2) he's reminding you he is happy, 3) He's got no heart. One day in the future you will continue to look at the photo in anger, jealousy. Whilst his intention is to continually remind you he is married you are never going to have him.

where is his wife during this time? no clue because we have talked for hours online and through texts

Cleaning, looking after the kids, bathing them, taking her own space. See how you are now questioning where she is? Soon he will tell you he hardly ever sleeps with her, she never gives him much time, everything to make you feel sorry for him and some form of comfort that maybe you can actually have him after all later. The seduction game of a married man.

I'm sorry and I don't know what to say but that she should have a long extensive heart to heart with him about all this because that is where she will find her closure and such

You're putting this all back on him. It's his fault. Or he can explain. You're just in it for the ride, innocent, it's just sex. Hun sorry won't cut it for her, more than likely he'd tell her that you came on to him, kept texting him, in the end, it just happened now he can't get rid of you, he's sorry, he doesn't know what he was thinking, you are a stalker blah blah.

I said this because I would prefer being with someone who is 100% available so if someone comes along that is, why shouldn't I pursue it with them? I just don't know what the future holds or doesn't hold between the two of us. I have heard of different stories on both ends of the spectrum so that's where the confusion lies

And, I can again tell you but you don't want to hear. 1 only 1 out of hundreds read anywhere, google, ends up with the married man because, his marriage was already broken to such an extent and he was ready. This guy is NOT ready He is enjoying himself. He has told you, you will fall for him, that will also be his aim, why not? The more sex he gets when he travels, the more you fall the more sexual you will become so the more he gets that he's not getting, he's already sent you a photo to remind you, this is my wife, I'm not going anywhere.

The confliction is that yes, some married men who's marriages were so broken did seek comfort and did allow an affair, but that husband left the wife very shortly after it started and those two new couple then continued into a relationship.

Don't be a statistic this guy is happy he sent you a photo, he told you, you will get emotional about him, he lives in a different state, you will not look or allow someone else into your heart, he will have it.

You are enjoying the excitement, lust, sex, adventure. IT does too exist in a normal single to single relationship.

Please think hard now.

[Millner]

He didn't send ME a photo lol I'll post more later when I'm not on my phone and I answered the questions that were given. I answered them honestly what else did you expect

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ya snooping then on face-book? Oh oh, tracking his moves. Oh oh... Emotions ...

[Millner]

Ya snooping then on face-book? Oh oh, tracking his moves. Oh oh... Emotions ...

No, actually it came up on my newsfeed when I was on Facebook :-P

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He's be-friended you on face-book and then put a photo of him and his wife on there within 30 minutes of being at the function.

IDK love.

If you do become emotionally involved, you are going to keep going back to that photo over and over and over again.

If I was a "married man" and I was seeing someone? I'd at least have some decency especially given he has "told you" you will get emotionally attached.

Then he allows you to see these things you know?

Wish I could honestly talk you out of going further, I honestly feel you will set yourself up for a heart ache ..

But, then. We'll be here then as well.

[Millner]

I befriended him days ago lol not the other way around. And since it's face book there will be pictures.....I thought that was just reality

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I don't mean to be rude but I'll cut out of this for now.

I don't think it matters who be-friended who, he's playing with fire, you are playing with fire. You be-friended a married man that you are having an affair with and so, you will be able to now see all that is going on from his end, as he sees fit to post. I know how these things go, been here to long and you are not asking for help rather just in my opinion, excited about what you have ventured into and defending

I just as I stated, know you will get hurt and that we will be here.

Best wishes.

[Millner]

I don't mean to be rude but I'll cut out of this for now.

I don't think it matters who be-friended who, he's playing with fire, you are playing with fire. You be-friended a married man that you are having an affair with and so, you will be able to now see all that is going on from his end, as he sees fit to post. I know how these things go, been here to long and you are not asking for help rather just in my opinion, excited about what you have ventured into and defending

I just as I stated, know you will get hurt and that we will be here.

Best wishes.

I get you. I know what you are saying....believe me. It just bugs me when people assume things when I haven't said it lol sorry. I feel it can also skew views on things.