[Texinator]

Sexual compatibility is a huge factor that drives the marriages or civil partnerships forward or back. Education is a must.

Yep, and I think teaching the importance of communication should be a huge component of that education. How many people are sexually incompatible not really cause their natural drives are dissimilar but because they can't/won't tell each other what they like? Sex should be about SHARING intimacy and pleasure, not about everyone just trying to 'get theirs'. It's only natural then for the person that finds the sex to be less than fulfilling to be less interested in sex as well. If it's not fun, why do it, they think?

Communication is especially important because men and women often have different ideas of what's arousing and pleasing. For example he might be happy enough hammering away for a few minutes but that's probably not going to make her happy. And he probably won't get it unless they communicate. And then she ends up not liking sex and he ends up frustrated, and they're the stereotypical oversexed husband and cold wife.

One unfortunate obstacle to this is the mentality that men that like sex are men and women that like sex are ****s. Of course communication is going to be more difficult if she is afraid to communicate an interest in sex in the first place out of fear of coming across as immoral. Then there is also the belief that men should be happy enough with the physical aspect, and they might then be afraid to communicate what their emotional needs are out of fear of coming across as weak.

[WildChild]

Agreed. Some people make communicating about sex difficult or touchy. They get defensive or simply tune out. This can make resolving problems really difficult

[caterpillar79]

....One unfortunate obstacle to this is the mentality that men that like sex are men and women that like sex are ****s....

You mentioned plenty of stereotypes which all have truthful basis, but this one struck me the most!

Women are deemed and branded ****s if they do such, and how about men?

When I was in college, I was surprised to be told that there are also male prostitutes.

[WildChild]

Isn't it interesting though that we have no specific terms for male prostitutes or those who are sexually "loose"?

[Texinator]

Shows how uneven the playing field is. Why should women feel ashamed of liking sex? Why does that make them ****s? I don't get it.

[Mes T]

I've heard the term "man-wh*re" quite often. But the same for a woman would just be "wh*re," not even "woman-wh*re." Boo.

Shows how uneven the playing field is. Why should women feel ashamed of liking sex? Why does that make them ****s? I don't get it.

Yep! Absolutely ridiculous and pointless, but here's to stayin' positive and waiting for people who still have that mentality to gently die out. Yay!

[Texinator]

Just tell them you love a fantastic orgasm. That'll make their heads explode.

[caterpillar79]

Which head, Tex?

[Texinator]

Big one. I don't think guys that think like that can get much use out of the little one.

[StillLearnin]

Isn't it interesting though that we have no specific terms for male prostitutes or those who are sexually "loose"?

There are a few other terms, but they aren't used very much.

satyriasis - n. Excessive, often uncontrollable sexual desire in and behavior by a man

or

Don Juan - used synonymously for "womanizer", especially in Spanish slang, and the term Don Juanism is sometimes used as a synonym for satyriasis.

I personally prefer to be called a "man !" I realize that I don't get paid for my services. Not in cash anyway.