[atskitty2]

Well, you're on an adventure huh, WR?

I recently told one of the men I'm talking to that I'd rather just be friends. I enjoy his company and he seems like a good person, there's just no attraction there for me. The physical is just not there.

He said he understands, then asked if we could cuddle occasionally. I asked if he meant fwb, and he said no. I told him that cuddling isn't something I typically do with "friends". He continued to make a case, and I just had to tell him that is complicated and not within my personal preference to behave that way...out of bounds for me. He continues contact and I interact minimally.
I have male friends that I don't cuddle or snuggle and I don't care to change that.

Friendship is hard too!

[atskitty2]

Well, you're on an adventure huh, WR?

I recently told one of the men I'm talking to that I'd rather just be friends. I enjoy his company and he seems like a good person, there's just no attraction there for me. The physical is just not there.

He said he understands, then asked if we could cuddle occasionally. I asked if he meant fwb, and he said no. I told him that cuddling isn't something I typically do with "friends". He continued to make a case, and I just had to tell him that is complicated and not within my personal preference to behave that way...out of bounds for me. He continues contact and I interact minimally.
I have male friends that I don't cuddle or snuggle and I don't care to change that.

Friendship is hard too!

[Popcorn&Candy]

You're obviously attracted to the gym woman much more than your current partner. I think you'd be wise to change partners. Don't worry too much about the sex part: gym woman will be very happy with you - and happy to sleep with you - I am sure. You've got to follow your heart, as corny as that sounds. I wouldn't stay in a relationship because of the sex: I would go with someone I had an emotional attachment with. Not a physical attraction alone. Go with the love: not the action in the bedsheets.

[WaveRider]

Hi Popcorn&Candy,

I've agreed with everything you've written, except I ain't in love with gym girl. I'm not sure how I feel about her. She has a very good body. A couple weeks ago, she made sure that I saw a lot of it through Spandex.

Sex alone will never sustain a relationship. Sex will get a man. Sex alone will never keep a man.

I have remained true to my commitment of seeing no one until I have it figured out.

[WaveRider]

My g/f is depressed, which I had not intended. I don't want her to be depressed. She thinks I'm seeing another woman. I've assured her that I merely need alone time to think. I'm not sure what she believes.

[amy40]

My g/f is depressed, which I had not intended.

how do you know?
have you seen her or just talked/texted

[atskitty2]

You're not responsible for her depression or her feelings, or what she believes, as long as you're being honest. I'm sure you realise that, but just to remind you.

If you decide to leave her behind, she's going to feel even lower, most likely. Don't be too influenced by her mood. You ultimately have to do what's best for yourself.

[jns]

My g/f is depressed, which I had not intended. I don't want her to be depressed. She thinks I'm seeing another woman. I've assured her that I merely need alone time to think. I'm not sure what she believes.

Sex causes a release of chemical in the body. The depression is probably caused partially by her not getting those chemicals and having withdrawal symptoms.

[WaveRider]

how do you know?
have you seen her or just talked/texted

Telephonic conversation.

[WaveRider]

Sex causes a release of chemical in the body. The depression is probably caused partially by her not getting those chemicals and having withdrawal symptoms.

You're probably right. When she's in a bad mood, a porn star sex session changes her personality from hostile to very sweet.

I have thought that her youthful promiscuity was probably prompted by her desire for the euphoric sensation she gets from sex. She told me, many times, that she thinks she's addicted to sex. I also think that her ego was boosted by watching dudes' reactions to her naked body. She has told me more than once that she learned as a teenager of the power her naked body has over dudes. She told me that one of her college boyfriends would almost cum as soon as she got naked.

But I haven't seen her closing in on a month.