[jns]

I also would much rather prefer to penetrate a woman than receive. I just don't understand how I can turn into a normal heterosexual woman that likes to receive. I get more turned on by being the giver, and that includes having sex with a woman with a strap on.

Any man who abuses a child into having her give him oral sex is not much of a man, IMO. That goes double for one under his protection.

I think you like to be the one penetrating because it gives you the feeling that you are in control. From your situation as a youth and not being in control, that is quite understandable. I don't remember if you have done any games where he is handcuffed or tied to the bed and you get to do what you want to him. Have you? Is it something you like?

[Magnetism]

The male partners I've had don't like handcuffs. It makes them feel too vulnerable.


Another reason why I choose to keep in contact with my family is guilt. I don't want to be the bad daughter that lets her parents rot. Given the way how things are going now, no-contact may be an option in the future. I'm just not ready to completely cut ties, but I do feel relieved that my mom hasn't contacted me at all. I hope that doesn't sound messed up. The reason why my mom stays with him is for money. She makes very little money herself, so she doesn't know how to live without him. If she had her way, I also would still be living with them and dependent on his money. I sometimes feel embarrassed that it took me so long to move out of my parents' home at age 25.

[Stillness]

I do wonder if my step-dad turned to me, because he wasn't happy with my mom.

He used you because he was an abuser. He spoke the words of a pedophile. Maybe there was some truth to them. Maybe there was none. I would give his words as much credence as: "Help me find my puppy." "You're special." "I'll kill your parents." They say anything. You've been on here longer than I have so you know that some people can have a mate that would do anything to please them and they still won't be satisfied, whereas some people will have a selfish mate but will be loyal for life.

If you are the kind of person who would not take advantage of your child sexually and scar them for life, it's a complete waste of mental and emotional energy trying to figure out why someone does. Abusers abuse.

[Magnetism]

that's true, stillness. i apologize for insinuating that someone can do something to cause another to abuse. i'm well aware that a person can cheat or stray despite how good their mate is.

[Stillness]

You don't need to apologize. Good people have been trying to reason on evil since the dawn of time. To me that's a good sign. The problem is that there is always a reason, but it's never a satisfying one or one that makes sense to normal people.

[Magnetism]

Is it true that when a man ejaculates you, it's good for your skin and health? This is what my mom is saying to get me to prefer men.

Also, how common is pain during intercourse, especially when you're not aroused? I read these people having sex on the first date, and I don't know how they do it. I'm a bit envious b/c I can't have intercourse that easily.

[Little]

The only way I can think that it's good for your skin/health is that pregnant women have nice skin (hormones) and look healthy. I call old wives' tale.

Sex without pain was a learned thing in my case - something that I struggled with at length. If my husband were a less caring man, I'd probably still be struggling with it, because it still happens. I still get sore, some times more quickly than other times. Start-and-stop is a fact of life when we have sex. Penetration is also a gradual game for us - even when I am hot and ready, he can't just push it all in and get to thrusting.
These are the kind of details you can share with a continued partner, even if your relationship is casual.

[Stillness]

I call old wives' tale.

It sounds more like an old husbands' tale. "I got some medicine for you, baby."

But, it is true!...At least according to some recent studies. Semen elevates mood, has anti-depressant properties, helps women perform better on tests, and get better sleep. It sounds so made up as I'm writing it, but google "semen good for women's health."

[Magnetism]

It sounds more like an old husbands' tale. "I got some medicine for you, baby."

But, it is true!...At least according to some recent studies. Semen elevates mood, has anti-depressant properties, helps women perform better on tests, and get better sleep. It sounds so made up as I'm writing it, but google "semen good for women's health."

Ha, I was trying to find studies on how semen on your face helps you..out of curiosity. I can vouch that I do feel happy and relaxed when it's done on my face, but my eye sometimes gets red.

What my mom meant was "ejaculating inside you" helps your skin.

[Magnetism]

It sounds more like an old husbands' tale. "I got some medicine for you, baby."

But, it is true!...At least according to some recent studies. Semen elevates mood, has anti-depressant properties, helps women perform better on tests, and get better sleep. It sounds so made up as I'm writing it, but google "semen good for women's health."

Ha, I was trying to find studies on how semen on your face helps you..out of curiosity. I can vouch that I do feel happy and relaxed when it's done on my face, but my eye sometimes gets red.

What my mom meant was "ejaculating inside you" helps your skin.